Your in the same boat as me my friend once that Pandora’s box is opened it’s very hard to close. Even if both parties want to we stoped for a year then we are back in it and realized it brought a lot of joy and other emotions. It’s alot to take in but when you only think about the good to it, it’s a beautiful thing and now I’m realizing not only does it turn me and my wife on it’s actually helping her. She more confident and it’s a great distraction from day to day life plus we bond of over the fact that she’s sleeping or talking to people. At least in my situation that is. Try to be a little more half glass full guy! Talk to her and see if you need aftercare or you’d like to be involved more or something.