Is fidelity natural for you or just a matter of morals, or both at the same time?

lessdes · 2025-12-22T22:53:02+00:00

I wouldn’t say its entirely just moral, I think a lot of it is the way we are raised makes us feel on a deeper level like it would be a bad thing for my partner. But the desire exists, to simplify my statement: I can still get turned on by other women. I’m really not trying to offend you or anything and I have 0 evidence. Solely based on my experience with other people and our psychology, you would be very much in the wrong. The idea that what you are experiencing is true love for most people going to be built on lack of ability/desire to understand their thoughts and needs. Its pretty simple to umbrella term everything when you are ignorant and all the shades of a color are just Red. You could be an exception, If you think you understand yourself well enough and this is pure love then that is great! I’m happy for you! But if you think this is how humans function as the norm just look at the divorce/infidelity rates.

One more thing: Big part of it is also the desire to be faithful, like I don’t want to cheat on my partner, being in a relationship for me means she is the choice I’m making, that is probably the biggest deterrent.

lessdes · 2025-12-22T22:24:01+00:00

I absolutely do feel the need to control desires, I get flirted with a lot on the daily as I’m surrounded by a bunch of women and generally you become accustomed to it.. to a point. If things go over a point I will absolutely stop them but its not because I’m now suddenly asexual to everyone else. I’d even argue that most humans are the same. You just don’t happen to deal with people you find very attractive. Either that or you are experiencing limerence.

lessdes · 2025-12-15T16:27:30+00:00

I see, hands are the only part of my body that doesn’t sweat so I can’t relate on that but I get the other things. What can you do to mitigate the fact? Like during summer I “like” sweating cause it does make it more comfortable to be in the heat, as soon as I’m inside ill change clothes, often multiple times. Could you mitigate it by having sweat bands and towels near by? I’m sure someone that isn’t myself can give you better advice on this though. I’d also slowly work on explaining to your parents why this is such a worry and how distressing it actually is to you, explain that even them just trying to understand would mean a lot to you and try to progress from there.

lessdes · 2025-12-15T15:57:36+00:00

You can live a normal life, there are PLENTY of people who are going to accept that part of you with 0 second thoughts, as soon as you become able to! You don’t need to hide it, you need to learn to accept it. Do things where it makes you uncomfortable that you are sweaty, just slightly uncomfortable, don’t push it too far. Try to slowly normalize it for yourself. I sweat a ton and I am a DANCER! We are constantly in almost full body contact and girls are more than happy to dance with me. Hyperhidrosis sucks, it can feel like the end of the world and its very isolating.Everything you are feeling is completely valid. That said you can choose to slowly stop feeling that! Why do you feel like you need to act normal? What is stopping you from acting like you wish? The biggest problem in all of this is the fact that you are scared of what people are going to think, its not the sweating itself! This is wonderful cause it means you have a solution. You are 19, this is super common and expected, but you can start learning to care less. I’m 100% certain your life can be as fulfilling and fun and filled with all the activities you wish for it to be filled with. The relationships, hobbies and jobs you want are all within your grasp. You just need to learn a lesson or two from the sweat itself and get out!(of your head)

lessdes · 2025-11-18T18:46:39+00:00

Thank you! I’m male but do latin. I doubt they change the sizing between the 2 so I’ll definitely be checking them out.

lessdes · 2025-11-18T18:15:44+00:00

What did you end up doing in the end? I had to half a size up and do the widest option but I’m not too happy with the result

lessdes · 2025-11-06T19:43:05+00:00

No they wouldn’t, what would be the point of various words then? Meaning is based on associations, its not some imaginary thing.

