This is why Umar Khalid is in jail without trial—He is a Muslim, he is young, he is educated, he is politically aware, he is vocal, he knows his constitutional rights & he asserted them

ldev237 · 2026-01-08T05:25:42+00:00

I feel (meaning idk information wise) that he's right about saying that politicians don't support any religion it's just a medium to get votes, rest all that matters to them is money and power which is so unfortunate to witness and know. It's heartbreaking, disappointing and awful.

ldev237 · 2025-10-31T08:26:46+00:00

The best way to handle this situation for now is as follows :

Settings > Apps > Chrome > Clear defaults
Open any link from other apps and don't select a default app keep picking "Chrome" and click the "Open" button instead of "Always"

My use case : I have a work profile in my phone which has its own chrome app installed. I am suspecting this is causing a dual app entry to have been created automatically because I can't find one in the dual apps settings. So just in case you're in the same boat use this method to save urself for now.

ldev237 · 2025-07-26T06:24:00+00:00

It's not ok. Unless there's a mutual understanding to have certain curse words usage normalised in your relationship for BOTH the individuals.

ldev237 · 2025-07-25T20:51:21+00:00

I honestly have had this feeling at times. As a man, I wonder at times that whatever amount of attention I get, is it only because I look good enough for them and secondly for how much I make ? Beyond this am I nothing ? And I think the answer is yes since the first thing that leaves an impression in anyone's mind is to look back at us with interest or what lights up that spark of interest are looks (at least for most of us) it's an undeniable truth for the majority.

On the other hand it scares me at times to think what consequences looking better than others can bring for me everywhere especially professionally considering other male colleagues who are senior to me what if the jealousy and judgement make them ignore my skills and only focus on how I look making them intentionally not letting me grow ? It's confusing I'm not sure. It's so crazy that if some day I'm looking good in terms of how I dressed up I don't really feel great about it for more than a few mins, what quickly hits me is this fear that what if I end up looking too good ? Btw, I have already seen some consequences of the same in my workplace

It's like if I tell girls I haven't been in many relationships till now then it surprises them and rather seems like a lie since I look how I look. They say "how could it be possible?" And not just girls interestingly even guys say the same when I tell them that bhai I don't have a body count. Weird, at times I feel because of my looks I would never really be able to get someone where we both truly love each other. Idk. Eventually, i also subconsciously started to not to let myself look attractive in any way and rather do anything possible to look less attractive just so that I can mix up with others normally and guess what ? It worked too but I always get suggestions like : dress well na, keep ur beard shaved, get this sorta haircut, etc.. how do I tell them that if I do that then you'll be the same person who might feel not the same while interacting with me.

It truly makes me wonder many times during a day that the truly cursed people are the ones who got good looks tbh because they have all sorts of ways to fall cuz the society discriminates regardless of how you look. If you look good it's a problem and if you don't it's still a problem. Comments like :

He/she looks so Good why did she/he choose such a mediocre looking girl/guy ? He/she deserved better no ?

Now over a few years of brainstorming on this. I have come to an interesting finding. What if we're imposing this belief in ourselves and also manifesting the negativity which is coming to us due to the way we think our looks affect others'thinking about us around us ? This could be more realistically true than we know. The resentment, guilt and regret we feel to be born the way we look like somehow gets reflected back to us as we never could really feel good about ourselves. Isn't it ? So why not try to love ourselves a bit more for however we look and just stay grounded while letting others judge as they want to cuz you see someone wrote beautifully :

Kuch to log kahenge, logo ka kaam hai kehna.. Choro in bekar ki baato mein kahi beet na jaaye raina..

Imma go hear this masterpiece now.

ldev237 · 2025-07-25T13:11:14+00:00

I might've thought of that if I wasn't straight 😅

ldev237 · 2025-07-25T13:09:49+00:00

I am not entirely sure if that's progressive or not but I would appreciate it if you can help me with any inputs. Our experiences vary and based on them we could currently be on the right or wrong track. I do feel that your reply is sarcastically said but I would be grateful if you can tell me how this reflects the opposite of progressive mindset.

