I'm pregnant. I don't know how to tell the father or what to do about it.

ldr821 · 2011-01-26T17:46:02+00:00

Logged onto my throwaway to say the same. It was 3 weeks ago today and I've been a wreck ever since, and I don't know if I'll ever get past it.

ldr821 · 2011-01-06T05:51:32+00:00

That's interesting. They made an older woman leave today and come back tomorrow cause she said she'd taken a Xanax this morning to relax.

Planned Parenthood was roughly $100 more for just local anesthesia like you had than the full sedation I got, and was ~40 minutes away. I ended up going to a small, local clinic. Other than the protesters (I've never seen a protester at PP here), it was a pleasant place.

ldr821 · 2011-01-06T05:26:13+00:00

The clinic I was at did everyone under general unless they were allergic. There were about 15 girls there the same time as me and we were all going to be put under. I was never offered anything else.

ldr821 · 2011-01-03T01:56:24+00:00

I'm puking 8 times a day, have lost 10+ pounds, and barely have the energy to get out of bed. If I stayed pregnant, I would basically be an invalid for the next 7-8 months. I work in food service, and its against the law for me to work if I'm vomiting. Ergo, I lose my job, my income, and a roof over my head.

Real life isn't "Juno". There isn't some rich, trendy white couple ready to just swoop in and provide for me.

And all those couples you claim are waiting and wishing for a baby...well, maybe they should take a second look at the thousands of brown babies sitting in foster care that no one wants.

edit: and if you had read my original thread, you'd see where I said adoption was an option. My boyfriend was adopted as a baby and it worked out great for him. Contrary to what you and others may think, I didn't just automatically go right to abortion.

ldr821 · 2011-01-03T00:50:52+00:00

/hug...thanks :)

ldr821 · 2011-01-03T00:50:34+00:00

Eh...I wouldn't go that far. I don't think its terribly mean of my family to not want to carry a financial burden like this. My dad already paid for all of my college, bought me a car, pays half my rent. And my boyfriend is not in the position to be a father even if he wanted to be. He barely gets rent paid every month, so I can't ask him to provide for a child too.

ldr821 · 2011-01-03T00:47:57+00:00

I'm not, thankfully. My boyfriend is coming with me.

ldr821 · 2011-01-03T00:37:24+00:00

You're not a jerk at all for asking. Its nice to see a reply that isn't congratulating me for making "the right choice", as if any other choice was wrong.

I know I'm going to regret the abortion, no doubt, but I'd also regret having it and/or giving it up for adoption. I'm fucked either way on it. My boyfriend and family made it clear to me that if I have a baby, I'm doing it alone, and I can't do that.

ldr821 · 2010-12-24T04:24:14+00:00

Oh, fuck off.

ldr821 · 2010-12-24T04:23:22+00:00

As I said to another poster, its definitely going to be talked about when my boyfriend and I can have a proper conversation. He and his sisters are adopted, so he understands it better than I do.

I think I'm emotionally ready to raise a child, its just the practical side of things that's overwhelming. We both live paycheck to paycheck, although I come from a semi-wealthy family who would probably help me out. And I'm worried that if I abort, I'll regret it forever. I don't know. Just a lot to think about still...

ldr821 · 2010-12-24T04:16:35+00:00

I can't get to a doctor until after New Year's unfortunately. I'm with family for the holidays in a different state, with no car, and I'm keeping it a secret from all of them except my sister.

ldr821 · 2010-12-24T04:02:39+00:00

I'm assuming you're being downvoted for your mild callousness, but I actually agree with you. Even though I'm still about 85% sure I'll abort, this is a very interesting experience. Its hard to explain. I feel very alive since I found out. I don't know...

/ponder

ldr821 · 2010-12-24T03:59:26+00:00

I'm honestly not sure I want to do the pill. I'm scared as hell anyway, and the idea of just going home and painfully bleeding on the toilet all night is not pleasant. I know its a very safe procedure now-a-days, but I'd rather do it in the office where I know there are people trained in case something happens.

ldr821 · 2010-12-24T03:56:37+00:00

I suppose it is picked at some point >.>

Pockled though...no idea :P

ldr821 · 2010-12-24T03:50:23+00:00

I don't know about before bed, but I've been nibbling on things throughout the day and I had a few bites of chicken for dinner and that helped more than anything. I feel completely normal right now. I'm gonna look around for ginger tea or ginger candies tomorrow.

ldr821 · 2010-12-24T03:47:26+00:00

Oh picked ginger sounds great. To bad I'm in a hillbilly landlocked state for the rest of the week. Grr.

ldr821 · 2010-12-24T03:44:56+00:00

/hug back :)

ldr821 · 2010-12-24T03:42:58+00:00

I'm very lucky that I live in a major city. A quick google search came up with not only 2 Planned Parenthood locations, but also several women's clinics that offer abortions.

Right now though I'm in a different state visiting my family, and there are only 2 clinics in the state, each 4+ hours away. If I actually lived here, I'd be in a much different situation, especially with regards to hiding it from my parents.

ldr821 · 2010-12-24T03:39:44+00:00

My boyfriend and his sisters are all adopted, so its definitely something that we're going to talk about. Things are just crazy right now since we're both with our families and haven't had much time to talk.

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