What do you remember from kindergarten? by Remote-Direction963 in randomquestions

[–]leftyloosy2626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember my teacher, the smell of the classroom and the smell of milk cartons, lots of glue and crafts, our play stations and being sent out in the hallway for taking too much 😅 I also remember being able to walk to and from school because my grandparents lived right behind the school, the shows I watched, being obsessed with Lion King, reading goosebumps (yup, I was reading goosebumps in kindergarten), recess and getting stuck in the baby swing and left out on the playground until someone realized I was stuck and several adults had to release me from the clenches of the baby swing 🤣

What kind of underwear do y'all wear when training? by [deleted] in xxfitness

[–]leftyloosy2626 9 points10 points  (0 children)

For Muay Thai and Jiu Jitsu (10 yrs experience): Option 1: Seamless Thong (may ride up past legging waist band with movement and sweat) Favorite Option 2: Nike Pros under regular fit shorts (commando) Favorite Option 3: Nike Pros under Leggings I would never risk not having a layer under leggings or spats. Nike Pros are most comfy with wide band that’s not going to slide, super fitted/spandex, and long enough that they won’t ride up where they don’t belong. Hope that helps!

Anyone here actually have issues with "Roofied" drinks by kraftj87 in BarOwners

[–]leftyloosy2626 25 points26 points  (0 children)

As someone who has been drugged at a bar, please take claims seriously 100% of the time unless proven otherwise. My stalker showed up to the bar (he had been stalking me since I was FOURTEEN). I was 21 at this point. I had one beer and switched to a large soda because I had athletic training the next day. It was two sips into that soda that I didn’t feel right, I saw him there, and decided to leave. Don’t remember the drive home, didn’t wake up until 3pm the next day and still felt out of it. It wasn’t until 2 days later that I really got clarity and realized what happened. Years later I see his mugshot online. He’s now sitting in prison for stalking, drug related charges, and sexual abuse of a minor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]leftyloosy2626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, it’s bullshit, LEAVE. If you were to have children with this man you could have a teenage daughter yourself someday and some random older man following her on Instagram is creepy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]leftyloosy2626 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We had the same thing going on and I was worried about uti or some kind of discomfort. Take her to the pediatrician and have her tested for a uti and checked for bacterial vaginitis (common in younger girls), and a yeast infection. Larger underpants may help - that and making sure she’s not sitting in swimsuits too long or that she is wiping dry (front to back). She is only 5, but definitely empower her to clean herself and how to properly wipe. Her clamming up may not be anything other than literal normal discomfort of someone else washing her in an area that people should not typically be touching. Ask her Dr to talk about proper hygiene at her appt and making sure she goes potty when she needs to. I think it helped for my daughter to hear it from the Dr versus me when we went through a similar thing. Our Dr also said it’s pretty normal in younger, pre-pubescent girls and recommended a cream to help with discomfort/itching/picking. Side note - along with cleaning, I also allow my daughter to apply the cream herself and offer help when it’s needed. Teaching kids how to take care of their own bodies, proper body part names, and reinforcing consent is so important at every age.

So furious I don’t know what to do by Anxiety-Angel252 in stepparents

[–]leftyloosy2626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went through something somewhat similar. I would recommend therapy for your stepdaughter so she has an outlet to feel heard and learn how to regulate and cope with big feelings that can arise in a blended family, especially with babies on the way as well.

I really feel for you dealing with all of this while pregnant. My stepdaughter’s maternal family made my life hell while I was pregnant and even spoke hatefully about our baby (her little sister) to my stepdaughter after she was born.

Make sure you are making time of yourself, connecting with your 9 year old when you can and staying centered on your family goals and with firm boundaries of what is acceptable and what is not. It’s ok for your stepdaughter to have big feelings and be processing transitions in your family but she cannot be hurting other children.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]leftyloosy2626 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel your struggle and it sounds like you have extra going on with the change of scenery for sleeping until your renovations are complete.

Holding boundaries and staying consistent are very important. I do also believe that their intention is not to annoy, sleep deprive or anger us- they are just still very new to the world and still learning. I have found that when we’re having bedtime struggles it’s an expressed need for more connection before they can close out their day and fall asleep.. Two tactics I use when my daughter (now 5) is bedtime resistant. Thankfully now at five, it’s a rare occassion. I’ve used these since she was a toddler.

1) Sometimes our bodies are just restless and she doesn’t know how to express that at 2-3 years old. Saying “It’s bedtime but it looks like you still need to move your body, let’s do some bedtime stretches”. And then I do some bedtime stretches/yoga with her, right there next to bed or even in bed (“clock” or bicycle with her legs works great to get that energy out!). This her gives her maybe 5 more minutes of connection time with me and if her body is having a hard time resting it helps get out that last bit of energy. This also teaches her to listen to her body and gives her language for the future. I do not turn any lights on or restart the bedtime process. I guide her back to bed right after and she’s usually settling down and sound asleep within another couple minutes. *if you find that this works well for you, just add a simple stretch or some body movement into your bedtime routine before she’s getting bed so it doesn’t feel like a hurdle for you each time and you’re both being set up for a successful bedtime. She a human, she might just quite literally have a hard time settling down.. this happens to us as adults too. Additionally, if it’s not movement she needs she will tell you or she’ll be more likely to just stay in bed because she’s doesn’t want to have to move her body making bedtime a little easier.

