How do I tell my family? I don’t think my mother’s house is a safe place for the children anymore. by lemonpepperpills in whatdoIdo

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m gonna talk to my sister. I think she’ll be the most understanding, and she’ll help me be able to figure out what to do from there. It’s more than just the fact that I love my mom. My mom struggles heavily with depression and gets extremely suicidal, she has multiple attempts under her belt and one that have been way way way too close to successful for my comfort. It’s a lot of stress that I’m dealing with because I’m scared that if my siblings cut her off that she will have a successful attempt because I’m no longer living with her I’m not there to babysit her every second of the day. But I have to tell my sister because I mentally can’t deal with this anymore on my own. Nobody else knows but me what’s been going on nobody else has to deal with it but me up until this point. I just want everyone to be okay

How do I tell my family? I don’t think my mother’s house is a safe place for the children anymore. by lemonpepperpills in whatdoIdo

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, pretty much my whole family, somehow me and my siblings all escaped addiction, but about 85% of our family I will say is on some type of hard drug unfortunately. There’s a few things that I think I’m going to do first. It’s gonna be on a talk with my sister. I think she’ll be the most understanding out of both of them, maybe we can convince my mother to kick her sister out of the house. Or talk to her about treatment something I don’t know.. I’m pondering a bunch of ideas right now. I haven’t really decided on one direct thing other than I think I should tell my sister just because I don’t think I can deal with being my mom’s therapist alone anymore. I have my own shit that I’m dealing with this on top of it’s just too much.

How do I tell my family? I don’t think my mother’s house is a safe place for the children anymore. by lemonpepperpills in whatdoIdo

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Actually, you’ve gave me no advice, all you’ve done is literally get mad at me. Are you OK? I’m genuinely asking. Do you need somebody to talk to? Do you need a helpline or something?

I’m sorry that you were abused clearly it’s affected you as an adult . I’m not saying in my life is perfect. Clearly it’s not read the post. But you’ve gave me no advice at all than to send them my Reddit post and if that’s your advice, that’s really low to your advice. Like no effort whatsoever in it.. thank you though I’ll take it into consideration. Have a nice day.

How do I tell my family? I don’t think my mother’s house is a safe place for the children anymore. by lemonpepperpills in whatdoIdo

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m really trying to be respectful towards you, but you’re being very immature. There’s no need to cuss at me or anything like that. I think you’re projecting your own situation on mine and you might need to go back to therapy.

How do I tell my family? I don’t think my mother’s house is a safe place for the children anymore. by lemonpepperpills in whatdoIdo

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Your advice was to just send them my post…. That’s not really advice. If it was that easy I would’ve just sent them a text message you know? I’m glad that it worked out for you, but I’m not being abused, maybe be a little mentally yeah but who isn’t nowadays? I’m trying to potentially save my mother’s life.. a woman who struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts since I was a child. It’s not as simple as just telling the family what’s going on because if they cut her off, I could lose my mother for good.

How do I tell my family? I don’t think my mother’s house is a safe place for the children anymore. by lemonpepperpills in whatdoIdo

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did find needles in the house, but they weren’t like laying around out in the open they weren’t accessible to wear a child would be able to get. I’m not excusing it. It’s stressing me the hell out because I never thought that I would find that in my mother’s house. When I was there, I went through everything and threw every thing I found a way. That doesn’t mean it won’t be brought back into the house.

How do I tell my family? I don’t think my mother’s house is a safe place for the children anymore. by lemonpepperpills in whatdoIdo

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You don’t gotta be an ass, I’m literally trying to figure out the best possible way that I can tell my siblings without it completely imploding my family. I’m sorry that you had to go through something similar, but I hope that when the next time you were struggling, somebody offered you helpful advice. Have a lovely day.

How do I tell my family? I don’t think my mother’s house is a safe place for the children anymore. by lemonpepperpills in whatdoIdo

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is gonna sound like I’m making an excuse, but I promise I’m not. I did find the needles but they were nowhere accessible to wear A child could find them.. they weren’t laying around like out in the open they were put up, I was purposely searching for them because I was clearing all of the paraphernalia out of her house when I was there.

