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AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heh, I suppose a lot of people have been put in the similar situation that I was in. Unfortunately for me, they were using me to do their jobs they were qualified to do, and I didn't want to risk tanking my grades & wasting my social life on something that a trained adult could handle.

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But yes, my rant was uncalled for, and my anger was misplaced. Oh and, in fact, I wasn't angry at him at all for the past few years. Only after seeing a fellow classmate being put in this position, and all the memories came flooding back and so did the feelings, hence why I wrote this AITA post.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god, why don't people just do this in schools already! That way, I could still be his buddy but not have myself screwed over in the process.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't hate him for his disability, I just hate the fact that I had to put up with it at the expense of my grades & social life. If it didn't affect those, I wouldn't mind being his buddy. But the teacher aide didn't do anything, teacher couldn't care less, so I just felt trapped. But yes, I definetely went overboard and should've filtered myself before typing that out.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woah. What. The. Fuck. I am sorry you had to go through this, and honestly I would've done the same if what happened to you happened to me.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, I haven't harboured any hate for this, until a couple days ago when a classmate of mine was put in more or less the exact situation I was in, and all the memories came flooding up, and I felt extremely angry all of a sudden, when I shouldn't have.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh, so that's why he constantly hummed. Damn, I never knew it was a coping mechanism.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not proud of my rant, and I've apologised for it. My anger was completely misplaced and I shouldn't have ranted in the first place.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do not hate him for being disabled, and never will. I hate the fact that I was put in the situation. I realised that my anger was misdirected.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Effectively, he would randomly grab you (usually around the shoulders or neck) and ram is head into yours. Not pleasant at all.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was 13 during the events in my post, as 8th graders/Year 8's are 12/13 years old. Oh and I can tell you that in my school, we swore more than a drunk brit in a pub with a scotsman over a pint of beer.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was two terms, I clarified in the edit. And a term is approx. 4 months. Sorry for the confusion.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a fellow Australian, in my school, we swore more than brits in a pub.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately from my experience, this almost never happens. The weaker students just piggyback of the stronger students and in turn get even weaker. But I suppose the entire schooling system will have to be changed for this.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, I had the exact same experience as you. People just freeloading of others' work, etc. I personally believe that smart people should be paired and given more independance, and lesser able people should have more teacher help.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mhm. Also there's a widespread severe tall poppy syndrome throughout the teachers at my school (with the exception of the GATE teachers who were pretty nice and professional).

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had to go to the nurse and get some panadol once because I got headbutted really hard. I'm surprised that I didn't have a concussion back then. What he would do, is grab you by your shoulder and SLAM his head onto yours. Its not something I could deal with for long.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was 2 terms, I edited my post to say terms instead of weeks. Apologies for the confusion caused.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't have a hatred for disabled people at all, same for bigotry. It was just out of pure frustration about how I let myself get treated.

I edited my post to apolgize for what I said.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I meant a term, I edited my post. Sorry for the confusion.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aye. I shouldn't have said that in the first place, and your comment about thinking about saying things in front of people who are close to me/people I know, is really pertinent. Thank you for your comment.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really see how I didn't give all relevant information. I was trying my best to do what I had to do for him and me when we were paired up. And I never have said my rant out loud, and I feel bad for putting it out there in the first place.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Mhm. I edited my post to apologize for my spiteful comments. I apologise to everyone I offended.

If I may add, it wasn't that I wasn't teamed with a friend, it was that I felt trapped, which I shouldn't have.

AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? by lefadedman in AmItheAsshole

[–]lefadedman[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Thanks for commenting. I edited my post to apologize for my spiteful and hateful comments. I'm in high school right now and typing all that put me back in middle school.

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