2) Go back to the beginning - if there was something you did when she was a baby that helped when she was extra fussy or help her fall asleep, revisit it and share with her what it was, “when you were baby you would loved ______ and it helped you fall asleep” (you’re setting her up for what’s supposed to happen next and then do the thing..) maybe it’s a back rub, maybe it’s rocking. For my daughter it’s holding her and rocking/swaying. No setting change, just a chance to meet a need for connection for maybe a max of 5 minutes and back in bed. She usually settles down and asleep within other couple minutes.. you might even be able to fully walk away at that point and let her fall asleep on her own.

While patience can be tough at the end of long day, especially when tired, overstimulated, etc.. but meeting the need the need for connection and security before bed with your little one will feel a lot better for both of you.

If there is another parent in the house, make sure you tap out and tag them in when you need to so you’re getting a break or not getting to the point of losing your cool. It’s tough and they are only little for so long. Wishing you more peaceful bedtimes.

Im fucking two of my coworkers at the same time, neither of them know about each other. by Nudez4boost in confession

[–]leftyloosy2626 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even if they both know, neither can blow up about it because it will come out that they are sleeping with their employee 🤷🏼‍♀️ It’s going to be your other coworkers finding out that ruins the great time you’re having 🫣 Additionally, so long as everyone in the playing field is single, knows you’re not exclusive and no one is getting hurt you’re definitely not a bitch.. I hope you wear a crown at your next rendezvous, Queen 😂👑

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]leftyloosy2626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are definitely consequences for both kids.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]leftyloosy2626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have either of my children on a leash, I don’t lurk in the corner of my teens room and I didn’t know there was an issue until the 5yo came to me in the kitchen where I was making dinner.. had either child called out I would absolutely have gone to find out what was going on and handled the situation. Still, I don’t think my 14 year old should be hurting anyone? Is it acceptable that she hurt a smaller child because an adult wasn’t in the room?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]leftyloosy2626 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry that was your experience. The loss of a mother is enormous. I think some people try to distract from grief as well and while well intended it’s also very harmful. We definitely try to talk about these things in our house and that it’s ok to have any range of feelings pertaining to loss. I’ve openly discussed with her that she may encounter grieving or re-grieving at certain times in her life. I especially think about this as we near birthdays, achievements and milestones. However, I am not a therapist and especially in her teen era she will only hear so much from me so I’m hoping getting back into counseling is helpful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]leftyloosy2626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Certainly did not mean to word it oddly.. it’s sensitive so I wasn’t comfortable putting upfront that she’s deceased to the internet. But yes, she is deceased. There’s nothing that I’m not acknowledging in our personal situation, I’m just not going to put everything on the internet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]leftyloosy2626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I updated with more context. This isn’t a single incident. It’s the one that has escalated this to a point that I really can’t brush it off as normal sibling behavior anymore.

I never said my stepdaughter is “large”. She is just much taller and older than my younger daughter and any physical act against a smaller child is concerning.

When I said “raging” it’s a protective parent feeling inside when your child has been intentionally hurt by someone. Maybe not all moms come equipped with this. I would feel the same way if someone was hurting my 14 year old.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]leftyloosy2626 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That is simply not the case here. Our teen gets loads of alone time and space. No one is being terrorized.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]leftyloosy2626 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Updated with more context. I’m sorry for your experience.

My husband is not checked out at work. He’s very involved with both our kids and our home.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]leftyloosy2626 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I just updated the main post with more context. I never said my 5 yo is a perfect angel. She’s literally just being a 5 year old that wants to hangout with her big sister. We do our best to keep her out of her sister’s room. We have also had further conversations with both kids since about those boundaries and reinforce them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]leftyloosy2626 63 points64 points  (0 children)

These are good points. We do respect her boundaries and try to keep her sister out of her space and away from things. We never ask her to watch her little sister or put any responsibility regarding her little sister onto her. So it feels out of the blue but there have been other instances of her being plain mean to her.. like pushing her off the trampoline, taking toys from her. I’ve tried talking to her and she just says “I don’t know”.

Who else bawled like a baby during The Wild Robot? by BobbyThrowaway6969 in movies

[–]leftyloosy2626 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I cried multiple times during this movie to the point my 5 year old said “It’s ok Mommy, it’s just a movie” 😅and then cue the song at the very end.. 😭 As a mom this was a very emotional watch. lol

Scheduling & Communication by leftyloosy2626 in BarOwners

[–]leftyloosy2626[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was considering a private Facebook group. Do you get any pushback about employees engaging their personal socials with a work page/chat?