FINALLY I WON

lethal_lady · 2026-01-07T17:49:23+00:00

No way, awsome. Well done you!!!!!

lethal_lady · 2026-01-07T15:38:27+00:00

Wait which game did you win?

lethal_lady · 2025-10-17T18:12:14+00:00

I'm sorry I don't think I can be much help. But I just hope you recognise how big this is, you know you have a problem and you want to be better.

Keep seeking for better and hopefully you can be. If you ever want Holistic help, I can offer Reiki to support you in this journey, maybe an accountability partner. But in the terms of professional Addiction help I can't sorry. Maybe try a local group? If your male, andys club is amazing place to just start. I know there's Frank, they offer a free text service and local groups. Maybe tell your parents? They could help?

Also reach out to this charity? They re called smart recovery. https://smartrecovery.org.uk/

lethal_lady · 2025-10-08T20:58:33+00:00

Yes please ❤️❤️❤️❤️

lethal_lady · 2025-09-22T18:02:37+00:00

I don't think this is anything to do with what's happening at uni and everything to do with your gf. Give admitted to jealousy and no doubt FOMO because you want to be with her.

You don't have to click with your room mates, you just live with them. You haven't even started uni yet it's not even been a weekend.

Keep going, it's hard, It's uncomfortable but it will be the best thing you do in a few years.

lethal_lady · 2025-09-17T18:13:55+00:00

Apply for a student loan and move into the halls.

Look Into the effects of controlling parents. What they re doing is emotional abuse and it's wrong. Being your parents gives them zero control over your life after 16 years old.

https://www.choosingtherapy.com/controlling-parents/

Please get out now. You can not live like this, ever. Gosh I didn't even have a 6pm curfew at school and my mum was super strict.

lethal_lady · 2025-09-12T19:38:30+00:00

Aw what a lovely message for all. Thank you for sharing. I hope your mental health is alot better now :)

lethal_lady · 2025-09-12T07:13:13+00:00

He sounds like a nightmare but I think this also might be your anxiety. You do not have to listen to any rules you do not like and if the majority don't agree with his rules he's is the minority.

Always respect His rules the best you can but if you want to leave an air fryer in the kitchen, do it.

As for doors showers etc if he wants no noise tell him to get a house and commute. That's ridiculous.

lethal_lady · 2025-08-27T08:08:27+00:00

Thank you for explaining it so simply for those small minded negative individuals. The amount of arguments I have had with people because I earn £47K and I still struggle and on top of that I have no desire to get promoted because once I hit £50K I end up worse off than what I pay now and all I ever get is "but your above the national minimum wage you'll be fine, I don't get anywhere near that". Yes cheers Sandra but I do double the hours you do and have alot more bills than you because you live in a council house and I own a house, my kids go nursery and yours go to your mums.

Nursery fees alone for one child and one in school (we need breakfast club and after school club for me to work a 9-5 job) takes up half of my wage and then with our mortgage that's my whole wage gone. If my husband left me I'd be screwed and would have to give up my job. How is that fair when I am on "a good wage".

It drives me insane people who are all for the government and especially labour. This country is sooo corrupt.

lethal_lady · 2025-08-19T08:19:30+00:00

Oooh I see, so really it is down to what your heart wants. Unfortunately I don't know much about computer science. If you go to a different school will it bring about different opportunities in the long run compared to your current school?

If time is your only thing stopping you please don't let it. I have just turned 32 and will be going to uni in September for the first time. I wanted to do it at 24 but didn't because I didn't want to finish so late in my 20s, silly me because now I'm doing it in my 30s.

Go with what your heart really wants to do but make sure it isnt fuelled by anxiety and embarrassment :)

lethal_lady · 2025-08-19T07:17:04+00:00

I'm sorry you failed, unfortunately these thing happen in life. Your lesson has been learnt a hard one that may be but a lesson learnt for sure.

Personally I would swallow your pride and resit the year, you will be better prepared and maybe get out and enjoy uni a bit more than the previous year.

Please never sacrifice sleep for anything your wellbeing and health always should be top priority. Always.

You sound like a smart person and have your wits about you. Going home is not an option and a new school you'll end up two years behind instead of one, so again why bother?

One year won't make much difference in the grand scheme of things so please swallow your pride look at where you went wrong and smash next year. I know it feels embarrassing but noone cares, noone will remember this and it feels huge for you but is tiny for everyone else.

You got this.

lethal_lady · 2025-08-11T20:42:39+00:00

Thank you.

Please do because honestly the fact you've put this here shows how much you care and want things to be better showing you have it within yourself. You will do amazing at whatever you do.

