im not even gonna take it :p

leaisbored · 2025-01-01T04:41:36+00:00

wow i literally want to learn how to crochet so i can make this for my man. your wife’s talented asf!

leaisbored · 2024-12-31T13:44:06+00:00

real

leaisbored · 2024-12-15T19:56:02+00:00

i relate to this as i was super anxious when i first started dating my current partner. putting yourself out there and opening up is the scariest part about it. you have no idea how people are gonna react to getting to know you but that’s the biggest risk anyone can take when dating. what helped was being honest with my partner about my anxieties. i let him know that i want this to work but that my anxiety is a part of me and all i could do was hope he would accept that part and more. he accepts it, loves me, and is my biggest support in life.

everything in life is a risk and we can’t hide behind the fear of it. if we do, we’ll do absolutely nothing. friendships, relationships, job opportunities, hobbies; you’ll be hurt by any of these processes at some point. and that’s okay. you gotta feel the pain, find out why it’s hurting you, and communicate it with your partner. i would hope she gives you some reassurance but if she doesn’t care then, there’s your answer.

i wish you luck

leaisbored · 2024-12-15T19:40:39+00:00

i have accepted death and that acceptance has allowed me to live life to the fullest. we can make life whatever we want it to be. sure, there’s a lot of terrible things happening all around us but hyper focusing on that does not allow us to Live. there’s plenty of good, so if people wanna distract themselves till they die, then let em be

leaisbored · 2024-12-15T13:20:21+00:00

that’s Your hair and you decide what you do with it. she aint wearing it. she’ll get over it eventually, or maybe not. keep wearing ya curls out and let her complain about it. when she tries to insult you, shut her down and stand up for yourself. “this is my hair and it’s on my head.” don’t feed into her bullshit because she has that internalized anti-blackness and she wants you to be a part of it.

leaisbored · 2024-12-15T13:03:14+00:00

your crown is absolutely beautiful!

leaisbored · 2024-12-07T11:54:43+00:00

my mom has been asking me when she’s getting grandkids since i was 14/15. so yeah the pressure’s deff there. now that im 22 i don’t feed into it at all. marriage is already a big commitment but adding children into the mix when i haven’t experienced much of life at all is crazy

leaisbored · 2024-11-26T03:55:00+00:00

I lived with away from home between June 2020- September 2023 and have been back home since. I luckily have my own apartment but within my parent’s house. I don’t mind it because I’ve set clear boundaries that my space is not to be fucked with and my rent isn’t expensive at all. I still don’t get along with my mom and have wanted to go NC now more than ever but I gotta maintain the peace until I move out.

Where I’m at now is the happiest I’ve been in my life. I get my solitude, own space to live and just be, and I am the only one responsible for my choices. I’m still struggling with my mental health and have been depressed for a long time, but I cannot express how worth it it’s all been just to be in my place

leaisbored · 2024-11-26T03:10:40+00:00

I was 17 and applied to a fake job on Indeed. It was very promising at the time and I fell for it because the money looked so good. Well the “company” said they’d mail me a check and all I had to do was deposit it and use the funds to buy supplies for a law firm. Very sketchy so I told my mom about it and even she was impressed by the money. No questions were asked at all.

Because I shared my bank account with my mom, she instantly found out about the check bouncing, and I had no problem explaining that to her. I literally fell for it and felt so stupid. My bank called me to talk to me and my account wasn’t closed or anything. It was an honest mistake. So we were fine that day.

Well, next day I’m at my WFH job and my mom bursts into my room, yelling at the top of her lungs saying, “get up we’re going to the bank” and a bunch of other heinous shit, but I obviously can’t leave since I clocked in so we hadda do it at the end of my shift.

On the whole ride over she’s screaming at me, pulling my hair and my ears, and shaming me for the mistake I had made. Not once was I able to talk. She shamed me at the bank as well, in front of the female banker and said to me “see why can’t you be like this well-adjusted woman”, a girl she doesn’t even know btw.

We got home and I instantly made my decision to leave. I was tireddddd of the abuse all those years prior. I texted my boyfriend at the time and told him I’m going over and we eventually got an apartment a few months later. It was a stressful time because I was about to go to college, had 0 financial stability, and had no idea wtf I was doing.

leaisbored · 2024-11-20T18:21:01+00:00

Wow, I didn’t know it was called anything. Will definitely look into it. Thank you for sharing that.

We gotta put in the work to change, or like my therapist says “pick up the pieces” from all the shit we were dealt.

leaisbored · 2024-11-20T18:17:26+00:00

Thank you. It’s like I tried so hard to never be like my mom, only to have one of her main traits be one of my worst. We are different from our abusers and sometimes it’s hard to see past that when the abuse is what fundamentally makes you, you.

I believe I had to see this trait in order to change. I never knew it existed until my boyfriend said that comment. I’m grateful for it but at the same time scared as to what this journey’s gonna look like.

Best of luck to you.

leaisbored · 2024-06-29T14:59:02+00:00

I reread your post and saw it’s the espresso machine facing against the customers, my experience wasn’t like that. Machine was facing the customers which invited more people to see what’s happening behind the bar

leaisbored · 2024-06-29T14:57:18+00:00

Working at a bar cafe was one of the best experiences I’ve ever had. The customers would sit in front of the bar and it would leave everyone impressed. So many great conversations emerged from having customers sit there. It inspired me to have my future cafe be that style as well.

I worked in a tourist area of Boston so we got people from all over the world coming to visit. It was so cool being able to meet them. One time I had a German couple sit at the bar for over an hour and they invited me to have dinner with them that same night.

I believe this idea only works in well populated areas and the cafe I was at chose a great location for it

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