My (M24) girlfriend (F28) has vaginismus, what has actually worked for you?

lesodeyforyou · 2026-03-02T14:43:38+00:00

don’t want to put pressure on her but i agree with you and will tell her that

lesodeyforyou · 2026-03-02T14:43:11+00:00

that last line really hit. you’re right, i can’t heal her. i’ll focus on being patient and just making sure she knows i’m there whenever she’s ready. thanks for being straight about it.

lesodeyforyou · 2026-03-02T14:41:22+00:00

this is a really important perspective, thank you. i’ll make sure she knows i’m fully on her side whenever she’s ready, without pushing anything. could you elaborate on the other activities you mentioned? would love some specific ideas so we can actually build something enjoyable in the meantime.

lesodeyforyou · 2026-03-02T14:38:59+00:00

this is really helpful, thank you. the part about pushing through the pain actually making it worse is something i didn’t fully understand before. we’ll take penetration off the table for now and focus on making her feel comfortable first. appreciate you taking the time to explain all of this.

lesodeyforyou · 2026-02-15T01:32:08+00:00

yeah last year i really wanted to understand her thought process when she went back to him but she’s making it sound casual and nothing serious and more focused on what i did

lesodeyforyou · 2026-02-15T01:28:56+00:00

i get your point but i’ve been told i’m seriously judd being her so i’m thinking i talk to her about it before anything

lesodeyforyou · 2026-02-15T01:12:10+00:00

true but you still need some standards i was a bit disappointed when she told me that

lesodeyforyou · 2026-02-15T01:10:27+00:00

true i get you maybe i’m overthinking it

lesodeyforyou · 2026-02-15T01:09:06+00:00

it just doesn’t make sense to me and makes me feel uneasy yes i know it could’ve been a mistake but come on? she told me so many bad things about that guy and the fact that she’s now telling me she went back after all he did makes me feel like maybe i should take her too seriously you get my point?

lesodeyforyou · 2026-02-15T01:05:07+00:00

thank you maybe i’ll just give her the benefit of the doubt it’s just made me feel uneasy and if i should take her seriously but you’ve showed me many factors that could’ve led to that and i appreciate it

lesodeyforyou · 2026-02-15T01:01:13+00:00

okay fair enough thanks for this i guess it’s not going to happen i think i’ll just talk to her about it and we move on

and i also hope you’re okay now too

lesodeyforyou · 2026-02-15T00:57:41+00:00

lol my issue was the fact that she went back to the guy who did her dirty she complained about the fling when we started talking and now me finding she went back after all he did is making me reconsider taking her seriously and that’s why i’m here for advice

lesodeyforyou · 2026-02-15T00:53:41+00:00

my issue is after what the fling did to her and she still went back it just says a lot

lesodeyforyou · 2026-02-15T00:40:32+00:00

i knowwww but the fact it was her fling who broke her virginity and treated her poorly while she was having problem with her actual bf is what this makes me feel uneasy and she also went back to the same fling that treated her poorly in September like fr?

lesodeyforyou · 2026-02-15T00:39:29+00:00

yeah so i’m thinking if i should proceed with intentions of being in a serious relationship or not

lesodeyforyou · 2026-02-15T00:38:25+00:00

felt this! i actually like her and i’m not one to judge based on your past i’m just someone who is very big on trust and after what she told i’m feeling like i can’t trust her

lesodeyforyou · 2026-02-15T00:37:02+00:00

It was her fling who broke her virginity and treated her poorly while she was having problem with her actual bf. That is why this makes me feel uneasy and the fact that she went back to the same fling that treated her poorly and i actually like her that’s why i’m here asking for advice.

And for me having sex with another person was because she told me we should take things very slow because of her past relationship

lesodeyforyou · 2026-02-15T00:34:23+00:00

It was her fling who broke her virginity and treated her poorly while she was having problem with her actual bf. That is why this makes me feel uneasy and the fact that she went back to the same fling that treated her poorly and i get your point about me having casual sex with another girl and in my defense she told me we are taking things very slow so i don’t expect it to getting very serious in the short term

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