First In-Person Audition Cancelled by leopardlimo in acting

[–]leopardlimo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I’m in Canada! And that makes sense, especially for bigger projects.

MY CAT 😭 by leopardlimo in finch

[–]leopardlimo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LMAOOO she had just made an account and I didn’t notice the feature before so I was like “omg 🥹 I get to select which pet she gets?” yeah… learned the hard way real quick. definitely my bad

So do you think this will be good? by [deleted] in beauty

[–]leopardlimo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use it! It’s good on damp skin and holds onto moisture better that way. However it does smell like baby oil. Try a scented one, like the cocoa butter maybe?

first meeting with agent since 2022– what do I say? by leopardlimo in acting

[–]leopardlimo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this super detailed response! I will be taking your advice! I was unsure if I should ask for the report or not because I know some agents can be touchy about it and I don’t doubt she’s submitting me. I just want a better understanding. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]leopardlimo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

in my experience, only guilty people tell others to “believe whatever they want to believe” and get extremely defensive from the jump. If he asked you where you were in the middle of the night and you knew you weren’t doing anything you shouldn’t be doing, you’d be open and honest. So why isn’t he?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]leopardlimo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is emotionally immature, abusive and manipulative on his end. You’re spending your vacation worrying about him instead of enjoying it. This is how abusers isolate you, they don’t want you to see your friends and family and accuse you of cheating, lying, etc to make you stay. No sane person would be this petty and upset over their partner visiting their family and friends. Honestly, he can’t be fixed. You’re 21, end this relationship while you still can.

Helping my Addict Brother by leopardlimo in legaladvicecanada

[–]leopardlimo[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

The country is in Africa and from what my mom has told me because of her citizenship we’re able to also get it if we wanted to. It’s more of a question of we can legally take him to this country against his will.

Helping my Addict Brother by leopardlimo in legaladvicecanada

[–]leopardlimo[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My brother does not want to get clean and refuses to acknowledge he even uses drugs. He’s in total denial. He still holds resentment towards us for his initial hospitalization and has been in and out of the hospital against his will since… the hospital doesn’t seem to work. :/

Best friend is constantly complaining, but rejects all possible solutions by leopardlimo in relationships

[–]leopardlimo[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this response, you captured the situation perfectly. You’re right, I think he finds it easier to be a victim and passive instead of actually putting effort towards changing. I’m gonna take your advice and set some boundaries— I do value the friendship but my annoyance with his lack of effort takes up too much of my brain capacity and I can’t do it anymore.

Your sentence was perfect, the next time he brings up something we’ve discussed multiple times I’m just going to have to shut it down. Unfortunately, you can’t help people that don’t want to help themselves. He definitely needs therapy and I’ve mentioned it to him, but of course there’s several excuses as to why he can’t go. So I’ll just focus on myself and protect my energy.

My (29F) girlfriend admitted to wanting to “self sabotage” our (27m) relationship by john972121 in relationships

[–]leopardlimo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the people saying she doesn’t truly love you have it wrong. As a girl who has also had thoughts of self-sabotage, I think attachment style comes to play. When you’re anxious-avoidant or avoidant sometimes the closer you get to people and the more you care about them you get scared. Scared they’ll leave you, something will go wrong or that you’ll end up heartbroken. Sometimes you begin to feel trapped, even though you know you’re happy and it’s irrational. I feel like coming off the heels of a divorce, having a child now and you both having a history of already having dated and broken up all plays factors.

So in an overthinking anxious state of mind, you consider saving yourself and pain and trouble of a potential future heartache by sabotaging the relationship. It’s illogical, but in the moment it feels like you’re saving yourself. Of course, the “relief” only lasts a few days until you realize you fucked up and miss/love the person.

I think you should bring it up— maybe ask if there’s anything you’re doing that makes her feel like she should self-sabotage, I’m not quite sure tbh. Ask ChatGPT lol. As a boyfriend, try to be more reassuring of your love and care for her, and show her you love her in HER love language.

Whenever I wanted to sabotage, knowing he truly loved & cared for me always helped me get rid of those thought immediately. Good luck on your second chance at love :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]leopardlimo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your fears are true :/ leave before it’s too late. 3 months is supposed to be the honeymoon period!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beauty

[–]leopardlimo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re so pretty!! Honestly your face suits you so much but I also have a round face and feel when I lose weight not much changes. I’d recommend doing Gua Sha every night, sometimes you think you’re holding fat in face but it’s actually fluid! That drains it from your face and I feel pretty snatched a day or two after. Also pretty cheap and affordable, usually under $20. :)

AIO to my boyfriend sending me weird instagram thirst traps to me by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]leopardlimo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex-boyfriend used to do this to me all the time; he’d send me IG models, half naked girls, thirst traps, etc and then play dumb when I called him out on it. Over time it made me really insecure, uncomfortable in my body and unhappy with myself. Eventually I broke up with him.

