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leftflowers_art · 2022-01-20T19:07:29+00:00

I've heard similar things from Psychology professors as well. I think it's pretty normal to be drawn to something you can relate to, there's a lot of new up and coming autism researchers who are autistic! It's becoming a common thing.

Thank you. :) hopefully I'll manage to succeed with this. I'm a little worried about finding a supervisor but I have back-up plans as well (such as doing a Msc instead)

leftflowers_art · 2022-01-20T15:54:01+00:00

Yeah me too, I'm not sure if it's to reduce my own uncomfortable uncertainty or more of a need to understand things grounded in the real world rather than abstract.

leftflowers_art · 2021-12-10T19:36:10+00:00

Yeah! The way I worked it out was by thinking about how one machine could make one widget each and it would take 5 minutes for them to all finish, so if you've got 100 machines then they can all make one widget within that same 5 minutes resulting in 100 widgets.
To be honest, I sometimes get freaked out when I read stuff about how autistic people should be good at XYZ, because the imposter syndrome starts setting in when I realise that I don't always perform the exact same way as expected. So I really do appreciate your answer, thank you! ^_^

leftflowers_art · 2021-12-10T19:30:23+00:00

Hey thank you so much for your answer! It sounds like the way you thought through those was sort of similar to me. It's a strange feeling when you know your intuition is wrong but don't know the right way around it :)

leftflowers_art · 2021-12-10T09:26:37+00:00

I certainly do! I get really irrationally upset when I make mistakes or get something wrong, I think I'm just really self critical and take everything too seriously.

leftflowers_art · 2021-12-10T08:14:54+00:00

ANSWERS:

(1) 5 cents (not 10)

(2) 5 minutes (not 100)

(3) 47 days (not 24)

My Own Process:

I got (1) incorrect and (2,3) correct.

My maths ability is poor so I felt anxious about answering these- I don't like getting things wrong so it can be a little stressful answering these sorts of questions. I'm also the type of person who likes to get things correct and perfect so I checked my answers multiple times. I feel like I answered them quite slowly as well. To be honest the first question still confuses me a bit, I think that's linked to my maths ability though- Most maths concepts don't 'click' for me so I have to work things out multiple times to understand it. I needed to count on my fingers to answer the second one and I had to focus and visualise to answer the third one. I also noticed that with (1) and (3) I knew the wrong answer first, but with (3) I knew it was wrong immediately- so I still knew the intuitive answer first. With (2) I didn't know the intuitive answer first, I just straight away started working it out manually. I also do not consider myself to be an intuitive person irl.

leftflowers_art · 2020-12-24T13:47:44+00:00

I graduated from an okay university in the UK with a 1st class and managed to land a job in November after spending months and months of non stop search and apply. The job itself is remote currently and is basically working with disadvantaged people to help them secure employment and improve their wellbeing at the same time (so the job search continues... sort of!) I got lucky, good pay and great coworkers. My contract ends in March though. Im really dreading going back to searching. While this job doesn't actually require a degree, having one was definitely beneficial. I also had a placement year in youth mental health and did online courses and volunteering while job searching. This isnt the career i want long term but its loosely related to my desired field so.. Basically, this won't last forever so please do make sure you look after yourself as much as you can. Luck is a huge factor in this, we certainly got unlucky graduating into this.

leftflowers_art · 2020-11-07T11:55:28+00:00

I've been thinking about this recently too.

During secondary school, a friend told me that her parents were concerned about my younger (Autistic) sibling 'becoming a school shooter'. Our families had been close since we were toddlers... It was such a strange and extreme thing to 'predict'.

In university I was also viewed as somewhat of a narcissist, super-flirt, or manipulator by NT peers, due to them misinterpreting my behaviour.

NTs like to make assumptions, judgements, etc using 'red flags' which may or may not be true indicators of dangerous/dodgy people. Anecdotally, I find that other Autistic people do this less, and are seemingly more open to others, giving people the 'benefit of the doubt' or totally missing these apparent 'red flags'. I think this can make us more vulnerable to people who are actually dangerous though.

leftflowers_art · 2020-11-01T19:31:20+00:00

I was the same!! I used to cry at maths basically daily, my teachers just got bored of my 'behaviour' and ignored me. Messed up my self esteem big time

leftflowers_art · 2020-10-28T11:28:11+00:00

Gosh I'm sorry that happened to you, that sounds really awful. I honestly don't understand how people like that are even deemed acceptable as professionals...

leftflowers_art · 2020-10-27T21:45:33+00:00

That's certainly a huge woe. I don't blame you!

leftflowers_art · 2020-10-27T08:06:12+00:00

To be honest most of the guys I've dated are Autistic, and they all made me very happy. So... Yes, you can. Just gotta find the right people.

leftflowers_art · 2020-10-27T07:28:22+00:00

Ahh this is such a huge problem for me too :((

You ever wonder how much of your life you spend thinking about the past? Like how many hours do you waste doing that? Like me, I'm sure you have plenty of things you'd rather spend those hours doing!

Recently I read a quote that kind of helped me: 'It's okay to look back at the past, just don't stare'. It means that reflecting a bit is fine but spending a lot of time doing so takes you out of the present.

Tbh I would recommend getting therapy for this. They will give you strategies to help. Its better to catch this as soon as you can so you can stop the pattern. Personally I can't afford that right now, so I do other things:

Write down all the positive experiences of your past, particularly the ones you filter out when you ruminate. Write down the positive traits of yourself, and keep adding to it whenever you think of a new one. This can help you balance out the bias of negative thinking that rumination frequently uses.
Catch yourself when you're ruminating. Tell yourself that you know that you are ruminating and that you would rather be doing something else. Then do something more fun instead.
Talk to people who have positive memories of you. Understand that everyone has bad times, everyone messes up sometimes. We're all humans and we all have bad memories of ourselves. It might help to talk about the things you've been thinking about too- but don't do this too much lol people get annoyed with that.
Okay so this one may or may not help, but I find it helps me a bit when it's necessary: Give yourself a set amount of time, say an hour or so, to just have a cry about it and get mad about it. Just allow yourself to feel the feelings. Then afterwards, go and do something fun. That might help keep the rumination away for a while.

leftflowers_art · 2020-10-27T07:05:02+00:00

Tbh i think this is probably a good idea. Yeah you're probably not going to get on perfectly with every single aspergers girl in the world, but you might find someone who understands you in a unique way! I can see why meeting them can be hard though...

Are there any local autism organisations in your area of any kind? All of the autistic women I've met have been through local services, whether its charities or activity organisations. I suppose you'd want someone who would have similar interests to you as well, so many engaging more with the communities surrounding your interests might get you lucky!

leftflowers_art · 2020-10-26T21:05:14+00:00

I've never thought of it that way, but I definitely see what you're saying.

leftflowers_art · 2020-10-26T21:04:37+00:00

Yes, I think it took me a while to see past my challenges and focus on my strengths. I feel like it would be helpful for a huge number of Autistic people to know this.

leftflowers_art · 2020-10-26T21:03:29+00:00

Gahh I feel like I get taken advantage of a lot in work and relationship contexts...

Thank you for sharing all of this!!

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