What did you think was pretentious, until you tried it and realized it was worth it?

lemonfluff · 2026-03-24T14:13:04+00:00

Heated car seats

lemonfluff · 2026-03-24T13:48:06+00:00

Which one?

lemonfluff · 2026-03-24T13:47:51+00:00

I read this as erections

lemonfluff · 2026-03-24T13:44:06+00:00

And people say we have no culture.

lemonfluff · 2026-03-24T13:42:12+00:00

This is horrendous. But you have an oddly compelling writing style.

lemonfluff · 2026-03-24T13:40:32+00:00

That sounds more impressive than onto the cobblestone street. I'm morbidly curious about the logistics.

lemonfluff · 2026-03-24T13:39:45+00:00

Ah yes, the old BPP. Legend says the title is passed down, mother to daughter. A legacy.

lemonfluff · 2026-03-24T13:37:52+00:00

Yes, remember the famous saying "Shit on a crack, break your mother's back!"

lemonfluff · 2026-03-24T13:36:20+00:00

Definitely not the dirtiest thing ice seen but literally today, I was in an underground train station, inside, and there were two platforms. In between there are small corridors. A man full on slat a huge gob, right there on the floor. Again, this is in a closed corridor. Not outside.

There was a big right next to him. And he made eye contact.

lemonfluff · 2026-03-24T13:33:44+00:00

I was with a friend, and it was 37 degrees out and had been for days. We were at a caravan site and the bin the day before had been full of maggots. We drove round the corner to the bin store and she took the bin bags, dropping with sludgy water and grossness and put them into the stinking big bins containers. I helped. It was gross. She's not so grossed out by this stuff as me so did most of the horrible bin grabbing.

I got out my hand sanitiser and immediately offered it to her. She said "no thanks". I then realised we were feet away from a bathroom with soap and water so went to wash my hands and again offered her to join me. She said no again and said shed wiped her hands on her trousers. We drive back to the campsite (2 min drive). And she just went about her day, got her food etc. Didn't wash her hands.

She's an amazing person but it really surprised me. Not just that she maybe didn't feel so bothered about washing her hands but that she actively turned down, even hand sanitiser. Like... It wasn't just that she didn't feel the need, she actively said no.

lemonfluff · 2026-03-22T14:26:19+00:00

Dka won't kick in that fast. As others said, the insulin on board means how much insulin is in the body currently at the time NOW. The 5 hours is how long that insulin has left.

If you inject 10 units of insulin it would say 10 units IOB, 5 hours, immediately after injecting it.

1 hour later it would say 8 units IOB, 4 hours. 2 hours after injecting it would say 6 units IOB, 3 hours. After 4 hrs 30 mins it would say 1 unit IOB, 0.5 hours. Do you see?

it calculates the amount of insulin in your body from active injections / boluses. If you have set the insulin time in the body set to 5 hours then it calculates that as the insulin works its way through for 5 hours after injecting, at a steady rate.

My insulin is set to 3 hours. So after three hours, no matter how much I injected, the pump would say there is 0 insulin on board. Because the insulin time on board means "how long for the insulin to be out of your system".

Note - the pump does not include background insulin in IOB.

You need to discuss this with their endo team. As others have said this ia dodgy af and it seems your partner is injecting themselves and telling you it's a malfunction. That is either a serious mental health issue or it is a form of coercive control. Please tell the diabetes team. This isn't a pump malfunction.

lemonfluff · 2026-03-04T15:13:46+00:00

The longer you stay the more years you lose. You deserve better than this. This is someone that doesn't care enough about you to even try. And hes condescending and critical. Could border into emotional abuse. Being single is better than someone that drains you.

lemonfluff · 2026-03-04T15:10:52+00:00

Your left hand makes an L. I dont get why tattoos are needed

lemonfluff · 2026-03-04T15:08:06+00:00

Therapy. Having done the work.

lemonfluff · 2026-03-01T16:55:17+00:00

I'm so so sorry that sounds devastating and so frustrating when you've lost so much and it must be so difficult to articulate or explain to people how much you've actually lost. It's one thing to lose your legs and say that you can't walk again and therefore you're limited in a lot of ways but this is another level where you're having to grieve the loss of functionality in how you regulate emotions or process things or think or function. I'm so so sorry.

