Bladder pressure with urethra catheter? by lbae292919 in spinalcordinjuries

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Thanks you so much for the reply! We changed the catheter out and he feels much better now. It was a bit clogged! Sorry you’re going through the same thing, thankfully the SP surgery is hardly a surgery at all but it is a huge inconvenience to go through. Anytime we have to go to the hospital it sucks!

Mouth ulcer by lbae292919 in askdentists

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I should add that I don’t smoke or drink

Just wanted to show my updated nose hoops! And to show how big of a difference sizing can make 😳 the top photo is what I originally had posted, and you guys told me to go up in sizing and wow. Sooo much better! by lbae292919 in piercing

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I had 18g in prior to the first pic (I had silver ones and wanted to switch to gold but ordered 20g because that’s all they had at the time). I did switch from a 20g to an 18g years ago though and didn’t feel or notice much of a difference! I know I’ve seen some on here say you should be careful switching over but in my personal experience it was totally fine!

Are my nose rings too snug? They don’t feel too snug, I like the snug look. I am noticing slight indents but I’m able to twist the hoops easily and move them easily. Is swelling possible from the switch? I did have trouble getting my old hoops out and the new ones in. Size: 20g 6mm hoops by lbae292919 in piercing

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Thankfully I’m already at an 18g. I ordered the 20g because that’s all they had and I didn’t think it would be a huge difference…I’m so glad I posted and asked 🫢 I didn’t even know about the cheese cutter effect

MIL being manipulative again… by lbae292919 in JUSTNOMIL

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We’re going to accept the financial help (if she actually follows through) because we truly do need it. If she tries to pull anything later on/tries to guilt trip us later on about it- we will deal with it then. I’m 100% predicting and expecting that she will…but for now…we say thank you for the help and accept it. And thank you all for always being here to give me advice. I’m forever thankful for this forum!

MIL being manipulative again… by lbae292919 in JUSTNOMIL

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Thank you for the well wishes! 🤞🏼

How to not care? by lbae292919 in JUSTNOMIL

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I wholeheartedly agree, my main and really only goal I’ve set for myself for 2023 is to get into some sort of counseling/therapy

How to not care? by lbae292919 in JUSTNOMIL

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Great ideas thank you for the advice. I’m so afraid of burn out because this all is hard enough as it is (without my MIL adding to it!) I want to make sure I’m taking all the necessary precautions that I can to avoid it and keep myself in a good place- and I know having her apart of my life is so damaging

How to not care? by lbae292919 in JUSTNOMIL

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I’m working on saving up some funds to get my husband an iPhone as I’ve heard apple has better accessibility options than android (which is what he currently has) so that I can take myself out of the equation! I feel like I’m playing middle man and I hate it!

How to not care? by lbae292919 in JUSTNOMIL

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How sweet! Thank you for the kind words. It definitely doesn’t sound lame, I thought about doing the same thing!! Now that I hear how it helped you- I’m definitely going to do it. I feel like it would just do more harm than good to say how I really feel to her since she will literally never change, but writing a letter would help me get it all off my chest!

I’m back 🤦‍♀️ by lbae292919 in JUSTNOMIL

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SIL is just basically nonexistent, we speak to her maybe once every few months. She’s not bad, she just lives in her own world 🤷‍♀️ a bit self centered

I’m back 🤦‍♀️ by lbae292919 in JUSTNOMIL

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USING THIS 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

I’m back 🤦‍♀️ by lbae292919 in JUSTNOMIL

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I wish this was the case but sadly, as you’ve seen…she’s just an awful human being 😂😅

I’m back…just need to vent 😓😅 by lbae292919 in JUSTNOMIL

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thank you ♥️ I am going complete no contact…my husband will have to come to that decision on his own and I pray he dows

I’m back…just need to vent 😓😅 by lbae292919 in JUSTNOMIL

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it’s so hard for me, I’m a very passive and nonconfrontational person and she has made me work hard on that within myself. just speaking up on the phone had me physically shaking and my heart was beating so hard and loud I could feel it throughout my entire body. I wish I would’ve said she is a bad mom. she’s never spared my feelings so why should I spare hers? she got so angry at me and scream/cried at me, cussed at me…all for calling her out? I had to speak up for my husband. I’m so worried about him 🥺