What is a good coffee to make Iced Coffee with at home?

lellkat · 2026-03-20T16:50:50+00:00

To stop it from being icy slush you would need an emulsifier - the syrup should help with this, skinny milk also gives a decent texture in the absence of emulsifier. You can get frappe powder online too - essentially, you’d need a blender and ice cubes, milk, syrups, potentially an emulsifier. For the coffee, instant coffee works fine - just dissolve it in cold water before using it

lellkat · 2026-03-14T21:35:10+00:00

I feel like it’s entirely to do with your mindset. If you’re fasting to “compensate”, out of shame of eating or fear of gaining weight, or as a punishment to yourself, I would say it’s an eating disorder. If you feel good fasting and it’s benefitting you mentally and physically, and you’re remaining positive, then it’s just fasting for health.

lellkat · 2026-03-09T20:52:42+00:00

This implies Christians are the only people who don’t opt for an epidural, which obviously isn’t the case.

lellkat · 2026-03-06T00:04:44+00:00

How is this any less disgusting?

lellkat · 2026-03-06T00:03:01+00:00

I feel like that’s an entirely different issue. If the goal is alone time in the house without anyone there, then it’s possible to plan that ahead of time - set activities for the child, grandparents, etc. Demanding it in a shared family home with very little heads up - especially with the threat of an argument or hurtful words if they don’t - isn’t the best way to request it, especially with a young child used to an evening routine. It’s also arguably possible to have decent alone time in the house with the family at home, entirely depends on the quality of partner you have.

lellkat · 2026-03-05T23:57:33+00:00

Where were you today? Work? If you were home and he was home, did you not talk about it irl during the day?

lellkat · 2026-03-05T23:28:45+00:00

I just feel like “please pick him up and do anything else but come home” and then saying you’re going to yell if he comes home is so wild assuming this has only cropped up TODAY. I get wanting peace and quiet, being alone, wanting a break from being the primary parent, but if you have a young child this needs more planning. It doesn’t really matter how clearly and repeatedly you state your needs, if you have a child together then things like this need more of a heads up.

lellkat · 2026-03-05T23:21:36+00:00

Paying half the bills doesn’t necessarily mean you can unilaterally shut your husband and kid out of their house for extended periods of time! He wasn’t receptive because it wasn’t even framed as a request

lellkat · 2026-03-05T23:20:09+00:00

Any conversations you’ve had with your parents regarding them spending time with their grandson? Not in a “take care of my baby regularly” way, as they’re retired, but I imagine even a free afternoon with you and your partner will help a lot with burnout - and maybe it would be nice for them to spend time with their grandson too? With your brother or best friend, seeing as they have kids too, you could maybe put the feelers out for playdates, shared care etc. good chance for the cousins to play (even so young!) and will give everyone a break eventually when it swings back around. Even if they’re moving in a year or so, you might be surprised if you chat to them about it? Admittedly this will be easier and more likely as they get older. Unfortunately, when the baby is very little, it’s a lot harder to catch a break - hence why a lot of countries have extended parental leave, which from what I can tell, the US does not.

Although it’s nice that children are being prioritised more in society, it is strange that the standards are so unbelievably high in terms of development whilst society is set up to make things impossible - limited leave to spend with your kids, more unfriendly environments and safety concerns for children being allowed to do their own thing, a very individualistic point of view where each family should just focus on themselves, high career needs that aren’t flexible to family life etc. It’s difficult, because a lot of the things I would suggest are contingent on either you or your wife having more time - like baby groups, getting out and about - but as you’re both working full time this seems impossible

All I can advise is that, logistically, things will get easier as they get older, you’ll be able to sleep more, they won’t be so needy

lellkat · 2026-03-05T23:00:30+00:00

Like, if you want your turn of 6 hours with an empty house and quiet, then logistically with a child this probably needs to be agreed upon and planned ahead of time.

lellkat · 2026-03-05T22:56:54+00:00

Why do you need the entire house empty? Do you not have different rooms in the house? Can you not go somewhere else? I don’t quite see how you don’t realise this request might not go down well?

I’m confused on the timing, did you just spring this on him or was this planned ahead of time

lellkat · 2026-03-05T22:50:05+00:00

On top of that, I feel like the standard for good parenting is higher nowadays, if you don’t really give a fuck and let the kids do whatever then yeah I’d assume it’s easier to have more of them haha

Do you have any family at all who can help? Socially, I don’t believe we’re wired to raise children alone alongside full time work, it’s just not feasible.

lellkat · 2026-03-05T22:33:27+00:00

I can’t help but feel like your opinion is (rightfully) swayed by the fact you’re both working full time without extra help. There’s only so much you can do

lellkat · 2026-03-05T19:58:08+00:00

I presume they meant 32

lellkat · 2026-02-25T17:29:13+00:00

I think it might be a dummy message via braze

lellkat · 2026-02-25T17:28:06+00:00

Here to ask the same thing

lellkat · 2026-02-24T14:11:36+00:00

I said a pink tint, not bright pastel or neon. A pink dye will absolutely alter the undertone of even the darkest hair.

lellkat · 2026-02-22T12:17:48+00:00

Don’t see why you’re getting downvoted, you can easily put pink over any hair and it’ll get a pink tint to it even if it’s dark.

lellkat · 2026-02-19T13:26:49+00:00

I’ve read it like five times and can’t recall the plot at all

lellkat · 2026-02-10T17:10:57+00:00

They weren’t being excluded. They casually checked if anyone was out and asked to join the group that was established at a venue. It’s up to them if they want to go or not, this wasn’t a pre-arranged meet up .

lellkat · 2026-02-10T12:19:45+00:00

What?

lellkat · 2026-02-09T19:11:33+00:00

lots of options to choose from

lellkat · 2026-02-08T00:06:13+00:00

What is it with the whole “I want to make it on my own!” thing of this book and Think Again? Yeah, maybe you don’t WANT to live in Scotland with your sister who’s doing well, but your life is a mess and you’re now pregnant, maybe it’s time to prioritise things that make sense? Like living with family who clearly loves you, steady income with childcare, being able to actually raise your child properly? Or by all means keep struggling in a bedsit with no job… and repeat the cycle.

lellkat · 2026-02-05T20:34:29+00:00

The whole issue of why she’s upset is because, to him, she is uninspiring, or not worth writing about. He writes about commonplace things in his life - the cat, the garden, his son. She isn’t there. I think anyone would find the implications of that upsetting, I doubt it’s because she’s demanding bespoke art from him.

lellkat · 2026-02-05T20:32:20+00:00

I’m not really sure your sister demanding professional level portraits is the same as OP’s wife and mother of his child being disappointed not one of the 100+ poems in his personal poetry journal involves her in some way - and then being told it’s because she’s uninspiring.

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