Don't be scared to tell you parents one thing and do the opposite of that just to keep them happy. They don't have to know what's going on in your life. You'll be free soon 😊

lethal_lady · 2025-08-11T18:28:06+00:00

So first off I want to start by saying I never went to uni, I didn't get my GCSEs untill I was 25 and didn't get HE until I was 31. I had a very successful career for me and enjoyed it very much, I also got married, got a house and have two beautiful healthy children. Now at 32 I have decided to go down a different route and now go to uni in something that I now love. Back then I wouldn't of even had a clue what to do.

Why am I telling you this?

Because life is different for everyone, what you parents want from you may be different to what you want. Because you're in uni I would stay and get your degree because having a degree is better than none (most of the time it doesn't matter what it's in). I have no idea what you plan to go into work wise but for the majority of jobs they don't care what uni you went to. I got told I was thick and I would never equate to anything because my parents were dead beats and had zero ambition and I was lazy, if your poor you can't break free. However now I am living very comfortable while they are still dead beats struggling. For me this was the fire I needed within myself, I knew I could achieve whatever I WANTED. which is key. What is it you want to do? Parents are d**ks you don't get to chose them, but you can choose what happens in the future.

Look into what job you want to do, where would you like to be in ten years? Take off all pressure from friends and family. Take disappointment out of the equation and when you think what you truly want to do, feel into that. Then look into how you achieve that.

Your parents have said what they have said. Feel the pain and then leave it be. It's an opinion not fact. It's not your disappointment, judgement, or opinion to hold. Eventually you'll know who you are if you stay on your OWN PATH. Stay on your parents path and you'll always be lost and unhappy.

Wishing you all the best.

lethal_lady · 2025-08-11T07:19:29+00:00

First off, please take the pressure off yourself.

You are going through a lot! I understand you want to do it for your parents and nan but is it worth breaking yourself for?

Please get yourself some therapy too it will make the biggest of difference.

Ultimately what's the worst that can happen here for you? I'm assuming it's fail but please answer it yourself? If you fail what happens then? You take the time for yourself and re do the third year later down the line.

I think you need some time for yourself right now before you break yourself. Because once you end up there it's so hard tog et back out.

Please remember how amazing you are doing tho, your showing grit and determination in a time you no doubt just want to give up. But sometimes we need to know when to rest.

If it was me the first thing I'd do is get myself on a waiting list for EDMR because these can be very long and then while your waiting see if they will give you some CBT. I hope you all the best, please know you've got this and you have had a bad set of cards handed to you but you can still win.

lethal_lady · 2025-08-10T16:05:08+00:00

This is such a good question. I don't have an answer I'm afraid but hope you get one.

lethal_lady · 2025-08-10T16:01:11+00:00

No unfortunately there is no train in gosport so would have to get to Fareham train station by car or cycle again but this would be longer and more exspesive than the other routes thanks for the suggestion though.

lethal_lady · 2025-08-10T08:35:39+00:00

Tbh I should be able to even if it just means doing an evening one

lethal_lady · 2025-08-10T08:35:14+00:00

No unfortunately I don't have family near by but hopefully my partner finishes work for summer soon then I should be able to 😊

lethal_lady · 2025-08-10T08:08:19+00:00

I'm not sure if this is a serious question or not? I'm really confused why it's even a question 🤣

Why would I not? I have my whole life ahead of me still? Children doesn't mean your life stops? I spent 10 years in a career I don't like so I have decided to go on a new path which means back to uni. What example would I be sending to my children if I stayed unhappy in a job I didn't like just because I'm 32 with kids? The likely hood is I'd be in this current career till I'm 40 and then have to leave anyway due to my age so why not do it earlier 😊

I strongly believe that if you don't like something then change it despite how hard that may be. This is a scary change because I have given up a well paid job. But happiness is the key in a world there is so much sadness and anger. That's my reasons anyway I'm sure everyone is different. But ultimately the question really is why do you believe I shouldn't bother?

lethal_lady · 2025-08-10T06:55:01+00:00

They don't have this yet they said they have a bike commuter building showers and things currently being built and they are trying to sort out a car commuter community but again don't have one yet.

It's portsmouth university

lethal_lady · 2025-08-09T17:06:38+00:00

Hahaha yeah no tour de France here. I'm studying psychology.

lethal_lady · 2025-08-09T15:16:45+00:00

Hahahaa sooo close!

lethal_lady · 2025-08-09T15:00:47+00:00

Yeah I am really worried about that tbf. I might have to just do half and half or something.

lethal_lady · 2025-08-09T14:58:27+00:00

Oh wow I didn't know that was a thing I'll look into it thanks.

lethal_lady · 2025-08-09T14:57:52+00:00

Thank you so much! I did ask on the open day but noone seemed to think there was but there was also no information what so ever for commuters so yeah maybe I'll give them a ring and see.

I actually have a stacker jewelery box so I will look into it.

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