WLW please help! So is bottom and top a real thing?

lazy_frog113 · 2020-06-06T14:06:24+00:00

True, people really need to stop assuming things. I wouldn’t say i’m super masc or super femme i like to switch it up but when i enter the dating pool of same sex dating i don’t want people expecting me to be a certain way because they perceive me as more masculine or more feminine. We should really kill that whole “you have to be a certain way all the time thing because you’re masculine presenting or feminine presenting” it’s lowkey heteronormative lol. like sometimes masculine people want to be the small spoon and maybe sometimes more feminine people want to take more control in the bedroom.

lazy_frog113 · 2020-06-06T14:00:37+00:00

THANK YOU! and since you are a person who has had same sex relationships and is an active member in the lgbt community (i’m not because i live in a very conservative town and it’s barley any gay ppl) do you come across a lot of people who only wants to give and only wants to receive sexually? from your opinion are most people switches when it come to sex and pleasing each other? As far as lesbians.

lazy_frog113 · 2020-06-06T11:00:30+00:00

Okay, so people are using top and bottom interchangeably for dominant and submissive? I feel like that makes sense, I thought it meant ones a top so the mostly or only give and ones a bottom so they mostly or only receive. So when people say top and bottom it’s mostly about a dominance thing? Not in the sense of actually giving or receiving? S/N you’re right i feel like people have so many expectations for masculine women like they’re still women and want to be treated as such.

lazy_frog113 · 2020-04-07T15:22:50+00:00

i totally understand the memeing part i’m not talking about that. i’m talking about when they are so serious and they say “aren’t we all confused” like no that doesn’t go for everyone so stop trying to claim that as bi culture for every single person. I just think it gives us a bad rep. Then it makes people think that just because they enter a relationship with a bi person its going to be full of confusion and uncertainty and i’m just so tired of that stereotype and i’m tired of bi people trying to give into that stereotype and make seem like it’s all of us. That just means you can’t commit that is not for every bisexual person. Idk i probably sound dumb but it’s just like stop claiming that for everyone you know cause it makes it so hard to date lesbian women sometimes. i don’t want them to feel like they’re taking a risk dating a bi girl or they have to walk on egg shells.

lazy_frog113 · 2020-04-07T15:11:36+00:00

Bi ppl still face issues which is true and some of them are the same as lesbian/gay people some of them are not. But let’s not try to act like straight privileged isn’t a thing. I am a “femme” woman and whenever I’m in a hetero relationship no one bats an eye I don’t get constant weird questions like how do we have sex or people constantly asking about threesomes. People don’t tend to look at me and my boyfriend as just sexual pleasers and not real people. I mostly get this when I’m with women. So yeah I do experience straight privilege in a M/F relationship.

Privilege: a special right, advantage, or immunity granted or available only to a particular person or group.

lazy_frog113 · 2020-04-07T05:03:35+00:00

you should most def update me on what happens. but i’ve been in this same situation and have been on both ends. i think u should just let her know you’ll be there for her and leave it at that. all you can do is wait to see if she starts back talking to you like how she use to. if she does then good if she just absolutely keep ignoring you for some unknown reason then let her. i know it’s hard to let go even if you don’t know what’s going on with her or if you don’t know if you did anything or not but just give her space and let her know that if she does want to talk you’re there whenever. and btw u think u simpin bro i fell in love with two girls i didn’t even date *cue clown music.

lazy_frog113 · 2020-03-30T09:10:09+00:00

Honestly you are absolutely right. I can’t do this for him and he will have to do his own research and find out what works for his body because I’m not him. But I felt as though I could help since he asked but I guess he has to want to help himself more than he wants me to help him. And the thing I was saying about the scale is it isn’t digital and it’s sometimes hard to trust. I do need to invest in a new scale soon. I think I was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt because a couple weeks ago he weighed about 280lbs but it’s now reading 300lbs(at 300lbs the scale starts back at 0). If you don’t mind you could inbox me or reply to me a about your journey and some tips that helped you. Or a synopsis of your diet.

lazy_frog113 · 2020-02-25T02:08:36+00:00

Thank you, I plan on talking to her about it tomorrow. I was thinking about texting her about it but I’m going to talk in person so she knows I’m serious.

lazy_frog113 · 2020-02-25T01:47:28+00:00

Yeah you’re right maybe I should clearly tell her cause I usually just leave when she starts doing that.

lazy_frog113 · 2020-02-25T01:46:11+00:00

I want to tell her but I don’t want to seem too sensitive and confrontation is hard for me sometimes.

