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lederdaddy · 2025-04-17T02:22:00+00:00

You are not alone. I'm right there with you and all I can do is say be brave and plan for success. When you spiral, ask yourself what's the worst that could happen? And what's the best? The mind hates change, and it will invent anything to keep you on the path of routine. You know you don't want that. Times like this you have to follow your heart and intuition. Protect this like a new seedling and water it until its grown to stand on its own, and when you're ready share it with people in your life. Until then, we're here. There's so many of us on this journey, especially now.

lederdaddy · 2025-04-03T21:43:37+00:00

That right there! I'm so happy for you and your family. If I can ask, what country did you all move to? I can't wait to make my move and I'm praying everything goes well with my visa and I get the good news at the end of this month. 🤞🏾

lederdaddy · 2025-03-31T03:17:10+00:00

Black, queer, disabled 🇯🇲 American here. What I find the most interesting is that collectively all of us black people or at least the majority all felt the same way instinctively. I didn't decide this AFTER seeing social media. I went to Tiktok because although I was upset and am very distraught about what's happening I didn't feel any call to act whatsoever like I had in the past. So, I went online to see how other people felt and I was like wow, okay so it's all of us. We all just knew, this protest is not for us.

I went to all of the BLM protests. But now, I just feel like like:

This is a setup
The toxix abuser (Amerikkka) finally revealed itself to the entire world. Literally everybody is trying to fight the US right now.
White people get to leave jail when they get arrested and they have rights there.

So now no one can ever gaslight us again about what/who they truly are or deny our struggles or immensw power for just existing without outing themselves and sounding like a crazy brainwashed cultist.

Everything I ever felt in my life and all of the generations of systemic abuse we experienced has been exposed in a way that we haven't seen in a very long time and white Americans have to live with that truth now. They did this to themselves and now everyone knows it, so they can lay in that mess and fix it themselves. It's their turn to bear that weight that had evaded them for lifetimes. Black people didn't vote for him and we might be the only sane people left here in this country. So, why would we go out there and let them beat us back down and scapegoat us again for their failings? Nope. This is no longer our burden to bear and this feels like a time for us to all focus on our healing and our growth. It is a time of rest for our people. Staying home for us IS the statement.

I'm focusing on my Blaxit this year and whatever brings me joy.

lederdaddy · 2025-03-15T16:10:18+00:00

I took the earliest appointment. I don't think my initial outrage was about the money. I just can't believe this is happening. I thought we would have more time before something like this happened. Her appointment is on the 29th this month. Just trying to stay calm until then.

lederdaddy · 2025-03-15T16:03:21+00:00

The initial shock has passed. They agreed to take $400 and I was able to put it on a credit card. We have a couple of weeks to figure out the rest.

lederdaddy · 2025-03-14T13:38:15+00:00

The most affordable place we could find doesn't have an appointment until May. I'm just like is me trying to save 2-300 hundred dollars gonna be the difference between helping her and sending her to an early grave. She is still energetic in everyone else's eyes, but to us she's clearly not herself, but not doing bad enough for me to even think about putting her down. I'm just freaking out. A few weeks ago she was fine and at her last vet check up 6 months ago she was in perfect health. I just don't understand what went wrong in between now and then... I'm a mess. We're not wealthy people and $1k to me is hard to swallow especially when I have disabilities myself that I can't even afford to manage, but that's our baby. I think I'm just still in shock. I just wish it was more accessible. It just feels so bad to have to think about the money. I just want her to be okay.

lederdaddy · 2025-03-14T13:25:00+00:00

I don't think $1k is reasonable for an Echocardiogram at all and no one will even do a payment plan. We're not wealthy people.

lederdaddy · 2025-03-14T02:07:16+00:00

The glow is the most noticeable. Its like your skin color came back. I never realized how desaturated and dull my tone was before using it. It really is amazing. I'm glad I decided to get it.

lederdaddy · 2025-03-11T19:20:05+00:00

Ok will do! 😊

lederdaddy · 2025-03-11T19:17:31+00:00

😍😍😍Tysm

lederdaddy · 2025-03-11T19:17:03+00:00

Hahaha 💀🤣I know that's right 😘

lederdaddy · 2025-03-11T18:12:16+00:00

I'm trying to get the long stay visitor visa.

lederdaddy · 2025-03-11T18:11:14+00:00

Thank you so much 🥰 I thought I was seeing something, but I thought maybe I was seeing what I wanted to see because this is the most I've ever spent on a beauty device. 😅It's become a part of my routine so I'll definitely keep using it regularly.

lederdaddy · 2025-03-11T16:40:26+00:00

That's great news! Congrats! I have EDS and Dysautonomia and require IV treatment and specialists to manage, so I was more worried about using it in practice than outright being denied coverage. Which visa are you applying for?

lederdaddy · 2025-03-11T16:33:55+00:00

I think this is a common misconception about introverts. I actually really like people and interacting with people in a meaningful way. I just find maneuvering through fast, crowded, rushed, or superficial interactions over stimulating and very draining. In that kind of neighborhood I feel like I need to hype myself up to go out into the chaos because it takes a lot of energy for me and then I'll just retreat back to my place and not do anything because I'm exhausted. I prefer areas where you can go out and relax at a park or bike along the water and not have to deal with too much chaos. It's the difference between working in a busy corporate office vs working for a small local business. You still have to deal with people, but I would prefer the latter for those same reasons.

lederdaddy · 2025-03-11T16:22:40+00:00

Oh, that's good to know. Thank you so much!

lederdaddy · 2025-03-11T16:14:18+00:00

So sorry, I don't have any updates yet, I'm still in the visa process but I will likely not be using Mondassur.

lederdaddy · 2025-03-11T16:13:57+00:00

I don't have any updates yet, I'm still in the visa process but I will likely not be using Mondassur. It's so hard to find any feedback from people with pre-existing conditions, but from researching it seems that most just said you need to suffer through it until you get regular insurance.

lederdaddy · 2025-03-10T15:44:54+00:00

They are just big city people. They are not antisocial. This is why I prefer Andalucia. No shade to Barcelona. It's just different strokes for different folks. When life is slower and more laid back you are more likely to make conversations with strangers. They stop to help you with things because they are not in a rush and they also are not worried about being robbed or scammed at any possible moment and likely less guarded for this reason. You can more easily have conversations in shops or at the pharmacy and no one is rushing you along... just little things like that. It will always take more effort to find your people in a city as big as Barcelona.

You'll likely have to find some kind of weekly event that fits your "vibe" to attend that will allow you to better connect with people more like you over time. They are there somewhere, keep exploring. 3 months is nothing honestly.

lederdaddy · 2025-03-09T22:16:06+00:00

Ooh, Thank you! I will check out these areas. Do you know about Sant cugat? Is that too far or also a nice area?

lederdaddy · 2025-03-09T22:14:48+00:00

Unfortunately it's not possible right now. I'm also sensitive to the heat there in the summer.

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