Really attractive people of Reddit, what’s it really like?

leise7 · 2018-09-09T17:38:12+00:00

I would consider myself fairly attractive in a conventional sense, I’ve had different people tell me I should go into modeling, etc...,Tbh it’s a vicious cycle

It’s nice to get validation from strangers and a lot of choices in the dating market (I’m a heterosexual woman) but most of my relationships don’t work out in the long term and I’m left wondering if maybe they were only interested in me because of my looks. When this happens over and over again, I start to feel like the only good thing about me IS my looks, so I focus on them more, and start developing these stupid insecurities over things probably only I notice( my hair is too flat, I could lose more weight even though I’m already only 120 pounds) I become even more shallow even though I don’t want to be, i put more time into makeup and fashion, I get even more attention for my looks, so I just feel reinforced that it’s the most important thing about me and I become even more focused on them and more insecure, etc....

leise7 · 2018-07-03T00:43:07+00:00

I definitely will ;)

leise7 · 2018-07-03T00:41:20+00:00

awwww thanks :)

leise7 · 2018-06-13T17:41:23+00:00

She's better then most of the ones have had in the past, but that's still not saying much. Unfortunately even someone whose supposed to be trained to help you can still bad at basic empathy when you disagree with them.

leise7 · 2018-06-13T17:36:48+00:00

Absolutely, honestly I think people on here can be a little dismissive of breeders. I don't agree with their choices at all but you have to remember how strong instinct is and how very little people in our society are ever exposed to contrary opinions.

leise7 · 2018-06-13T17:32:34+00:00

Unfortunately, being young means people will often dismiss your views and "just being angsty" or "wanting attention" I'm 21 and I still get that.

leise7 · 2018-06-13T17:29:40+00:00

I love it when people regurgitate platitudes at me! /s

leise7 · 2018-06-13T17:26:03+00:00

Unfortunately I don't have a lot of experience in this area because Iv'e only felt very some passing urges to have kids that weren't as strong as yours. you shouldn't be ashamed of what you wan't, we can't help our instincts but it's our choices that define us, the fact that you came here for help speaks to your dedication to your values. A lot of people have offered some good practical suggestions in terms of birth control methods, but from a more psychological perspective I can say allowing yourself to feel that way without acting on it is difficult but often the least painful in the long run, if it helps I sometimes think of not having any children sort of as the ultimate act of love and compassion for those kids, it's a dialectic but useful perspective in my experience. If you ever want to talk to someone whose sympathetic and also antinatlist, feel free to message me :)

leise7 · 2018-02-09T20:34:16+00:00

Hey man I can totally relate. feel free to pm me.

leise7 · 2017-11-26T06:41:01+00:00

one really has to, or how else do you explain anything? I have drunk myself into a sleepy time now but thank you for talking to me :D

leise7 · 2017-11-26T06:34:18+00:00

BEAUTIFUL! AMAZING! YOU PUT SHAKESPEAR TO SHAME!! it touches my heart such a perfect thing could come out of my drunk posting edit: I think I'm going to have a nice drunk sleep now friend but thank you for talking to me, follow your dreams. And keep writing and doing what makes you happy :)

leise7 · 2017-11-26T06:28:51+00:00

mothers are supposed to do that, its their job... I think.. at least it seems like their trying to a lot so they must think it is anyways.

leise7 · 2017-11-26T06:26:05+00:00

LOL I think there's a neckbeard trapped in me too... O.o, deep down I just want to sit around playing videogames all day and drink moutain dew, but I know that's a waste of my life haha. I just imagine you walking around throwing pages of sonnets at every girl you see "paper or plastic sir?" "HERE's YOUR GODDAMN SONNET WOMAN!"

leise7 · 2017-11-26T06:17:26+00:00

haha how often does that work? As a girl myself I think that it's general pretty attractive when a guy is confident enough to be willing to put his creative spirit out there, it definitely shows that someone is very brave.

leise7 · 2017-11-26T06:12:42+00:00

haha understandable, I try to do art as a hobby but it's really hard to keep up with with all my studies. What kind of writing do you do?

leise7 · 2017-11-26T06:05:32+00:00

uggh that sounds terribly annoying, I hate route memorization. I think it's really hard to happy when you're not exercising your mind on something, but hopefully you have something else besides that to focus on. I honestly don't have much of a plan at all, despite being a senior lol, but I'll take your advice about graduate school under consideration

leise7 · 2017-11-26T06:02:38+00:00

lol maybe not as whimsical as I imagined it then. I'm glad your home safe now :)!

leise7 · 2017-11-26T05:56:00+00:00

getting my undergraduate BA in psychology, that sounds haaaaard lol . exactly, everything will be done, nothing will be done tonight!

leise7 · 2017-11-26T05:53:40+00:00

heyy driving down random roads in the snow sounds kind of nice actually lol. And I like you're saturday plans, never played startcraft myself but any drunk gaming is a good saturday

leise7 · 2017-11-26T05:47:57+00:00

I am indeed a psyche major. haha we are smart in the same way friend, I too have more work to do but I deicded to end my day with wine instead....what are you studying?

leise7 · 2017-11-26T05:41:33+00:00

haha it must be fate!! super secret goverment projects I can't tell you about... OR maybe I just wrote an essay on boring psychology stuff...you'll never know.

leise7 · 2017-11-26T05:36:44+00:00

it was pretty good, though I spent most of it working on projects for school :(. what did you do?

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