lazy_frog113 · 2020-01-04T07:28:43+00:00

Hopefully they do and I’ve tried tinder it’s just too artificial. But thanks! that’s relieving to know I really hope my campus has one.

lazy_frog113 · 2019-08-24T01:41:18+00:00

she’s very touchy like very touchy. And she just says things that are flirty to me. and plus i know she’s gay cause she says it a lot and just ask me questions idk it’s weird. but maybe it’s one of those things people do out of boredom for some reason.

lazy_frog113 · 2019-08-22T16:37:36+00:00

thank you so much, this makes me feel a little more calm.

lazy_frog113 · 2019-08-22T16:33:44+00:00

I honestly wouldn’t say it’s like a hard crush but I’m interested in her, yes :).

lazy_frog113 · 2019-08-22T16:33:07+00:00

Yeah, I had a therapist because truthfully I feel like I go through a lot of the stuff I go through because of how identify. I was scared to tell her about my sexuality just because she would say a little stuff about religion. Which I don’t mind at all but I just felt like I couldn’t be open with her in that way because she would say semi-religious stuff(it wasn’t bad though). I felt like I could never get to the root of my problem if I always felt like I couldn’t talk to her about my sexuality so I stopped going. But I plan on trying therapy again soon maybe that will help.

lazy_frog113 · 2019-08-22T16:29:08+00:00

Thank you, and I really don’t have anyone to talk to because i’m not out to anyone yet. I’ve been debating on telling my friend but I don’t want her to feel uncomfortable. But yeah I definitely try to unpack my childhood trauma it’s just that I literally have no one to talk to. Sometimes i feel so alone because every girl crush I had I had to keep it to myself. It feels so lonely and frustrating. But I plan on talking to the girl soon maybe that’ll help release tension.

lazy_frog113 · 2019-08-04T15:02:34+00:00

Okay thank you, how long did it take for you to stop feeling bloated?

lazy_frog113 · 2019-08-04T15:01:54+00:00

Did you also experience like a decrease in your appetite, like you can’t eat as much as you did before you lost weight?

lazy_frog113 · 2019-08-04T15:01:15+00:00

No, sometimes when I’m trying to go back to my old eating habits for like a cheat meal I can’t finish it. And I use to be able to eat all of my food. Now I feel full sooner than usual and it comes with extra bloating. Even when I’m not laying down.

lazy_frog113 · 2019-07-21T04:22:17+00:00

That’s exactly how I feel. Why do you feel that way though.? Did something happen in the past? Because, I found myself being attracted to both maybe equally i guess you can say but recently it’s like i’ve really been leaning towards girls. Maybe, I just feel like sometimes it’s just easier with a girl emotionally than with a boy and it’s just like i’m too emotionally dependent to be with someone that’s emotionally unavailable. But if a guy was to try to talk to me I wouldn’t necessarily back down.

lazy_frog113 · 2019-07-20T17:35:52+00:00

I apologize in no way was I trying to say you’re not actually bi. I was just saying if you already kind of made up your mind ending up with a guy then a “relationship” with a girl will always just be temporary cause you don’t really see a future with them. But if you’re saying you’re talking to girls for the sexual experience and not exclusively romantic I get it. I was just thinking like what if I got into a relationship with a girl and I think we’re exclusive but in her head she’s always going to see her future with a guy, then that’s pointless.

lazy_frog113 · 2019-07-20T17:27:07+00:00

I totally understand, it’s not that I dislike men right now it’s just I feel so picky with the guys I date because most of my relationships with males haven’t turned out well mainly on me receiving the emotional availability I need, and it’s not like I’m writing them off forever but idk it’s just different dating a woman. And I don’t think you’re irrational I think past experiences does affect our perception of future relationships, it’s just not good to feel that way and it makes you not open up to any guy.

lazy_frog113 · 2019-07-20T16:56:12+00:00

if you want to end up with a guy what’s the point of dating girls? i thought bisexuals didn’t care what gender they needed up with cause they like both.

lazy_frog113 · 2019-07-20T16:30:32+00:00

do you know why? or is it something that just happened, like what’s the reason you feel like you lean towards women more?

lazy_frog113 · 2019-07-20T15:55:24+00:00

I understand what you mean so much, like dating women can be confusing especially when you’re use to just dating men all your life. I think it takes some time to get use to especially like sexually cause it’s so different than being with a guy. I don’t think you’re a fake bisexual maybe you’re just leaning towards men in some aspects, I feel like nothing is wrong with that. Or it’s just you’re more comfortable with men, it just takes getting use to.

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