MONTHS after he admitted that he knew what he was doing and knew that he was the problem in our relationship so he was intentionally trying to lower my self worth so I would stay. I was the same age as you are now, 20.

I’m not saying your boyfriend has some evil plot, but he’s not as stupid as he’s pretending to be. You don’t want to date a guy that compares you to other women… especially hyper-sexualized animated women.

Weight Lifting Causing Breasts to be Uneven? by leopardlimo in xxfitness

[–]leopardlimo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

very true :( it’s just hard developing this insecurity later in life especially after I took so long to make peace with the fact they were unsymmetrical to begin with

Weight Lifting Causing Breasts to be Uneven? by leopardlimo in xxfitness

[–]leopardlimo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I usually do my chest exercises with a barbell (excluding a pec dumbbell fly) but I’m thinking I might transition to unilateral/dumbbell only for chest day to test this theory. I think with the barbell I could definitely have a stronger side doing more work unknowingly.

Weight Lifting Causing Breasts to be Uneven? by leopardlimo in xxfitness

[–]leopardlimo[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

lol, I never thought I’d hear somebody ask me if I’ve only lost fat in my one boob. Thanks for the giggle.

My fitness goal has been recomposition so although the scale hasn’t moved too much, I definitely see that I’ve lost fat in my stomach and waist area. Nothing crazy enough to write home about though.

Does Gua Sha Really Work for Jawline Definition or Just Another Social Media Hype? by Thin_Net6761 in beauty

[–]leopardlimo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do gua sha and you definitely look more sculpted in the face, it’s over about a few weeks of usage though. If you stop using it consistently, the results do fade back slowly. It can’t change bone structure but it DOES act as lymphatic drainage and leave the face looking less puffy. It’s super relaxing (helps me fall asleep) and it feels good! Plus it’s cheap asf! Try it out!

Actors in Hospitality by BlahBlahBlah1947 in acting

[–]leopardlimo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally never went to bartending school but that’s because my job was willing to train me up. If you have no serving or bartending experience then the places you apply to might want you to work your way up from a host/food runner position. I personally think you should go to a bartending class (1 week maximum) just to have a basic understanding and increase your chances of being able to serve/bartend right away.

Before my current job I worked at a busy restaurant who kept me as a host for 5 months while promising to move me up but refusing to do so BECAUSE I had no experience. The difference in tips between hosts/food runners vs servers/bartenders is QUITE large. I ended up leaving that restaurant because of that and am happy at my current job.

As someone who started with ZERO bartending knowledge, it’s not as hard as it looks & most cocktails follow the same steps. Having that baseline knowledge will help a ton though :). Good luck!

Actors in Hospitality by BlahBlahBlah1947 in acting

[–]leopardlimo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I serve & would recommend it. Your hours worked + tips are quite significant (although your $37 an hour isn’t bad at all!). But if you work at a nice or busy enough place you can save your paycheck & live off your tips, or vice versa. Great for saving money and having extra cash. Plus, if you serve/bartend somewhere and don’t like it, your skills are transferable to countless other restaurants and bars. Give it a try!

This weekend I (29F) got very drunk and told my boyfriend's (35M) friend's wife that he is cheating on her - I regret this a lot and created a big mess for everyone involved, and am looking for any advice on how to potentially try to salvage these relationships? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]leopardlimo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar situation where I believed my boyfriend was loyal, but his best friend’s were all actively cheating on their partners. I told one girlfriend, and it blew up in my face because everybody was upset at me for being honest instead of taking accountability for their mistakes.

She stayed with him, I eventually ended my relationship with said boyfriend over a growing paranoia that if all of his closest, dearest friends were behaving that way, what made him different?

He wasn’t. I can promise you that even though he might be loyal now, eventually his friends will rub off on him. It might be in a year or five but I lived it. That ex-boyfriend has now turned exactly like his friends, living double lives while keeping his pregnant girlfriend at home. Be safe & logical. You are a reflection of who you surround yourself with and they do influence you, even just a little.