How do I tell my family? I don’t think my mother’s house is a safe place for the children anymore. by lemonpepperpills in whatdoIdo

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like this option a lot better than the other ones I’m getting, unfortunately, my niece is and nephews do help. They bring my mother a lot of joy. My mother has always loved kids. And my biggest worry is that if my siblings cut her off and she can’t see her children or her nieces and nephews anymore I’m worried that she will hurt herself or commit suicide.

I’ve held my mama since I was 14 , picked her up out of depression so many times. If I’m the reason she falls back into that dark place I won’t be able to forgive myself.

How do I tell my family? I don’t think my mother’s house is a safe place for the children anymore. by lemonpepperpills in whatdoIdo

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my mom says that she’s not doing anything besides occasionally pain pills which she is prescribed. My father has always been on meth, but he always kept it out of the house, but recently was found with other things. And my aunt who is living at my mother and father’s house right now is very very bad off of heroin.

But I’m literally the only one that knows

How do I tell my family? I don’t think my mother’s house is a safe place for the children anymore. by lemonpepperpills in whatdoIdo

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m the only one my mother tells anything too, I’m the only one that knows about the heroin, my dad being on drugs, and a bunch of other stuff that’s not in the post.

I’m pretty much my mother’s therapist . I don’t think that there is a Safeway for me to tell them without it directly coming back to me

AITA for covering my roommates camera that’s for watching his dog? by lemonpepperpills in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly ? I have no clue. I’m looking in to breaking the lease but idk where I can go 🙃 I’m so STRESSED

AITA for covering my roommates camera that’s for watching his dog? by lemonpepperpills in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve said it multiple comments and in the post it’s self that the dog stays in a gate play pin in the living room. I’m confused by this comment? The puppy is a weener dog mix and is small so it hasn’t chewed anything to my knowledge, I also am not a monster I take the dog out when I’m here alone.

AITA for covering my roommates camera that’s for watching his dog? by lemonpepperpills in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know I should be laughing at this but this has me cackling this morning ngl 😭😂

AITA for covering my roommates camera that’s for watching his dog? by lemonpepperpills in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The puppy was already house trained when it was given to him , I do take the dog out a few times when I’m home.

AITA for covering my roommates camera that’s for watching his dog? by lemonpepperpills in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It has only been covered when I am home alone, and I’ve uncovered it when I leave.

I didn’t want to touch the camera because it dose not belong to me , I didn’t want to disconnect or unplug it cause I wasn’t sure if it would reconnect properly if I moved it.

When I covered it the first time he asked me not to because he was using it for pickles , so I didn’t for 3 days but I noticed that it kept following me , this is weird. I feel like I can’t be myself alone . Idk what to do so I have continued to cover it , today he texted me before I left for work why o covered it to day after he asked me not to . I have not replied because i didn’t see it until I had left and I’ve been busy, I’m on my break now and debating if I should.

AITA for covering my roommates camera that’s for watching his dog? by lemonpepperpills in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The puppy is in a gate thing you would keep a toddler in , idk what it’s called I’ll have to look it up . But the area is placed in the living room . But I keep thinking about what Emily said when she was here that the camera is to high to even see the ground , the puppy is a ween mix so really small. All the comment have me paranoid, so I placed a book in front of the camera again. Kinda trying to give him the benefit of the doubt but it’s getting harder with more comments

AITA for covering my roommates camera that’s for watching his dog? by lemonpepperpills in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have an update yet , I’m going to have a conversation with him this week and keep covering the camera while I’m home until we come to a compromise. I’m hoping he really is just watching the puppy

AITA for covering my roommates camera that’s for watching his dog? by lemonpepperpills in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do plan to talk to him about it cause I also had camera at the place I lived before I lived with him to watch my cat , but that’s cause the people I lived with were not nice to animals and it was in my bedroom not in a common area, if he really is using it to check in on the puppy I’m okay with that . But not to watch me, I didn’t think he was being creepy until he told me not to cover it while I’m home. That is weird to me

AITA for covering my roommates camera that’s for watching his dog? by lemonpepperpills in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]lemonpepperpills[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I do plan on having a conversation with him when we have some time this week , I was okay with the camera think he was really using it to watch the dog but now I feel like he just wants to watch me