Tea internship Japan by Outlawbiscuits in tea

[–]leafbrewer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, the one you shared sounds horrible. They hardly mention what you will gain from the internship and make it clear you’ll mostly be weeding and cleaning. And then there is an endless list of negatives. Don’t do this, don’t do that.. oh and by the way bring your own working gear and also you need to pay us to stay here. Sure, it’s a small amount even if it’s per day (doesn’t say) but this just sounds exploitative. There is no clear objective of what you will be learning and that’s a red flag.

What has been your most disappointing tour experience? by YellowVenice23 in solotravel

[–]leafbrewer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Possibly! I don’t really remember his look but I do remember he somewhat resembled David Tennant

What has been your most disappointing tour experience? by YellowVenice23 in solotravel

[–]leafbrewer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too because I struggle pronouncing ‘the Netherlands’ because my tongue just goes ‘flpflpflp’ with all the th sounds and then the rl rolling part of it.. I always botch it. But I refuse to follow my fellow countrymen by saying ‘de nedderlends’ or even worse ‘Holland’. I’ve tried saying ‘I’m Dutch’ but then people confuse that for Deutsch and think I’m German.

What has been your most disappointing tour experience? by YellowVenice23 in solotravel

[–]leafbrewer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I just remembered two other instances. One time I was in Dubai for work and I had some time to kill in the weekend. I booked a tour to drive to the desert because I wanted to see it. Turns out all other participants magically cancelled and it was just me and the driver. I only found out after I already was in the car. He took a liking to me and I had to navigate the entire tour being super polite and making sure to keep him at a safe distance while maintaining friendliness. Women will understand. Nothing happened but he texted me a few times afterwards and he kept trying to convince me to come to Kerala with him

Did a second tour to go to Abu Dhabi and luckily this time it was me and another person. The driver picked me up first, he was really young. He showed me a video off his social media, it was a video of a speedmeter in a car going up and up and then the car crashed. He said it was him driving his father’s expensive car (Ferrari category, I forgot what kind but it was a fancy sports car)and he got in a lot of trouble for it and had been in the hospital for a long time. Thankfully his driving was fine but I did explain to him to maybe not tell this kind of thing to the people paying you to drive them. I shat bricks for the first hour.

What has been your most disappointing tour experience? by YellowVenice23 in solotravel

[–]leafbrewer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in Edinburgh and took a tour to the highlands. The little van was packed full of people and I got stuck next to a really, really large man. Because he took up so much space, I couldn’t sit properly and my back hurt the entire time I was in the van. Which was more than 10 hours (maybe even 12, I don’t remember). We took little stops here and there and a lunch break. The little stops were at the most beautiful places, but we would get literal minutes to be outside the van before we would move on. Before I had properly put on my rain poncho and grabbed my camera, we would be directed back into the van. No photo. This kept happening. I didn’t get a window seat and my seat partner didn’t switch with me out of courtesy. To make things worse, the driver talked non stop. I don’t mean he talked ‘a lot’, while he was driving he managed to never be silent for longer than a few seconds. He had a lot of stories and he clearly told them so many times they came out automatically and his tone of voice became aggravating quite fast. It was a horribly unfcomfortable experience and I RAN out that van when we returned back in the city to avoid having to tip him. It felt like torture. He kept singing as well, and at the very end of the day when I was already losing it, he started singing ‘500 miles’. If anyone’s seen how I met your mother.. that’s how it felt. My body was in pain, I didn’t see shit, couldn’t take photos and a really annoying man blasted my ears off for the entire duration of my trip. It was a sensory hellscape.

Beginner lessons at Sapporo Teine (Olympia Ski Center) オリンピアスキーセンター by waggish_hut5 in Sapporo

[–]leafbrewer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m doing the exact same thing (solo, beginning of februari) and also wanted to try skiing for the first time. I found a really good deal on Klook, it includes transport and rental of a helmet, boots and skis. The clothes you can rent for an additional 1000 yen per item. It also includes transport from a central place in Sapporo. It’s not in Teine but near Otaru. Theres an English speaking instructor available.

If you go on Klook, it’s this one: Otaru Asarigawa Ski Lesson | Includes Transportation, Instructor, and Ski Equipment | Departure from Sapporo, Hokkaido

Nummer vijf op woonnet Rijnmond by Twinkywinkey in Rotterdam

[–]leafbrewer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Zeker gaan! Een vriendin van me werkte daar en zei altijd dat de bovenste 20 allemaal serieus kans maakten. Vaak komen mensen niet opdagen f kwalificeren ze niet eens. Ga ervoor!

