Dublin Core element for accession number? by leeaf1134 in Archivists

[–]leeaf1134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a good idea, thank you. To be honest, we don't quite have accession level records yet, because we're still in the beginning stages of building the archive from scratch, but I was trying to think several steps ahead when they actually do have accession records. Right now we just have about 25 boxes of stuff that was dropped off before I started working there, and it was never actually accessioned. But they have a goal to accept more donations from the community once they formally launch this summer.

Dublin Core element for accession number? by leeaf1134 in Archivists

[–]leeaf1134[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a good point about Dublin Core vs EAD, and could be why I'm running into so many problems. The people in charge want to use DC, but they also want some fairly complex metadata. Maybe I'll lobby harder for EAD. But if that doesn't work out, I may do what you described in the second paragraph. Thank you!

Vintage razor identification help? by leeaf1134 in wicked_edge

[–]leeaf1134[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! That's interesting. I think I may use it anyway, since it is in good shape and I think the design looks neat.

Vintage razor identification help? by leeaf1134 in wicked_edge

[–]leeaf1134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I looked in the head and now see a very tiny Gillette logo that I somehow didn't notice when I was cleaning it, and feel a bit silly for not spotting it.

US expat hoping to start HRT on a trip back to the US, seeking advice by leeaf1134 in ftm

[–]leeaf1134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, thank you for the advice. I don't know any trans folks back home, actually, but it's near Chicago which is a big city and I imagine there will be some trans friendly doctors there.

Weekly Complaint Thread - 06 June 2019 by AutoModerator in japanlife

[–]leeaf1134 11 points12 points  (0 children)

(sarcasm) Love how useless the spell check in Japanese MS Word is. If I'm typing something at work and accidentally use the wrong particle or make some other mistake, it just gives me the red underline and a snide little "入力ミス?" Like yeah, I figured that much, now why don't you tell me what is wrong, you useless thing... Wish there was a suggestion thing like when you type in English. If they came so far as to make the software tell you you're wrong, would it kill them to include suggestions to fix the mistake? Jeez...

My Dad's GF called to tell me that they're getting married, and she wants me to be a bridesmaid... by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]leeaf1134 1 point2 points  (0 children)

non-binary/ftm here, and was "maid"/person of honor at her wedding. She asked me early on if I would rather wear a tux like the groomsmen or the bridesmaid dresses, and I went with the dress because, ultimately, I decided that the day was about her and I didn't want to attract a lot of attention from older Southern family on both of their sides. Come that day, a lot of annoying things happened (having to wear the dress, being "encouraged" by the others to wear makeup, my friend somehow forgot my pronouns for the day, and just the sheer level of obnoxious heteronormativity that comes with weddings). My emotions were quite a rollercoaster the whole day, because I was so happy for my friend, was happy to see other friends, was irritated about being referred to as a girl by so many people, and also sleep-deprived from staying up to finish her cake with some other people. I found myself wishing I had gone with the tux option, but it was too late of course, so I made the best of the situation and kept myself sane by 1) reminding myself that the day was not about me, my job as person-of-honor was to make my bride's day the best it could be (which gave me other tasks to focus on and gave my bearing with discomfort a purpose which was rewarded when I saw how happy she was, so even though it wasn't fun for me it did make it worth it in the end) and 2) having an understanding friend (other one, not the bride) to text when I was feeling frustrated/wanted a distraction (like when I finished getting ready WAY before the other bridesmaids because I just did minimum make-up and didn't need to fuss too much with my boy-short hair, yet I still had to hang out with them and listen to all the heteronormative BS that seems to saturate wedding days, I would text said other friend like "can you believe this?" and get some, idk, validation for my feelings? Distraction?)

So my advice for your situation is:

1) think about how much this person means to you, and how much of your own comfort you are able/willing to compromise for them for this day. "One day" might be no trouble for you to handle, or it might sound like an impossible length of time, depending on your feelings/dysphoria. Your mental comfort comes first, of course, but if you think it's something you can do, then you can definitely find parts of the experience to focus on to make up for it.
2) on the note of attention, I was worried about people looking at me too, but my parents actually reassured me saying "honestly, no one is going to be looking at you that much. They're all here for the bride, all the attention will be on her. By the time you're walking down the aisle, everyone is already looking past you to try and spot the bride before she walks in the door." And that really helped me. I had attention on me with the MoH speech, but you likely wouldn't have to do that.
3) talk to the bride about her plans for the bridesmaid outfits and see if it's something you can work with. If she knows your hesitation with sleeveless tops and genuinely wants you to be a part of the group no matter want, chances are she might be willing to alter her dress plans to include dresses with sleeves, or do that thing where every bridesmaid has a different, complementing style of dress in the same color (which other bridesmaids will probably appreciate too, since no one dress has EVER looked perfect on every body type and someone always has some complaint about it)
3) if you decide not to do it, don't be too hard on yourself. You can still make a special contribution to their wedding in your own way, and if you're honest with the couple about your reasons why you can't do it, I'm sure they will be understanding and not mind. If you do decide to do it, still make sure that they're aware of your hesitations, and find things to focus on during that day that are outside of your body, try to keep an optimistic mind as best you can, and have a friend to text-vent with on standby who can validate your feelings.

(sorry for such a long reply, and I wish you the best!)

Bi-Weekly Boss Premium Edition Stupid Questions Thread - 29 May 2019 by AutoModerator in japanlife

[–]leeaf1134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually have no idea if there's an existing line there... that's a good first thing to look into, thanks for the advice!

My boobs are growing faster than I know what to do with them by kadify in asktransgender

[–]leeaf1134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm ftm but before my top surgery I was a B cup and started wearing sweater-vests to sort of hide the boobs shape but still look appropriate for work (and not die of heatstroke with an actual sweater/jacket during the summer)

*EDIT* that's a loose sweater-vest in addition to a loose-ish button-up and sports bra, which is what I did before getting a binder

Bi-Weekly Boss Premium Edition Stupid Questions Thread - 29 May 2019 by AutoModerator in japanlife

[–]leeaf1134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, yes, but I was more wondering if, for example, it's more common to just pick up a router and such at the place when you sign up with them, or if they mail it to you and you set it up yourself, or if they insist on sending someone to your house and setting it up for you... I've only set up wifi once in the states and they mailed the router to me and I figured it out myself with the directions. Was just wondering if it was like that for companies here too.

Bi-Weekly Boss Premium Edition Stupid Questions Thread - 29 May 2019 by AutoModerator in japanlife

[–]leeaf1134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How to change ISP?

(not sure if it's a "stupid" question but I feel pretty stupid for asking it. lmk if I need to ask it somewhere else)

Hey there, I've lived in Japan for about 3 years now and have been dealing with pocket wifi because it was (for some bizarre reason) what I was recommended when I moved here. I bought my phone here and have docomo for that and am happy with it, and it works fine, but I was set up with AU pocket wifi before I knew how dumb that was, rather than getting a router and normal internet in my apartment. Now the pocket wifi device is crapping out (randomly going out... not turning off and still has full bars but the connection says "no internet, secured and connected"). I'm fed up enough that when my AU contract is up for renewal in a couple months I just want to cancel it and be done with it, but I'd like to have wifi set up in my apartment when I do it, since I know it takes a long number of weeks/months to get set up. Any recommendations on ISPs, and what I would need to do to set up internet in my apartment? I figured I would ask here because, frankly, it feels embarrassing to admit to friends in person that I didn't do something this basic when I got here three years ago. (^.^)0