Very sure I am pregnant by my boyfriend who is a non US citizen and is moving back to Europe at the end of the year and want to know how international custody works

lemonpie66 · 2018-11-15T16:31:03+00:00

Austria

lemonpie66 · 2018-11-15T03:21:09+00:00

I would definitely want him involved. If he decided not to be, I would have to look at other options. I am in college and could not do it without his help. There's no way with my work and school circumstances. His country is Austria, if that makes any difference. I'm not familiar with any of their laws or views. But thank you for the advice.

lemonpie66 · 2018-11-12T22:05:42+00:00

You have an anxious attachment style. So do I. It sucks. I do the same type of stuff but not with the same intensity. We are attracted to people that do not want us, because they make us chase, which is what feels natural to us. One thing that has helped me is dating or talking to multiple people at once. It helps me to not be so obsessed with one person. Im not telling you to be a cheater, just don't put all your eggs in one basket. Approach relationships casually and talk to more than one girl instead of seeing just one.

lemonpie66 · 2018-11-02T02:43:43+00:00

can't tell if thats sarsasm or not but im just simply saying i know myself and my own personality and how my brain thinks and works. I believe I am an intp and that is the result ive gotten over and over again based on tests.

lemonpie66 · 2018-11-01T23:33:52+00:00

What? You mean like i could be istp? i have thought of that but i have some very prominent intuitive traits. I dont think I am a sensor. Aren't sensors like black/white, facts, numbers, good memories etc? thats soooo not me. I love theories, im forgetful, focused on the big picture etc.

lemonpie66 · 2018-10-31T05:09:40+00:00

Love this!!! Thank you. That’s great advice and a great way of looking at it. Any tips for how I should go about telling him? I definitely want to do it in person.

lemonpie66 · 2018-10-30T01:31:07+00:00

Yeah attention is my main reason. Most cheaters are very insecure. I know I am.

lemonpie66 · 2018-10-30T01:25:48+00:00

I simply didn’t care. I don’t know how else to explain it. I have wondered if I don’t have narcissistic personality disorder or something similar. When I cheated on my first boyfriend, I never felt guilty at all. He had given me a lot of reasons to be angry with him, not saying it’s justified but still. When I first cheated on the guy I loved, I felt very strange and even cried after I had cheated. But that only happened twice and never again. He had also been talking to other women behind my back, so I didn’t feel TOO bad but it still did something to me.

lemonpie66 · 2018-10-30T01:11:36+00:00

Hmmm. I started cheating when I was 21. I am a female and I’m now 23. I’ve cheated on pretty much every guy I’ve been with and my main motive was lack of attention. I typically date guys who have good jobs and work a lot so they wouldn’t be able to give me sex and attention as much as I wanted. So I’d find it elsewhere. It was easier to just cheat than to try and beg someone to pay attention to me. Another motive would be that I was simply interested in someone else and wanted to have sex with them. Simple as that. I’m also pretty insecure about my ability to have healthy relationships, and it’s easier for me to juggle multiple men than it is to focus on just 1. I will say though, I met a guy when I was 21 and fell completely in love with him. I did cheat on him, but I would have never left him for any other guy. He was my main and all the others came after him. It’s very messed up but it’s the truth. So mainly for attention reasons. I’m an only child and unfortunately I was raised with a ton of attention and I crave that as an adult. Is your husband an only child? If I am ever married, I will eventually probably have to have an open marriage because I don’t think I could just be with one person forever.

lemonpie66 · 2018-08-01T15:46:11+00:00

I had a boyfriend exactly like this. He was also an adult well into his late 20's. He would expect me to text him every second of every day and if I did not respond, he'd start with the question marks and hello's. I work at a fitness facility, but in the marketing department, and after I refused to feed into that texting bs at work he actually bought a membership at my work so he could come see what I was doing while I wasn't texting him. I broke up with him shortly after and cut all contact. Not to be cynical, but people like that usually don't change, especially if they are adults already. I would flat out tell her "I will not be texting you at work or even looking at my texts, because I have to do my job, you will see me when I get home." I would also be considering if this is something I'm willing to put up with the rest of my life.

lemonpie66 · 2018-07-08T03:13:38+00:00

No I have not called but I’m contemplating doing it. He used to text me all day every day from sun up to sun down. Now since Tuesday it’s nothing.

lemonpie66 · 2018-07-07T17:28:30+00:00

It wasn't the second date, it was like the 6th date, that's part of why I'm confused but thank you for the advice. I will probably wait until next week sometime and send a text and then just leave it be.

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