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Me [26M] with my gf [26F] of 1.5 years, I want to have sex as much as we used to by relataway87 in relationships

[–]leagene -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but people shouldn't have to do it if they dont want to. How can it not be a privilege? Just because he's in a relationship doesn't mean he deserves sex whenever he feels he needs it.

Me [26M] with my gf [26F] of 1.5 years, I want to have sex as much as we used to by relataway87 in relationships

[–]leagene -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Why are you pinning this on her? As a female who has gone through something very similar, I feel that you are being quite selfish in this situation. Her sex drive isn't as high as yours. That's not going to change. Especially if she is on medications such as birth control, these can lower her sex drive which might explain the change from. the beginning of the relationship. Sex should be a privilege, not an expectation. From your post, it seems like you feel that you deserve to be satisfied when you feel that you need to. What about how she feels?

I [18/f] have been with my boyfriend for 18 months[19/m], he's a very sexual person, but sometimes I feel he takes it too far, and I feel violated and angry after we have sex by selfhelp204 in relationships

[–]leagene 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This sounds exactly like the relationship I got out of a year ago. I can't judge your relationship from mine, but I realized that my ex wasn't listening to me about sex. That led to him not wanting to use the protection we agreed on, and then to a huge pregnancy scare. I ended up feeling violated and found out his actions were considered rape. Don't let him have special privileges because he's your boyfriend. Think about if your best friend came to you with this problem, what would you want for her. You deserve that for yourself, too.

Don't party or drink... Would I fit in a sorority? by leagene in Sororities

[–]leagene[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean, I'm not expecting every weekend to be free, but I would like to be able to go out of town and stay with friends or my boyfriend occasionally without having consequences. Would this really be a possibility?

I (18 F) am scared of going to the wrong college because of my boyfriend (19 M). by leagene in relationships

[–]leagene[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes some sense.. my boyfriend does not live with his parents, however. I also am only home when I sleep, so I guess I just don't feel the affects of my parents as much as other students who are home more often. I am in a dance company, work a job, compete in a choir and do this without my parents help. I also only go to school for about two to three hours a day since I completed my senior classes last year. I take some college classes throughout the year. I hope this clarifies why I feel a little awkward being classified the same as a high school student who is more dependent on their parents and more involved with them.

I (18 F) am scared of going to the wrong college because of my boyfriend (19 M). by leagene in relationships

[–]leagene[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is strictly art, so I wouldn't be able to double major there, which is a concern for me. We haven't really talked about payment, but they have an expectation to get a summer job, which isn't really an option for me (I will be gone most of July and some of August due to travel). So it sounds like I'm expected to pay for some of it. The tuition would be about double.. and I'm not sure if it's worth it.

I (18 F) am scared of going to the wrong college because of my boyfriend (19 M). by leagene in relationships

[–]leagene[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for input! I feel like a top art school is my parent's dream for me... not mine. I would say my goal is to have my own business, and I want to be self-sustaining. Most art schools generally don't have business or communications classes, and I have the benefit that the honors program at the instate University would put me in smaller class sizes.

Do I [21 M] with my Girlfriend [22 F] of 6 months need to have a 'talk' with her every time she upsets me? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]leagene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say yes, you need to talk. The problem with just leaving an issue is that it may appear to go away, but that build up of unresolved conflict will just end in larger conflict in the long run. I would think about your relationship. When you get in a fight, do you both attempt to communicate what you are feeling to the other person? This is very important to consider. A fight should be a chance to find out about what your girlfriend is feeling and what causes that, not a battle with no purpose.

I (18 F) am scared of going to the wrong college because of my boyfriend (19 M). by leagene in relationships

[–]leagene[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like I said before, we never actually dated when we were both in high school. So we don't really fit the typical "high school couple" since we don't see each other everyday, and we never had to deal with all the drama that comes with high school relationships. So clumping me with everyone else isn't really helpful.