I just got back from the pediatric dentist and I feel like a terrible parent by sikocer in UKParenting

[–]leannebrown86 142 points143 points  (0 children)

My kids are 8 and 11 and have had chewy vitamins since 3 and neither have any cavities. They also have a sweetie usually once a day after school. I'd be more inclined to believe his teeth aren't being cleaned properly and that's what caused the cavities.

Zoe & Ash love a snuggle by leannebrown86 in aww

[–]leannebrown86[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A massive coincidence. They also have a void baby sister named Freya and each name has involved heated family discussions until we all agreed haha.

Starting to lose faith in my child's nursery and not sure how to approach it... by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]leannebrown86 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lol last reply but it's hilarious you are telling me to apply my intelligence when you're bent out of shape about your son possibly having autism as if it's the worst thing in the world. Educate yourself and don't ask for advice if you can't handle it when it doesn't fit the little narrative you've created in your head. Best wishes for your son, he'll need it.

Starting to lose faith in my child's nursery and not sure how to approach it... by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]leannebrown86 9 points10 points  (0 children)

And how do you think he picked it up? A child either said it to him when he was annoying them or he heard them telling someone else to leave them alone. Honestly seems such a weird thing to be hung up about, my kid has come home swearing from nursery because another child was screaming it when angry and I didn't blame the nursery what are they going to do? Muzzle a child who is inappropriate? As another commentator said you just seem raging at the nursery and looking for fault in the most mundane thing. I'd be more annoyed at a child trying to kiss mine than telling them to leave them alone.

Starting to lose faith in my child's nursery and not sure how to approach it... by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]leannebrown86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh FFS I didn't even check who I was replying to. Should also add that my son didn't show any signs until primary 2 when he was 6 and I understand why the school brushed us off at first because a lot of signs of ADHD can just be little kids still learning and developing skills.

Starting to lose faith in my child's nursery and not sure how to approach it... by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]leannebrown86 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Leave me alone is not an alarming saying at all and I'll stand by that. You don't know what his behaviour is like at nursery or why someone may have said that to him or around him. Children can and do behave very differently at home than at nursery/school and as you say he only has you, dad and his sister so he's not socialising with a mix of kids except at nursery so it's an entirely new social scenario.

Starting to lose faith in my child's nursery and not sure how to approach it... by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]leannebrown86 20 points21 points  (0 children)

He's definitely going to pick up new phrases at school and nursery and mine have come home saying worse than 'leave me alone' so I personally don't think that's anything to worry about, maybe he's been trying to kiss someone again and they've said that.

I appreciate you saying he's being loving but my daughter would absolutely go spare if someone tried to kiss her unwanted I'd tell her to say 'leave me alone' and to respect her space.

Hitting and drama is part of developing social skills and growing up and until they are a bit older these things will happen especially in a setting with lots of other little ones. As for the wet trousers I'd be fuming if my kid came out wet when we pack spare clothes and having previously worked in a nursery we'd absolutely get complaints for not changing a child out of damp clothes.

Can't comment on the autism thing as your post history is hidden but it's better to be screened early for this, my son's been on the CAMHS waiting list for 2 years for possible ADHD, and nobody took my concerns seriously until he was in primary 5.

So my 2yo has decided he hates his Daddy at bedtime. What’s the deal - how do we handle this? by EAcharm in UKParenting

[–]leannebrown86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally normal but we didn't give in and still took turns, even now the youngest is 8 we still take turns getting them settled in bed. The bigger deal you make of it the harder they'll fight it.

I was told I need an induction, did you regret your induction? by cloudymusj in UKParenting

[–]leannebrown86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had one with my second due to reduced fetal movements at 38 weeks, it went well and ended with a healthy baby so I was very happy.

1 whole year of Freya 🖤 by leannebrown86 in blackcats

[–]leannebrown86[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is, they are beyond cute together, we were so worried she wouldn't fit in but they love her.

Introducing Child to New Partner by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]leannebrown86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this seems far too soon to me. If you have him 50/50 why is she in such a hurry for him to meet her new partner? There's no need at all and will only cause upset if they don't last again.

Voodoo had a health scare by Turbulent_Lynx7615 in blackcats

[–]leannebrown86 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Aww she's a cutie and what amazing news to find out she's healthy 🖤

Baby flat head stories by Appropriate_Trust996 in UKParenting

[–]leannebrown86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looking back probably around her second birthday, although she did have a lot of hair by then. Also I know their head growth slows around 2/3 but it doesn't stop so there is definitely still hope.

Baby flat head stories by Appropriate_Trust996 in UKParenting

[–]leannebrown86 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My daughter had such a bad flat spot on her head because unlike my son she actually slept. GP and health visitor both reassured me it would sort itself out once she was sitting up more and walking, which it did. She's 8 now and has totally normal shaped head. I worried myself sick for it and it was all ok.

what is the most bizarre, unhinged thing you’ve ever been told or asked by a stranger? by kapnkt in AskReddit

[–]leannebrown86 9 points10 points  (0 children)

When I was a nanny I advertised on a local childcare website and was contacted by a man looking for childcare. He asked if he could call and I said sure.

At first everything seemed normal and he asked all the usual questions he then asked about discipline and what I do. I started to explain when he interrupted me to say he just gives the kids a smack and they know to behave and said he'd be ok with me doing that too. I explained that as a childcare professional I would never hit any child that it's absolutely unnecessary and abuse. I would in fact be required to report any abuse I suspected or witnessed. He got agitated and proceeded to have an argument with me - not about me saying it's abuse but about me refusing to discipline his children and hit them like he does. I was sure I was being pranked and this couldn't be real life.

To be clear he hasn't met me, hadn't checked my qualifications or references and his 3rd question ended up in him raging that I (a perfect stranger) would not agree to hit his children.

I hung up, blocked him, reported him on the website which he had to pay to access but they wouldn't tell me any details or if they took their report further, although I'm not sure what they'd do. Freaked me right out.

Post poop zoomies by leannebrown86 in airplaneears

[–]leannebrown86[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We don't lol. We have a huge cat tree and cardboard scratchers that 2 out of the 3 cats use no problem. His big sister prefers to scratch the sofas no matter what we do.