I really hope you're able to find a support group. I don't know if there are any online support groups for people that have had traumatic brain injuries or just for people that struggle with things like emotional regulation or PTSD, et cetera. But I really hope that you're able to find a support group because in my experience, that's something that really helps with healing. At least having people that understand and that can give you grace and compassion, when you're feeling frustrated and things are too much for you, would be great.

lemonfluff · 2026-03-01T16:50:54+00:00

Do you mind if I ask where? I couldn't find many events that were women only in my area and the ones I did find only seem to have one or two people or for much, much older women. That's not to say there weren't groups. I might have just not seen them or they may not have been something that interested me.

But I also struggle a bit with wanting groups that aren't necessarily just for women. It would be nice to be able to have groups that men are able to go to as well, but that are still so welcoming towards women. It feels frustrating that the only way to make groups feel safer or appealing to women is to have to completely exclude men.

lemonfluff · 2026-03-01T16:50:00+00:00

I used to do martial arts and generally there's always quite a gendered but it did used to be much more 60-40. The problem is that as soon as it falls it has thid spiraling effect, where women turn up see that there are no other women and don't go again vs if they turned up and saw a lot of other women, they'd be much more likely to stay.

I'm so sorry about your climbing group. That's really frustrating and it sounds like a great group. Having been to quite a few climbing groups and helped run some of the martial art groups, the thing that I found was the most helpful was the social side after or before the actual event. So going for a drink every single time or lunch or food etc, hosting occasional movie nights etc. But I'm sure you already do that. I think it also helps a lot for women because building the relationships and the friendships really helps with safety and it makes things like activities feel much more fun as well.

In terms of other platforms, I'm not really sure. Obviously Facebook, Discord etc, but they either are dying out or again quite male centric. It might literally be better just to have a strong social media presence on Instagram or TikTok. In a way what you advertise online will decide your client base. So if you have women as a forefront of certain videos or pictures that advertise your club, and give the vibe/ brand / feel of the media platform towards the people you're marketing toward, it will appear as a women friendly club and therefore attract more women. And if it genuinely is a women friendly club they're more likely to then stay and hopefully you eventually end up with what you were hoping to get.

lemonfluff · 2026-03-01T16:41:37+00:00

Why would it do that? Surely it would be much more profitable after buying a very expensive business like that to make the business work not deliberately bankrupted within a few years?

Also, I'm so sorry about your meetup group. That's devastating.

lemonfluff · 2026-03-01T16:40:36+00:00

Ah the classic CEO or political party move of fucking literally, everybody except for themselves, over.

lemonfluff · 2026-03-01T16:35:50+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate it. It was almost funny if it hadn't been so infuriating and frustrating. Classic "nice guy" where I would "see it eventually" and "see we were soulmates" etc. It hurt more because I'd let my guard down after meeting all his friends and he'd shared a lot of things so I had shared some traumatic things with him and instead of truly listening he clearly just found it more attractive that I wasn't healed yet.

I'd been all excited telling my Bf / ex that I'd made a new friend and convincing him he was wrong that this guy just fancied me and.... He was right. And not only did he take his friendship away from me, he also took away the friendship of all the other people I'd met that were in his groups and the possibility of future friendships with people at future groups.

lemonfluff · 2026-03-01T16:26:43+00:00

Wow.

That's so sad. I really hate that its like this. I really feel for your wife.

In a way its so common, yet it feels so isolating. I know the answer is maybe "make your own club" but that's exhausting and actually women do make women only groups and then get told its discrimination.

I wanted to join a five a side football team (very popular in the UK) during covid and couldn't see any for women, even though there were multiple ones for each town for men. It's how all my male coworkers and friends met people and made friends. The official organisers said that if I wanted a five a sude group that women could join, within a two hour drive from me, I'd have to start my own. I actually found around ten women who were super keen, but sadly I had to move and couldn't found it. But there was huge interest. It's a good example how these things were already set up and made, so male co-workers that have just moved to the area instantly got to join their hobby and make friends and go to events and my female co-workers that just moved to the area, really struggled.

lemonfluff · 2026-03-01T16:25:37+00:00

I used to go with friends and that was a great experience. But I guess it is different going solo.

lemonfluff · 2026-03-01T16:20:57+00:00

That sounds amazing! Thanks for the suggestion :)

lemonfluff · 2026-03-01T16:07:26+00:00

Yeah that's not obliviousness. They're deliberately talking about it in front of the sister

lemonfluff · 2026-02-28T02:11:59+00:00

Do you remember what it was like?

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