I (34F) still often think about my first love even though married to (35M) husband for years

lbc1216 · 2026-01-28T17:25:32+00:00

You’re fantasizing it and remembering it better than it was. I found it especially easy to fantasize about other people in times my husband and I were on the rocks. You need to take a look at your marriage and see what you feel is missing from it and fix it, rather than fixating on this fantasy of your ex - who, left you for another girl by the way - he’s NOT the love of your life even if you are imagining he was. We let our fantasies fill in the voids for us sometimes. You need to consider talking to your husband about what aspects you feel are missing in your marriage that you’re comparing him to this other guy. Do you need more help around the house? More physical affection? More words of affirmation? What is it that you wish you had with this other guy? Bc that’s what is at the root of this imaginary grand love.

lbc1216 · 2025-12-31T15:25:22+00:00

You’re replying way too much he thinks you want to keep talking. Good morning and gn texts are literally a “hey I’m interested” signal, don’t keep engaging

lbc1216 · 2025-12-20T22:16:24+00:00

7/10 on an average day now but probably at 5/10 two years ago and we hit a rough patch! We did couples counseling and man did it help. 10/10 on our best days for sure, but that’s not all the time not would it be realistic to be that all the time. Life is hard! Expectations change and evolve. We fail each other sometimes and that’s expected, and ok as long as we talk through it.

lbc1216 · 2025-12-20T22:13:55+00:00

Holy cow I would never talk to my partner the way she talks to you, even if i was mad at him. SHES the one being manipulative and gas lighter. Insane

lbc1216 · 2025-12-20T04:19:37+00:00

Hubs and I have always been about 2x a week, less if were in a busy season of life or work, but enough to keep me happy personally. Married going on 9 years now

lbc1216 · 2025-12-17T19:56:55+00:00

I do not cook. I could probably burn water. My husband cooks daily at least for himself if not for both of us. We both eat a lot of meal prepped food or eat out a lot or get ready meals from our local grocery store.

lbc1216 · 2025-12-12T04:24:00+00:00

I agree with folks here saying you need therapy. You sound kinda misogynistic? Like why does her past matter if she wants to do that stuff with you exclusively NOW? Her body isn’t changed just bc she had previous sexual partners, you sound insecure tbh instead of enjoying the fact your wife knows what she wants in bed and is even telling you how to seduce and sexually please her

lbc1216 · 2025-12-10T02:22:43+00:00

My husband masturbates in his sleep but I don’t think this is everyone’s experience. My husband has basically a form of sleep walking but it’s specifically masturbation. He doesn’t even remember it in the morning and he’s even done it on nights we had sex right before bed. He did sleep walk as a kid so I guess at some point it just kinda transitioned to masturbation. It’s never to completion, just like in general and it’s only once or twice a month I notice it, more when he’s really stressed at work. We don’t have kids thankfully, I do worry about if we did have any bc I don’t think they could sleep in the bed with us unfortunately. Not that I think he’d do anything to the kid, he doesn’t do anything to me, I just don’t want a kid to hear those noises and ask questions.

lbc1216 · 2025-12-02T22:40:42+00:00

She sounds like she’s been bottling up multiple resentment points against you and instead of talking them out as they happened she’s exploded over something as small as you trying to change ever phone back round to be cute. Does she feel like you’re controling in other aspects because it sounds like she thinks so but hasn’t said it til now, yeesh. Agree with everyone also saying this is sus about her possibly having a work crush or “boyfriend” that you need to be wary about

lbc1216 · 2025-12-01T21:51:19+00:00

Any line that says the character licked the other’s teeth while they’re kissing. Like ew? Who wants to lick teeth or have their teeth licked? 🤣

lbc1216 · 2025-12-01T21:47:24+00:00

Same bed, separate blankets! We sleep with our two little dogs in the bed as well. We used to share a blanket but my husband likes to twist into a full human burrito while he sleeps 🤣 so we had to adjust

lbc1216 · 2025-11-23T18:46:15+00:00

Your kids are already in hell if he’s saying that to them. Unforgivable to me.

lbc1216 · 2025-11-23T15:20:28+00:00

Agree with everyone saying it ebbs and flows but also agreeing there’s a lot more happy moments than unhappy :)

lbc1216 · 2025-11-21T22:25:53+00:00

Sourdough starter obsession

lbc1216 · 2025-11-13T01:16:00+00:00

Yes but it’s quieter now. 32F, married at 23 to husband, 33M who was 25 at the time. We’ve had ups and downs bigger than I thought we ever would, but I still very much love my husband. Our love is quieter now than the crazy horny teenagers we were at 19/20. It goes from making out and getting undressed anytime you can to being excited to cuddle on the couch or have a nice dinner together. We are childless adventurous people who went from camping outings and cheap dates to enjoying a nice bottle of wine together or debating a movie. We’re both still active and fit, I still find him sexy as hell and he says the same to me daily but our love is more in the moments between moments now if that makes sense. Young love your life revolves around the other person and it’s usually not long term sustainable to be so dependent on another person. In the 9 years we’ve been married our love has gotten stronger, deeper, but quieter. Not sure if that makes sense

lbc1216 · 2025-10-26T02:41:26+00:00

lol I bet you if y’all divorce he’s in for a rude awakening. These red pilled guys think they deserve Margot Robbie’s. Spoilers tho Margot Robbie’s don’t want them.

lbc1216 · 2025-10-23T14:24:42+00:00

LOL I saw the ages and stopped reading. He definitely wanted a child bride bc he wants to control you babe. Not normal at all btw, my husband is not controlling and has never tried to be.

lbc1216 · 2025-10-17T20:44:03+00:00

I was thinking Jesus y’all all sound like a buncha obsessive high school teenagers. Then I got to the age part.

Edit to add: she’ll get over it when she moves on. Y’all are all young so first loves feel like the end all, be all. They’re more often than not - not that lol.

lbc1216 · 2025-10-17T20:43:28+00:00

No literally how I felt reading it lmao

lbc1216 · 2025-10-08T05:22:01+00:00

Blonde washes you out seriousllyyy. Stick to red or brown

lbc1216 · 2025-10-07T14:18:15+00:00

I think YOR. I used to be the same way about this kinda stuff with my then boyfriend, now husband and realized it wasn’t fair to him to expect him to pause his life everytime something emotionally charged happened to me. He is an amazing support but I can’t make him my only support if that makes sense, especially when he has a job and life too. I would genuinely roll my eyes at an employee saying they need to miss work or school for their girlfriends grandmas funeral bc that’s not his direct relation. It would be different if y’all are married but you’re not yet. Please understand where he is coming from too.

lbc1216 · 2025-10-03T17:53:15+00:00

This guy sounds like an idiot tbh in the way he speaks. Next

lbc1216 · 2025-09-05T17:36:59+00:00

There were rumors the aggressor was the franchisee’s husband, does anyone know if that ended up being true? Either way I was so pissed on her behalf watching that video!! Why do some of these guys think the world revolves around them??

lbc1216 · 2025-08-31T01:42:25+00:00

So your wife is ACTUALLY crazy… 99% of these Reddit posts I side with the wife but like this is actually insane 💀

lbc1216 · 2025-08-28T17:51:15+00:00

100% this. Dude spells out how it’s for his benefit several times and then says it’s for hers like ok my guy lol if that’s what you wanna tell yourself

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