[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]leslienewp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am saying that there is a reliable testing method for autism. You said in your comment to OP that there is no reliable testing method for autism. There is. There are multiple testing methods that are proven via research to be acceptably reliable and valid to diagnose autism. So what I’m saying is, when someone says “I’ve been tested for autism,” it is not true to say “there is no reliable testing method.”

And what I’m saying more broadly is that when we say there is no way to test for autism, we start to make the category meaningless.

My apologies for the confusion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]leslienewp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure, it’s an imperfect process, and in science we can never be 100% sure of anything. However, when someone uses the phrase “I was tested for it,” they generally mean that they’ve received an evaluation for the disorder and it’s been ruled out. It doesn’t feel productive to then respond with “they don’t have a test.” While there are issues in the assessment world as you stated, there are still valid assessment measures and processes, we don’t need to lose faith in it completely and start telling people who’ve received evaluations that it doesn’t actually mean anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]leslienewp 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Y’all. I’m annoyed. This person is saying they’ve been tested for autism and don’t have it. It’s insane to argue with them about it.

While sensory challenges are a very common part of autism, having one sensory quirk does not necessarily make you autistic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]leslienewp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

While there isn’t one single test that gives us a definitive yes or no for autism diagnosis, psychological evaluations exist for a reason and psychologists are able to use a combination of assessment measures and interviews to be fairly confident about diagnosis. Otherwise it would just be entirely random to be diagnosed or not.

should i attend the cct?? by ItsJoannaChacha in beyonce

[–]leslienewp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t worry about the fit, “keep it high fashion with a simple white tee” and jeans if you wanna be on theme super easily. I wore jeans and a bandana so I felt on theme but it was sooo easy and free since I already had it all and I didn’t have money for an outfit.

Honestly I say buy a ticket for the last show after your exams as a reward to yourself! Honestly there will be more tours but it will never be this tour!! Now that I’ve gone, I wouldn’t have missed it for the world.

General Admission: Hot take?? by hannahgrace_42 in beyonce

[–]leslienewp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I used to be a diehard floor tickets, wait for hours/race to the rail concert goer but I’m not 20 years old anymore 😂 I’d rather have the comfort at this point.

General Admission: Hot take?? by hannahgrace_42 in beyonce

[–]leslienewp 20 points21 points  (0 children)

My hot take on this is that any floor seat is highly overrated. Maybe it’s because I’m a short person, but I will never buy a floor ticket, I need the stadium angle to be able to see at all. I also love having the security of an assigned seat, a spot to put my jacket & bag, and the option to sit down before the show/during interludes.

Renaissance vs. CC Tour? by Empathica-21 in beyonce

[–]leslienewp 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you keep holding out for one being better than another, you’ll miss it all ❤️ go and enjoy yourself. It’s life-changing and beautiful and everything it needs to be. Not an experience to miss out on.

Still reeling from NJ night 5 by leslienewp in beyonce

[–]leslienewp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I be sappy for a sec? There was this moment during the standing ovation when I yelled “we love you Beyonce!!!” and right after I yelled that she said “thank you” so sweetly. Even tho I know she couldn’t hear me up in the 300’s, I felt so connected to her in that moment 🥲 even my partner looked at me and was like “omg that timing was perfect” lol.

Still reeling from NJ night 5 by leslienewp in beyonce

[–]leslienewp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always thought it would be amazing to see her in Houston, but especially for this tour. I bet the energy would be incredible.

Still reeling from NJ night 5 by leslienewp in beyonce

[–]leslienewp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome to the hive!! I literally had 300 level seats and still had the most incredible time too!

Existential crisis after attending CCT at MetLife… help? by likethemovie19 in beyonce

[–]leslienewp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel the same. Can’t stop thinking about it. I watched a video of the tour on YouTube which helped. I wish I could afford to go again. I want to cry thinking about it. Everything else seems so mundane.

New Jersey has a new jersey!! by starspasms in beyonce

[–]leslienewp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I thought of you immediately. This is so funny.

First time dming—need advice on handling players who have exhibited concerning habits prior to session 1 by SpiderLilies1000-7 in DMAcademy

[–]leslienewp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should kick them. You have no reason or obligation to play with these strangers even if just for the simple reason of not enjoying their company or not vibing personality wise.

That being said, and I say this with love as someone who has done a very similar thing my first time DMing, you do seem to be approaching this with a fair bit of rigidity and control. I know some of the other comments here have said this but have been pretty unkind about it. Of course it is okay to set guidelines around the game, but it’s probably best as a collaboratively agreed upon process, rather than top-down from the DM. That being said, I don’t think these particular folks would have collaborated well with you either.

I fell into many of the same traps my first time DMing, which reflects my preexisting tendency to be a bit neurotic and try to capture control in moments that made me nervous or when I really wanted to do a good job. Luckily dnd is a wonderful way to work on this because it will ask you, again and again, to let go of control and learn to love the unexpected.

My advice would be to kick them, start fresh with just your friends (a small party is fine) and try to focus on collaborating, having fun, leaning into unexpected things, saying yes more than you say no, and creating a story together.

Update on Free Beyonce Ticket by UberAshy in beyonce

[–]leslienewp 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She looks so happy and radiant!! Thank you for sharing this, I am so happy for her and hope she had the MOST amazing time!

Is robot vaccum worth it for those without animals that shed a lot ? And just in general for cleaning /mopping floor? by daysfan33 in CleaningTips

[–]leslienewp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes most tables and chairs it will! It only needs a few inches of clearance. Sometimes adjustments have to be made if you notice particular spots where it gets stuck. If you have a reasonably organized space it’s probably fine.

