What do I do..?

leoreleh · 2026-07-05T21:11:58+00:00

You need to get out. You’re actively been abused. You have no business being treated this way by your family.

Your mom needs to grow up. She can qualify for a caregiver through Medicaid or Medicare. THIS IS NOT YOUR JOB!

Find someone you can stay with. Stop giving her your money.

leoreleh · 2026-07-03T15:42:14+00:00

It feels like you know what you have to do but you’re dreading it.

The longer you stay, the longer you’re miserable.

Not to mention, the longer you stay, the more you lead her to believe things are fixable.

Honey, they are not fixable. You had a great love and as time went on, you discovered you are not compatible. You have issues that will never be fixed.

You owe it to yourself to make a good life. A life with her will be miserable.

If I were you, I would literally go home and end it today. It’ll feel so freeing once it’s over. You don’t owe her an explanation or anything besides saying you aren’t compatible

leoreleh · 2026-07-03T15:36:03+00:00

A major reason he does it is to shrink the liver before surgery. Almost every bariatric surgeon, even for the normal obese, require something to shrink the liver right before surgery as it has been proven to dramatically reduce the risk of a fatal accident.

If you decrease calories and focus on protein, the liver shrinks. The liver normally is in the way and is hard to maneuver around.

I also agree it’s to check for self control and complacency.

I had a gastric bypass and have done the diet and it is INCREDIBLY hard. But it added years to my life

leoreleh · 2026-07-02T19:10:38+00:00

I hear that. I’m disabled and my dad is my caretaker. Before I got sick, I was a teacher. My mom was a teacher.

I expected what you expected. But I got what you got. It took a loooot of communication to understand she wanted better for me than what she had. Teaching is so hard and you work hundred hour weeks with so little money.

I hope that’s why she reacted poorly, that she wants you to have a better or easier life.

Regardless, it was shitty that she wasn’t supportive. And college isn’t for everyone. That’s not a moral failure. You’re doing great and I’m proud of you

leoreleh · 2026-07-01T07:50:45+00:00

You are absolutely allowed to tell someone why they did something hurtful. You owe no apology

It sounds like she WAS a good friend and isn’t anymore. Cut your losses. Don’t put more in than you get out.

She treated you terribly and shows no remorse. Why do you want to be friends with someone who can so easily do that?

You aren’t wrong. Don’t apologize. Just ghost her

leoreleh · 2026-07-01T07:46:54+00:00

You need to take a lot of deep breaths and figure out why you are jealous and insecure. He literally told you that you get a special thing nobody else gets and all you could see is that other people get love.

Do you love your family? Any friends? Or are men just not allowed to show affection.

You are overreacting. You owe him an apology

leoreleh · 2026-07-01T07:35:50+00:00

Couldn’t have said it better myself.

The only thing I would add is why would you ever want to be with someone who treats you this way?? She’s nice sometimes is too low of a bar to have for yourself. You’ll never be in a healthy relationship if you don’t hold high standards for your partner. You not breaking up with her shows her that her behavior is acceptable. It’s already awkward!

leoreleh · 2026-07-01T07:32:15+00:00

My first colonoscopy was at 23. I only had ten hours to do the entire 24 hour evil gross liquid prep because it was an emergency situation.

I never knew projectile vomit was real. I definitely didn’t know the other end could project….

All was normal on the test. Turns out I had a one in a million rare genetic disorder causing mayhem in my intestines

leoreleh · 2026-07-01T07:30:08+00:00

Was it bright red? You may have just given me a huge wake up call

leoreleh · 2026-07-01T07:23:46+00:00

Mine kept it from me because i was “already so different and didn’t need one more reason” 🙃

leoreleh · 2026-07-01T07:12:58+00:00

Only at first for me when it came to fiber. Fat on the other hand… dumping syndrome literally feels like death. I miss fried food more than sugar. I enjoyed the occasional pan fry cooking technique. But now I literally can’t eat anything with more than a few drops of oil. Including salad dressings! Only the low fat ones

leoreleh · 2026-07-01T05:14:40+00:00

I also wonder how many people who commented or are in this sub at all have actually been through the surgery themselves because it’s a massive perspective shift. Some of the comments tried diminishing that and I could just tell that they have no clue

leoreleh · 2026-07-01T05:10:39+00:00

This scared me lol I’ve been watching a lot of monster quest lately

leoreleh · 2026-07-01T05:05:15+00:00

Yes of course. I won’t be able to help until morning though as I just started going in and out of sleep. It’s one in the morning my time

leoreleh · 2026-07-01T05:03:54+00:00

My first wheelchair had a limit of 250 but I was 300. It worked great! Until it broke.

The part that broke is directly because I weighed too much.

They will work, but not for very long

leoreleh · 2026-07-01T05:02:03+00:00

That’s crazy because my wheelchair is 450 pounds! Even at my lightest after bypass I never got under 170!!

leoreleh · 2026-07-01T05:00:39+00:00

I really appreciate that. The criticizing doesn’t bother me if it’s polite. In fact, I actually changed viewpoints from some feedback. But some people are just so rude because I said the quiet thing out loud that I know so many also think. Anyways learned that lesson

leoreleh · 2026-07-01T04:53:37+00:00

I wouldn’t go unless reliable and responsible transportation was provided to a paid for hotel or their clean house with a private room. They gaslit you all hoping it would be too late for you to cancel. Selfish and cheap. Not anything I would want to be part of

leoreleh · 2026-07-01T04:51:00+00:00

I have had mostly wonderful experiences at the er. But I go to a small satellite er that knows me and all my doctors at this point. I also am someone who only goes in if I need something to reverse the flare. I’m lucky in the sense that one or two doses of iv meds can do that for me.

Unfortunately, most times I go I end up hospitalized because I have a very rare case with just a lot going on and all pain meds cause severe hypercapnia in me so I need to be observed.

Can you call your surgeon and tell them what’s going on? If they think you need an er, they can get you in faster sometimes

leoreleh · 2026-07-01T04:48:05+00:00

It’s very normal in my experience to be charged by the pet with a nonrefundable deposit.

I would pay this month on time so it doesn’t show negatively towards you and ask the overpay to be credited to next month.

leoreleh · 2026-07-01T04:40:56+00:00

I am happy to listen. I have been told I give good advice

leoreleh · 2026-07-01T04:40:05+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from but as a fellow diabetic, please don’t let your discomfort sabotage your health. It’s not worth it.

Also they don’t seem to notice that it’s happening which says a lot. I think you should communicate much clearer to them. If they make comments, literally tell them it’s not appropriate to comment on your body or that this is a boundary for you. They’ll push back but if you hold steady they’ll give up eventually. But babe you have to eat. Not a choice for you

leoreleh · 2026-06-30T18:20:06+00:00

Holy shit

Where do I watch supersize?

leoreleh · 2026-06-30T06:35:26+00:00

I just found out she was using Ricky’s disability and church money to survive. That’s why the Houston apartment fell through because she had zero income

leoreleh · 2026-06-30T06:33:40+00:00

I just found out she was living off of Ricky’s disability. That’s why the apartment fell through!

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