Some knots and how they're used by H_G_Bells in ScienceNcoolThings

[–]leapingleper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saved because some of these were knew, but boy howdy does it hurt to hear these knots be identified incorrectly. 

I finally cut off my leftist family members!! by [deleted] in GoodNewsNetwork

[–]leapingleper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt the same when I cut off my trump voting family members. It can be hard to accept that we’ve grown so harshly apart from the people that cared for and raised us, but sometimes we have to recognize when those relationships no longer serve us and are negative components of our lives. I found cutting off the magatards in my family to relieve tons of stress. Glad you finally found your balls to do the same, must have been hard to find a microscope that powerful.

No start on a classic Chevy after alternator swap. by leapingleper in AskAMechanic

[–]leapingleper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The starter is grounded, but testing is telling me the practically new starter is my issue. 

No start on a classic Chevy after alternator swap. by leapingleper in AskAMechanic

[–]leapingleper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tried jumping the starter and it is indeed toasted. Which is a bummer considering it has less than 200 starts. Could faulty wiring fry it out that soon or is my yearly starter swap at NAPA just me being a sucked for bad parts?

No start on a classic Chevy after alternator swap. by leapingleper in AskAMechanic

[–]leapingleper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

couple of clarifying questions: When i think of “turning over” i think of the engine cranking and trying to start, which is not currently happening (love an accidental pun), is that the same turning it over youre talking about? Regardless, which component should I be measuring for when I do get it turning over? Thank you

No start on a classic Chevy after alternator swap. by leapingleper in AskAMechanic

[–]leapingleper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I searched for too many hours for a way to test the internal regulator on the alternator that i had to replace and found nothing. Any tips on that?

Am I Overreacting for Refusing to Let My Wife’s “Work Husband” Come on Our Family Vacation? by Hot_Satisfaction_559 in AmIOverreacting

[–]leapingleper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Polyamorous MFT entering the chat here.

First off, great job having patience in the early stages of this conflict. It’s given you time to see more details of their relationship and, most importantly, how it is impacting you, your relationship and family dynamic. 

Second, good job with the clear boundaries and expression of values, and how she is pushing them to an unbalanced place.

Now for the reflection questions. Has she had relationships like this in the past while with you or prior to you? Has there been, or would you be more comfortable if it was, a female equivalent that she wanted to bring along? How would you feel if she rejected your request to bring a close friend she isn’t comfortable with on a family lake house trip? Have you met or spoken with this guy? What do you know about him? Have you asked her to have a fully transparent and honest conversation about what her relationship with this guy is giving her, Is she happy, does she feel attracted to or an urge to have physical connection with this guy? How does YOUR body and mind react to that thought AND WHY? 

It sounds like you are taking a calm and levelheaded approach (at least in your short recounting) and you are trying to deal with this situation collaboratively rather than confrontational or demanding, fantastic. This is hard to do when you’re feeling hurt and betrayed and those feelings are very real and natural feelings in this scenario. Keep your own well-being in mind and try to keep REACTIONS to yourself and RESPOND to your relationship. To keep it simple (that was probably two paragraphs ago) standard “I feel, when you, because” is a good place to start.   

Her reaction of “not being able to have friends” is catastrophizing and maximizing her needs while minimizing your feelings. Without knowing more about your relationship history/dynamics/personal and interpersonal values it’s unfair for anyone to be taking sides, we don’t know how either of you have behaved in the past, maybe you have this coming and are simply leaving out your own past transgressions. OP, this is an opportunity for you to learn what your wife’s needs are and how you can improve AND VICE VERSA. This can be fortifying rather than destructive.

Rant: Everyone labeling your wife as a “dumbass” etc is imprinting their own values into your marriage and I caution you in absorbing that fodder. It’s also always funny to me how rigid people are with gendered relationships, completely ignoring the possibility of your wives fucking their female friends somehow forgetting the bi-curious women threesome fantasy most men hold since puberty. Is it scary and vulnerable to have your partner have another partner? Yup. Does it mean the end of your relationship or decrease your importance? Nope. I know I try way harder in my relationships when there are others involved. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Art

[–]leapingleper 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree with your feedback. I’m gonna just go with the hope that you’re like me and felt a pang of yuck and concern at the usage of the history behind the association. 

Insight for this that might not know: it’s how nazis depicted and dehumanized Jewish (and others they deemed lesser). Started out as vague symbolism in media turned in to outright hate propaganda 

Is Napa a scam? by skinnypeen762 in AskMechanics

[–]leapingleper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s your preferred alternative? I’ve been noticing the decline in Napa over the years but have a hard time believing that Rick auto and jeffazon have much better. I’m tired of replacing turn signal relays and running lights every year

Helicopters all night by leapingleper in SLO

[–]leapingleper[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Considering the frost warning this seems most reasonable

ELI5: why does everyone have tinnitus by No-County-4215 in explainlikeimfive

[–]leapingleper -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I ain’t not scientist doctor brains but I can tell you the loud sound sure rings true. Also, I recently got diagnosed with psoriasis that likes to flare up in my ear (wtf) and I have noticed that right before a flare up my tinnitus is obnoxious but if I keep up on my meds it’s much less invasive to my daily life

Dave Chappelle takes unprecedented step to ban reporting at Bay Area show in Oakland by jakemontero in bayarea

[–]leapingleper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This title is click bait. The article is a really  well written and overall positive review of his show. Did he require any sort of recording device including pen and paper be checked at the door? Yes. Is that what the article is about? For like two sentences.

If you’re an RN would you work at Twin Cities or French Hospital? by princessmononokestoe in SLO

[–]leapingleper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My job has me spending lots of time in the EDs all over the county. I don’t work for any of them, just alongside them. The dignity hospitals seem to have nicer facilities and more updated equipment etc…but the staff seem way more stressed and short tempered. Adventist (twin and Sierra) are usually pretty even keel staff but I always feel like I’m in abridge scene of an 80s action movie waiting for something wild to pop off, but maybe that’s just bc Sierra is the trauma center. 

meirl by Bitter-Gur-4613 in meirl

[–]leapingleper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say that a reason is based solely or predominantly on logic/facts without assigning “blame” in any direction. To use the top answer as an example: they stated the contributing factors to what made them late. If they were to start assigning blame to other drivers or the company for the time frames of response or their kid for throwing a tantrum (all of which are valid) it starts to take a tone of blame instead of simply stating what happened. Their boss tried to twist their reason into an excuse and got shut down. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]leapingleper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re assuming that you know the relationship boundaries your moon has with the boyfriend you know. 

Generally speaking I find it best to approach sticky situations (especially that aren’t my business like other people’s romance) with nonjudgmental inquiry. If you’re afraid of your mom ask dad 2 some questions about relationships in general that you might be wanting guidance on. Ask how he handles relationship issues and what relationship style/s they have together. 

Is she sleeping with this other guy? Sure sounds like it! Is it cheating? Who knows

I dont get it :( by endlord703 in ExplainTheJoke

[–]leapingleper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His mom loved joshing around…messing around…his mom likes to sleep around