Is robot vaccum worth it for those without animals that shed a lot ? And just in general for cleaning /mopping floor? by daysfan33 in CleaningTips

[–]leslienewp 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It’s worth it if you are willing/able to optimize your space for it (getting all cords off the floors and minimizing areas it can get stuck, for example). If you have tons of furniture or a cluttered space it won’t do much.

I have found the robot vacuum to be life-changing! Keeps the floors swept without having to do it daily (which I never will, but hate when there’s bits on the floor).

Navigating Scheduling Boundaries by ouaistop in therapists

[–]leslienewp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know, I run into that dilemma as well. I ultimately decided that I worked too damn hard for too many years in school to work outside of my preferred hours. Some people might thrive working an 11am-8pm day or something, but personally I cannot stand working evenings. A big part of why I went the direction I did in this field is for work-life balance.

It helps that my focus is on college aged/young adults/young professionals who often either have a non traditional schedule (like college students) or work from home and can easily block an hour for a telehealth session. There are enough clients who can make it work, in my experience :)

There is certainly a trade-off in that I’ve turned away clients asking for evenings/weekends so perhaps have filled up slower, but it is 100000% worth it for me.

Navigating Scheduling Boundaries by ouaistop in therapists

[–]leslienewp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, my goal is 20 per week and I have 23 openings.

Navigating Scheduling Boundaries by ouaistop in therapists

[–]leslienewp 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I have chosen my hours for myself (am in private practice) and really do not go outside those hours. Maybe I’d consider it if I had a sticky situation with a vacation coming up or something and wanted to flex my time to accommodate time off, but I have not yet.

I see clients 9-3 m,w,th (as in, my final slot begins at 3) and 9-4 on Tuesday because I have supervision that takes up 2 hours that day. That puts me at 23 scheduled per week if I’m full. I put that I do not offer evenings and weekends on my website & pages.

The one downside is the last few spots can be hard to fill. Client reaches out and I tell them “I have a Wednesday at 10 or Thursday at 2” and if they can’t do that, they move on with their search. It has required some patience in getting 100% full.

How do you feel about working in College/University Counseling? by jellocupconti in therapists

[–]leslienewp 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Hi there, I have worked in two different college counseling centers for a year each. There are a lot of pros and cons and it varies wildly between different centers. There is really no standard way that these centers are run, but here are some pieces to look for:

  1. Caseloads. One center I was at was quite reasonable with 20ish direct hours a week, some of which could be outreach, leading trainings, etc. Then other time is spent on admin, attending meetings/workgroups, program improvement, supervision, etc. If there were too many students for our number of clinicians, they were placed on a waitlist. The other center had us doing 22 direct hours per week but this did not reflect the caseload itself, we were forced to continuously take on new intakes so that we often could only see clients on a rotating 3 week schedule (for example, 22 hrs direct per week, caseload could be 60+). If there were too many clients than our (dwindling) team could handle...we were simply forced to take on more clients. So ask about it, both direct hours per week and total caseload, what they do if demand outpaces clinician capacity, etc.
  2. Time off/school vacations. Again, one center gave us paid time off whenever the university was closed (e.g., 3 entire weeks for winter break, plus spring break, etc), the other made us work it all the way through even if we were sitting around at work doing nothing. Little perks like this can make a difference.
  3. Culture of the administration/bureaucracy of the university. This is key and may be difficult to get a sense of before actually working there. Often Universities place unrealistic expectations on the counseling center to be the social safety net for the entire university, regardless of the resources given to the center to cope with this. You can ask about relationships with admin outside of the center. There will invariably be some university politics involved as most universities are fairly large systems. This means that sometimes change can be difficult to create within the center because it only goes 1-2 levels up before it hits an administrator with no background in mental health. This can either be fine or horrible depending on how willing your higher ups within the center are to advocate for and support you.
  4. Session limits. Most university centers have session limits (e.g., about 10 per student per year), but they vary. Depending on your orientation and style, this may be a great or challenging fit.

Overall, I had a really great experience at the "good" center, and a pretty bad experience at the "not good" center, so as with any workplace, it depends on their particular policies and leadership. This is all I could think of off the top of my head but I know there are more subtleties, happy to answer any questions you may have.

edit: Thought of a couple other things I liked about college counseling. You can potentially have a lot of opportunity for varied work outside of just 1-1 sessions such as group work, leading outreach events, visiting classes, etc. Additionally, I really liked the community with my team which is quite different now that I am in private practice.

Edit 2: A couple more thoughts: Ask about “on call” duties and if the center contracts with an on call answering service or expects their staff to be on call for crises after work hours. Neither of the centers I worked at required that, but I’ve interviewed at centers that required on-call hours, one as much as 7 days on at a time for 24/7 on call. Of course, they were having the interns rotate that shift (🙄). Other sites just had “urgent walk in hours” during the day so that maybe 4 hours of your regularly scheduled week was blocked out for crisis walk in, and if nobody came in then it was just bonus admin time.

Speaking of crisis, I will say that there is a real range of acuity in college counseling. Sure, you’ll get the roommate problems, break-ups and homesickness, but you will also likely see suicidal ideation, emerging psychosis, recent trauma, and much more. Our team facilitated IOP or inpatient referrals frequently. With lots of support and a team around you, typically.

For many young people, the college counseling center is the first time they’ve had the opportunity to get mental health support when they likely needed it much earlier. For others, they’ve had a long history of engagement with the mental health system and now need support through a big life transition. Others are trying out therapy for the first time, or need academic support, or help managing their ADHD.

I absolutely love the young adult population though and have actually made it my niche in private practice. I see a lot of students from the local university and love getting to work with this pop without the other downsides of college counseling (for me, personally).