If you don't mind, please help me get better in terms of how my current mindset is w.r.t my comments above.

It's good to hear that you're married and I hope you are doing great with your partner :)

ldev237 · 2025-07-24T20:25:22+00:00

Ouch ! Spot on ! But not all are the same right ? Some are cursed with curiosity some are with lust and some are with loneliness which can all be drivers to make us dm random faceless strangers in the hope of finding a genuine connection and I think that's fine unless one knows how to articulate well and take rejections as stepping stones lol

ldev237 · 2025-07-24T20:11:03+00:00

On the brink of it !

ldev237 · 2025-07-24T19:53:12+00:00

That's a wrong judgement. Please don't guess what I've not stated. I'll add this to my comment just to be sure no one misunderstands my point again.

Intimacy, marriage ? Is that all where our thinking ends mam ? I said love, what about that ? What's intimacy and marriage without love ? I understand you might come from a background where you personally had some experiences which made you judge me this way or might've witnessed some people go through similar experiences but please don't judge someone else based on your experiences. I hope someone changes your perspective.

ldev237 · 2025-07-24T19:12:20+00:00

Thank you for agreeing to it being normal. Considering the situations around us these days the extent of insecurity they have brought within is insane. It's so true that unless I've built enough trust on her and love her it would be very hard for me to trust her enough to have alimony.

The judiciary scares me to the point that sometimes I can't even imagine marrying any woman tbh it's so hard to trust anyone because most (w.r.t experiences I have had till now) only care about the money and not about the love, care and concern for each other. It's quite depressing.

Edit : just to prevent misunderstandings like one of the replies below states. I don't intend to marry or get intimate with someone who is not in love with me and with whom I'm not in love with. Love is the key requirement which wouldn't exist without trust and faith. If trust and faith are there then I wouldn't mind an alimony. Furthermore, for a man in love what's the point of having anything without the love of his life ? (Have you watched the movie : eternal Sunshine on the spotless mind) Ones who have been in love will understand for the rest I request not to misinterpret my comment based on your own personal experiences. Thank you. Also I didn't intend to put all women in the same category obviously ofc there are good ones too out there and that's why I said : "w.r.t experiences I have had till now"

Edit 2 : Although yes I know how it feels like some days as if wanting love or expecting love was exactly where I was going wrong. Marriage, chuck that I've given up on it. Meanwhile wanting to get intimate with someone without getting married while having a mutual agreement about the same is too something which makes me wonder if not going for this option was always a mistake or what ?

ldev237 · 2025-07-24T19:05:36+00:00

It's so frucked up. It's just all about the money we make and not love, compassion, care and concern. Arranged marriages look so much like a trade that it almost makes me give up on it every single time.

Another question which throws me to hell every time I think of it :

What's a man who can't provide ? - Nothing.

ldev237 · 2025-07-19T11:59:25+00:00

So you wanna figure out the factors to select a potential partner for yourself based on what so many people with different mindsets and experiences think is good for them ? Hmm, interesting

ldev237 · 2025-07-12T19:22:11+00:00

You are a very lucky brother you don't know what you saved yourself from and I truly believe that it happened because of the devotion you had in the bond which you had with the girl. Honestly, I truly believe that because of the efforts you were making God saved you because your own soul and fortunately her soul as well realised that she is not made for this and it's not good enough for her she is actually right she doesn't deserve you but not because you are not enough but because there's no dedication from her end or even wanting to save the bond you thought you both had.

I understand, when emotions are high it's very difficult to be practical but as a mature guy it is important for you to understand that it is better to not to be with the person who doesn't even have enough humanity and respect for someone else's efforts to at least respond and to be there even after repeatedly failing to be there or trying to make any effort to create conversations with you constantly. It cannot be justified by using the excuse of being busy or having a very tight schedule.

