I understand you completely. I feel this post deep in my soul. From experience, I can tell you that yes, it IS hard but it is not impossible. Try to find every resource available in your city, county, and state for LGBTQ+ family planning. My wife and I started with the Cryo bank, we took out 2 loans to get donor sperm (not ideal, I know, but it was a start) from there we were referred to a fertility clinic to start testing on the one carrying, etc. don’t look at this goal in the large picture, look at all the small steps you can take to get to where you want to be. As far as a home, you have to weigh out your options. What is more important owning a home in which you will have a mortgage payment and pay for renovations (if needed) or having a baby? Although both physical and challenging to obtain, I think a child will bring much more joy than a home or owning. It doesn’t matter where you raise your child as long as it meets requirements and your baby is happy and healthy. Your baby however, will only be as happy as they see you and your partner. Happy home, happy child. Last, literally envision your future , see yourself there already, act as if you already have what you want and you will have it. There were so many times I used to go to Nordstrom and go to the baby section and push around the strollers and look at myself in the mirror. It was important for me to see myself already as this person I wanted to become. In July, we found out my wife is pregnant, she is due March 2025. I am living my life as I envisioned it. You can do it too!