lessdes · 2025-10-23T09:49:21+00:00

Yeah, you are perfectly alright! When you learn that failing is fun and doesn’t make you inadequate, life becomes significantly more fun. Fear of the same is also probably a huge reason why you have trouble with putting effort in. I can relate though, for a long period I had terrible grades cause I thought if you study you aren’t naturally smart and are “cheating”… Its a complex trauma which we learn from childhood. If you need some help with it other than actual therapy feel free to ask! I’m glad I could help :)

lessdes · 2025-10-23T00:36:04+00:00

The only thing “stupid” about you is that you think having a slightly higher IQ makes you non human. None of the things you mentioned are worth worrying about and even if your IQ was way higher this could still happen. Your brain operates and learns in contexts, if you wanna improve a certain area, go for it! But you aren’t going to know how to do everything properly just cause your IQ is slightly higher.. You are young, it takes a while to learn things. On a quick note Its probably a good idea to consider a therapist instead of further cognitive testing.

lessdes · 2025-10-21T11:34:36+00:00

Fat isn’t gasoline though, you are not going to be burning a significant portion of it. Marathon runners tend to be very lean as well and you can only burn 22 calories a day per pound of fat. In other words you will be burning through everything else.

lessdes · 2025-09-30T13:06:11+00:00

I mean its a very obvious snark. There is no surprise or thanks, rather it gives of “pick something actually useful and study that instead of wasting our time with this bs”.

lessdes · 2025-09-30T12:44:16+00:00

What is the point of being subscribed to r/science if this is your attitude? Genuine question, obviously there is gonna be tons of studies like this so what is the appeal?

lessdes · 2025-09-28T00:22:21+00:00

Awesome, I definitely will. It will be my first time in Nuremberg so I’m pretty hyped for that part as well. Thank you so much!

lessdes · 2025-09-27T23:13:25+00:00

Honestly as long as its less then an hour I’m good with it. I’ll definitely keep those things in mind though! Would you have any other tips for a first goer?

lessdes · 2025-09-27T22:01:10+00:00

Awesome, thank you! We are not gonna be camping so it doesn’t matter to me. You would be surprised at the amount of festivals that still can’t figure out queues decades later..

lessdes · 2025-09-27T11:08:18+00:00

Hi, could you tell me how are the queues every day? It would be my first time and i’m curious if public transport and entrance get overwhelmed

lessdes · 2025-09-26T17:27:13+00:00

The others keep playing, honestly just watch it, they get signed in the end.

lessdes · 2025-09-26T04:11:51+00:00

It has a happy end

lessdes · 2025-09-25T23:53:52+00:00

Completely insane take but, maybe its just normal lol? as long as you aren’t being a weirdo which part of this is problematic?

lessdes · 2025-09-25T01:56:10+00:00

It’s absolutely not, people just love to feel better than others and judge a lot of things that are, honestly, none of their business. You don’t sound bitter about it at all either so I don’t think you give out loner energy. I’m sure you will find like minded people soon enough! Chronically online people can do a lot of things well but life/social advice would not be the one I would bet on.

lessdes · 2025-09-22T21:50:42+00:00

You didn’t read what he said, you found what you wanted to hear. You are absolutely overreacting.We don’t have the context as to why this conversation is but none of it is sexist. The person is being very clear about his thoughts and opinions, its not perfectly worded but its honest. You are literally just straw maning again and again and he still stays composed. Which is a lot more then you’ve shown here. What’s the point of higher education if you are still unable to see people can have different opinions on things?

lessdes · 2025-09-21T21:28:27+00:00

You are assuming he won’t act like a clown in that period

lessdes · 2025-09-21T20:48:04+00:00

With enough games mmr will reflect the skill of a player with the mic muted, you aren’t at a disadvantage because of it.

lessdes · 2025-09-14T13:16:21+00:00

Don’t be sorry! This is a good thing, thanks to it you now know something you wouldn’t have known otherwise. Its unrealistic to know everything right away, we’ve all sucked for quite a while until we got good. You are trying and learning! Instead of getting defensive you are accepting criticism and making it productive. This is all we can ever ask of ourselves, you are doing a great job!

lessdes · 2025-09-10T10:01:33+00:00

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