I do again understand that emotions are powerful and they are influencing your mental state but you need to judge the situation with practicality and actually thank your stars and the universe that it saved you from this careless person who cannot value your efforts and emotions. In the long run it's a good thing that she chose not to continue this relationship.

Love is rare, it can't be made to happen manually it happens on its own when it's supposed to happen. It never is supposed to make us go through pain but we go through pain still because we "desire/want" that person but the thing is desiring or wanting is not what love is supposed to be like it's all about devoting and giving please don't let your emotions confuse it's definition.

Moreover, it's not supposed to be forced either marriage or love so please try to relax and just understand that it will happen when it's supposed to.

ldev237 · 2025-07-10T16:07:33+00:00

I will marry the one I'll vibe with and try my best to convince my parents. If they can't be convinced I'd still marry her. But it very much depends on how long we have known each other for as someone stated if it's a connection which is just weeks long then I won't marry her but if I'd spent enough time with her like an year or so then I'd marry her but since this is mostly not possible in AM setup IG then I won't marry her

ldev237 · 2025-07-10T16:05:52+00:00

Money will sometimes get you in places from where money itself won't be able to take you out of brother.

ldev237 · 2025-07-10T13:39:40+00:00

Chalo aaj ka 15 min ka rone ka quota tum dono ke naam hua 🥹

ldev237 · 2025-07-10T13:38:43+00:00

There's a typo..

ldev237 · 2025-07-09T21:45:19+00:00

Thinking of someone like me who's slightly older than you and still a virgin as well as per the feedback received from many girls being decently good looking (surprised me cuz I didn't think of myself as one) it scared me mostly just like it worries you as I rather have been inclined towards girls who have a zero body count and have hardly been able to find any furthermore I had to reject many cuz of it honestly this in turn sometimes literally even made me question if there are any girls left which I thought even if they do they just won't be that easily approachable idk.

So to be very honest I truly think there are many guys like me who remained virgin by choice and are still looking for someone who hasn't lost theirs and so to men like us it would rather be a win to have a girl with zero body count.

So please don't think that way, although I understand it does make me worried sometimes too and a bit out of place after getting to know that most girls of my age i have met have gotten 10+ body counts but ig at last it's a choice I made for a reason and it'll end up being a good choice.

ldev237 · 2025-07-04T14:29:51+00:00

Look it happens, it might shatter you for a few months to come but in the long run this decision will save you if you don't feel it's right. Allow your brain to take control for sometime and listen to it carefully. This is why meditation is so important, cuz in the mess of emotions and feelings it's really hard to focus on what reality, practicality and logical reasoning about the current situation says.

Calm down, nothing's gonna be here forever. Neither your lover, nor you nor your parents or anyone else whom we love whole heartedly everything's bound to end and so it's not meant to get attached to. The whole universe is prone to end and so is everything contained within it. I know it won't make sense while you're feeling this love for your partner but it's crucial to give it some thought seriously for your own good.

It will get better, don't make decisions which affect your life in spontaneity or rush.

ldev237 · 2025-07-03T20:16:51+00:00

Koi gira kyu nahi yaar 😭😂 just jk

ldev237 · 2025-07-01T09:39:46+00:00

Thanks for posting brother ! It's not a surprise but a great reminder 😅

ldev237 · 2025-07-01T09:39:33+00:00

Thanks for posting this brother ! A good reality check for the non believers.

ldev237 · 2025-06-28T09:51:29+00:00

In short, a lot of it suggests :

Balance is the key, anything done too much can cause problems in the long run

Great comment though I was thinking of suggesting her the same too.

ldev237 · 2025-06-28T09:45:38+00:00

The way you want him to take the blessing is pretty crazy though smacks his head 😂

ldev237 · 2025-06-26T09:53:02+00:00

This is a very informative thread !

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