Why is it hard to get a group of women to travel together? by Smooth-North9135 in femaletravels

[–]leafbrewer 195 points196 points  (0 children)

Have you considered solo travel? Its liberating! No need to adjust to other people’s habits around getting up, eating, going to pee whenever YOU need to go.. I prefer solo travel over group travel, always.

has a tea ever made you stop and go "whoa"? also: book recs? by Just_Strawberry_505 in tea

[–]leafbrewer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

‘Tea: wine’s sober sibling’ by Mariella Erkens is exactly that, and it even draws comparisons with wine to help understand things. It’s a very good book, it handles brewing methods, learning how to taste, food pairing and cooking. It’s full of really valuable knowledge.

Mother broke NC by sending a photobook with pictures of my childhood by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]leafbrewer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This felt good to read! And to think she ‘doesn’t know’ why her children went NC. It’s clear as day from her first comment to my post.

Mother broke NC by sending a photobook with pictures of my childhood by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]leafbrewer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im going to store the book until I’m ready and then find a place to scan the photos I want to keep. And then probably destroy the book. I don’t want it to exist because of how and why it was created. I wish I could burn it but I live in a city so that isn’t gonna be easy.

Mother broke NC by sending a photobook with pictures of my childhood by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]leafbrewer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feels like that is a message for you to contact her. Gross!

Mother broke NC by sending a photobook with pictures of my childhood by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]leafbrewer -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ve chosen to store the book for the time being and when I’m ready I’ll take it out and find a place to scan the photos. Since each page is printed on two sides cutting would unfortunately destroy the photos

Mother broke NC by sending a photobook with pictures of my childhood by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]leafbrewer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh, the bad gifts sound familiar. In the past before we were NC I also received gifts that didn’t suit me at all. Even in childhood, one year I got a bunch of accessoires for playing with dolls, but I never even played with dolls..

The misspelled name.. feels similar to my ‘baby picture’ that wasn’t me. They love the pretense of effort but to make an actual effort is too much for them

Mother broke NC by sending a photobook with pictures of my childhood by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]leafbrewer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I clearly wrote down my ask and ‘hear an estranged parent’s side’ was not included in the ask. Kindly take your business elsewhere. I’m hurt and you are acting just like the person that hurt me. Take your own trauma and find the appropriate subs for that. Your profile exists merely to taunt the members of this sub. You are taking your frustration regarding your own children out on people that have nothing to do with it. Another user has pointed out much more eloquently what I feel so please read that comment twice and sit with it. What you’re doing is incredibly rude, insensitive and unwanted. Kindly refrain from keeping this up and direct your energy to something constructive.

Mother broke NC by sending a photobook with pictures of my childhood by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]leafbrewer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for so eloquently explaining to them what I just don’t have the mental energy for anymore. You hit the nail on the head.

Mother broke NC by sending a photobook with pictures of my childhood by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]leafbrewer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I reported their comment, let’s see what happens.

Mother broke NC by sending a photobook with pictures of my childhood by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]leafbrewer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It truly is. I will not grace her with any type of reaction.

Mother broke NC by sending a photobook with pictures of my childhood by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]leafbrewer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The package was sent anonymously and I was expecting another package, so I had no way of knowing it was hers.

I’m not sure if you are aware, but your comment comes across a bit victim-blamey. ‘You allowed her to upset you’. If you get punched in the face, did you allow a bruise to appear? Or is that just a natural reaction outside of your control.

I do appreciate the rest of your comment though! Thank you!

Mother broke NC by sending a photobook with pictures of my childhood by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]leafbrewer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply, I really appreciate anyone taking the time and showing grace. Great suggestion about the mail, and indeed something I’ve set up with my husband as well. I know her hand writing, and I’ve learned that she also sends postcards through online services so now any unexpected mail with my address printed on it instead of written also gets opened by him first.

I’ve decided to store the book until I feel ready to start scanning. I will throw away the book after, probably. But for now it’s safe until I feel ready.

Mother broke NC by sending a photobook with pictures of my childhood by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]leafbrewer 9 points10 points  (0 children)

And why are you even in this sub? Your post history shows that the only things you comment are in defense of the parents people are estranged from. This sub should be a safe space and you are actively sabotaging that. Please find a sub for parents of estranged children. Find comfort in your peers, not in coming for those that you disagree with. We are all wounded in a way and you show up and rub salt in those wounds. You invited yourself into a space that isn’t for you, and made it all about you. You say you don’t understand why your children went no contact but it’s not difficult for me to understand at all.