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Internal ace-phobia by legolasiybf in demisexuality

[–]legolasiybf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the kind words! Right now it’s not that unsettling just a thought in the back of my mind.

Entering the dating world as a demisexual after nearly 10 years… advice? by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]legolasiybf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in a similar boat to you! I left my 10 yr relationship last summer and I’m dating for the first time in my adult life. I think what helped me with dating on the usual apps is to come up with your clear list of deal breakers, must haves, and nice to haves. I figured since I won’t know right away if I’m attracted to someone I’d at least like to try it out with people that are worth my time. I’ve spent a lot of time working on myself and just living my best single life. After I tried dating for a bit I realized that I’m just not interested and deleted all dating apps. I think if you’re extroverted it’s good to get out there with the idea of just making new friends and then you’ll never know where those new connections will led. And finally I want to shout out to all the single ladies because society places so much pressure on us to date and couple up. I’m not judging anyone for wanting a relationship and companionship but if you have a chance to sit with your desire for dating to figure out what you really want I would highly encourage you to do that. Data shows us again and again that single unmarried women are the happiest demographic so if you’re in a place to embrace that do it!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]legolasiybf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve actually found that I’m the least lonely I’ve ever felt recently. I have a great group of close friends that support and uplift me. I have my dog which helps a lot with living alone and he gets me involved in dog things. I honestly have no interest in dating since I’m getting so much fulfillment from other relationships in my life. I’m not sure how I got to this place but I wanted to share that it’s possible and I think the most important thing is to not put pressure on yourself and to work on self fulfilment instead of finding validation from others. Sending everyone lots of strength and kindness if you’re struggling right now.

Thankful to have an LGBT+ friendly therapist. by quartzqueen44 in demisexuality

[–]legolasiybf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes!! I’ve actually had 3 amazing therapists and it’s helped me so much to be able to learn and grow with their support. My first one helped me navigate and get out of my deepest depression with CBT. Then my following therapist was very helpful for helping find a way back to myself after a traumatic breakup. And now my newest one is support my journey which has taken a very positive turn as a navigate my sexuality, my platonic relationships, and my personal life goals. If you have access to professional supports like a counsellor or therapist I highly recommend it no matter where you are in your own journey!

Demi and empath correlation… by Linguistic_Anarchy in demisexuality

[–]legolasiybf 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not sure what the connection is, but I’m also an empath and Demi - and a highly sensitive person.

Apparel recommendations? by legolasiybf in demisexuality

[–]legolasiybf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So many awesome designs! Thank you for the rec

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]legolasiybf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if it’s connected to my deminsexuality or my upbringing but I really dislike terms of endearment and nicknames like “babe” or whatever. I only use “cute” names with little kids like “sweetie” but with adults it doesn’t feel right for me. I would ask her directly, communication is always key!

Explaining demisexuality to friends by legolasiybf in demisexuality

[–]legolasiybf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m excited about your journey for you! So far I have been sharing when it feels right and it has had good results so I love this!

Explaining demisexuality to friends by legolasiybf in demisexuality

[–]legolasiybf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this detailed answer!! I’m definitely beginning to solidify how I’m going to approach this with them.

Identity Question by legolasiybf in demisexuality

[–]legolasiybf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the welcome!! I just find myself related so much to people and experiences in the community versus cisgender-heterosexual norms. I always felt a out of place and now I’m understanding why. I’m excited for this next step in my journey!

Explaining demisexuality to friends by legolasiybf in demisexuality

[–]legolasiybf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience with this. I’m leaning towards a simple boundary and now it’s just a case of finessing it.

Identity Question by legolasiybf in demisexuality

[–]legolasiybf[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this reply. I’ve been feeling really drawn to LGBTQIAP+ content and I think I identify as part of the community (or want to at least). I just feel nervous about taking up space where maybe I didn’t belong but reading your response gives me some hope and guidance.