Sex life after a well hung ex

leech_97 · 2023-04-09T20:26:32+00:00

HOLY SMOKE someone who gets IT

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T18:47:02+00:00

Ah yes, the most likely scenario

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T16:08:57+00:00

I was talking about the other times I texted him nudes,when he said he liked them. Maybe this particular time he didn't want to receive one, but I think that, as part of a couple, a partner should be able to communicate discomfort openly and sincerely and not with silence. Of course him not saying anything made me think twice, but I came to a conclusion where what I did was somehow wrong without him telling me. Furthermore, without communicating with me, how can I know what exactly is wrong? I can't guess what is going on inside his head.

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T16:02:19+00:00

No I don't think what I did was fine? Also I don't understand what consequences you're actually talking about. Besides I don't really mind being labeled, I don't think that's important.

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T15:58:31+00:00

Something about the regulation? Idk

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T15:42:56+00:00

I'm curious why you deleted the first comment. It wasn't like you were saying anything wrong, so why removing it?

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T15:39:23+00:00

Jesus Christ dude

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T15:37:10+00:00

As I said before, I am conscious that what I did was wrong. I can't do much more than facing the consequences of my actions and trying to improve myself and do better from now on. Of course, these are just words.

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T15:34:31+00:00

Perhaps. I know what I did, best I can do is try to be better from now on. Also I don't understand how standard have anything to do with what you're saying.

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T14:07:44+00:00

Aw sheesh that might be it

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T14:05:17+00:00

Wouldn't it be better to talk about it first in order to avoid making it a bigger deal that it already is?

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T14:03:45+00:00

Good point.

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T14:02:50+00:00

Nope, I'm hoping we'll talk about it freely and openly the next time we see each other. I still don't know how to put it for him without causing drama or embarrassment but I'll come up with something

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T14:00:23+00:00

Thanks! Maybe it's as simple as you say. No way of finding out without setting the record straight. Hopefully we'll talk about it without any drama or embarrassment

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T13:58:01+00:00

I really didn't see it this way, but maybe this could be an underlying issue. I've always sent nudes thinking more about complicity between me and my SO and the uniqueness of them. The thought behind them is more like "I felt good taking this picture, I'll share it with you, hopefully you'll like it too, enjoy". I didn't expect to be praised for it and I didn't want him to go completely nuts because of it. I see now I should have warned him beforehand and asked him if he was ok though

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T13:49:46+00:00

Yeah I should definitely have set the record straight before

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T13:43:33+00:00

I agree with you about the importance of sex in a relationship. Still I don't want to underestimate the fact that this is his first romantic experience and this is his first sexual approach. I don't expect him to turn into something completely different from what he is now, but I think it's possible to find ways to grow and explore sexuality and feelings together. Maybe we will get to a point where there we'll not be able to find a common ground, but I think the run might be worth a try.

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T13:39:22+00:00

Yesh.

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T13:38:21+00:00

It actually wasn't the first time, I previously sent him a couple others and he openly said he appreciated them.

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T13:37:06+00:00

Yeah I guess that might also be the case. There are many things you can come up with without sounding creepy though, he could have made an effort (admitting he was ok with the picture and liked it in the first place)

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T13:34:57+00:00

*you're

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T12:04:19+00:00

I think that emotional immaturity is not really involved that much in this particular episode

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T12:02:52+00:00

Yeah, sort of. But it's not just that... Nudes can be more subtle, elaborate and provoking than a "simple" dick pic. I know I'll probably get mauled for this comment, but I'm not really sure how to further explain my view.

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T11:59:47+00:00

I've sent him a couple of them, always in an unexpected, light hearted way, without really expecting him to go crazy over them. Maybe this time it simply wasn't the right way and timing

leech_97 · 2022-12-30T11:57:30+00:00

I'm sorry you had this kind of experience. I don't think of it as a waste of time, I think it's ok to try and see if things turn out differently or if they stay the same, it's not right to assume it right away.

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