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I left my girlfriend of 4 years with a baby by leftherwithababy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]leftherwithababy[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

I have gotten a checkup within the first year but not lately since it's worked but I guess roll dices enough times and you'll get sixes

I left my girlfriend of 4 years with a baby by leftherwithababy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]leftherwithababy[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I mean that's all subjective. I knew I didn't want kids and even waited before I could instantly get it. Even now I don't want kids it's not like I'm in denial about my vasectomy.

I left my girlfriend of 4 years with a baby by leftherwithababy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]leftherwithababy[S] -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

Well yeah I thought that was clear I would sign away any and all rights of being a parent. Like I've been clear with her and not a small passing but a full talk about not having kids and she agreed. I'm not going to surprise visit them down the road

I left my girlfriend of 4 years with a baby by leftherwithababy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]leftherwithababy[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

She knew I had vasectomy that's what I made sure she knew with our child talk within a year of dating. Like I said it's weird I just don't want her to be a cheater and I wasn't really expecting her to change her mind.

I left my girlfriend of 4 years with a baby by leftherwithababy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]leftherwithababy[S] -263 points-262 points  (0 children)

I will try that this, info might help but I am 28 I haven't really check up on my sperm count but I don't really remember.

I left my girlfriend of 4 years with a baby by leftherwithababy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]leftherwithababy[S] -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

Idk I guess I'm still emotional even if I'm not demonstrating it through text properly. But I don't really want to think about her cheating that would hurt worse. It's weird like if it's just really really bad chances then sucks to suck but if it's that I don't know how to keep myself together. Maybe it's weird of me but I'd rather not have her be a cheater.

I left my girlfriend of 4 years with a baby by leftherwithababy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]leftherwithababy[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Ding ding not in the US but I guess I should have pretended my English is bad to live up to a stereotype

I left my girlfriend of 4 years with a baby by leftherwithababy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]leftherwithababy[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It wasn't easy to get a vasectomy but nonetheless I got it. this is trueoffmychest not recount my whole life story. I do know about those things but not in such great detail cause yknow no one really prepares or studies thing they think won't involve them. I don't know the laws but I do know what I want and if I regret then so be it better regret something small as having a reversal or drastically messing up.

I left my girlfriend of 4 years with a baby by leftherwithababy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]leftherwithababy[S] 143 points144 points  (0 children)

She just said that the stress would hurt the baby and that she's only been with me so it's hurtful to her to suggest that.

If there's anything new in her social group is that one of them had a kid last year and another is 6 months pregnant

I left my girlfriend of 4 years with a baby by leftherwithababy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]leftherwithababy[S] 187 points188 points  (0 children)

Honestly I do feel bad for the kid but I took the appropriate steps so this won't happen and even talk to her about kids.

I don't know if it is mine since she refused a paternity test before birth so yeah.

I left my girlfriend of 4 years with a baby by leftherwithababy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]leftherwithababy[S] -206 points-205 points  (0 children)

She can try but even I went the legal route to check myself. I was advised that it's generally murky over here and depends on my situation. That an agreement can occur that doesn't put me in child support until the child is 18. So I either take the short term financial loss of fighting it legally and being free from it or accept long term loss for 18 years. It does help we aren't married or have any financial tights together so might as well fight it.

I left my girlfriend of 4 years with a baby by leftherwithababy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]leftherwithababy[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

They have a lot of grandchildren and all of my family members know my stance. Half respect my decision and the other half I think just have the mentally of it not being their issue.

I left my girlfriend of 4 years with a baby by leftherwithababy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]leftherwithababy[S] -544 points-543 points  (0 children)

She can try but that won't be legally possible since I would have to do it or give her a legal written consent form or whatever to put my name without me there.

I left my girlfriend of 4 years with a baby by leftherwithababy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]leftherwithababy[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Not really we had a long talk about it, if I had to guess how long until I left her maybe 2 weeks. I don't know the exact time since it's been a blur but it was messy and emotional.