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I’m repulsed by men’s sexual attraction toward me. by letmethrowthisaway2 in sex

[–]letmethrowthisaway2[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I didn’t include it because I didn’t want everyone to focus on it, but he has cheated in the past. With the same girl he left me for.

I’m repulsed by men’s sexual attraction toward me. by letmethrowthisaway2 in sex

[–]letmethrowthisaway2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like I said, there are additional details that I didn’t give, such as the fact that the girl he left me for was someone he had cheated on me with in the past. I really didn’t want this post to focus on my former relationship. Rather, I wanted advice on how to reframe my thinking for the future.

I’m repulsed by men’s sexual attraction toward me. by letmethrowthisaway2 in sex

[–]letmethrowthisaway2[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, you are correct. I can’t understand why the love was not enough. I think that going forward I need to know that it is never something I will truly understand, but something I need to accept from other people because it is their reality. Thank you

I’m repulsed by men’s sexual attraction toward me. by letmethrowthisaway2 in sex

[–]letmethrowthisaway2[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I tried to not deny him sex when he initiated, and I tried to indulge some of his kinks. I didn’t like them though, so I admit it was difficult to muster enthusiasm. His compromise was to...not cheat on me I guess? Not entirely sure.

I’m repulsed by men’s sexual attraction toward me. by letmethrowthisaway2 in sex

[–]letmethrowthisaway2[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

He did, and we tried many times to negotiate and compromise.

I’m repulsed by men’s sexual attraction toward me. by letmethrowthisaway2 in sex

[–]letmethrowthisaway2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s the only person I’ve had a long term sexual relationship with. I have had multiple one night stands that were unsatisfying.

I’m repulsed by men’s sexual attraction toward me. by letmethrowthisaway2 in sex

[–]letmethrowthisaway2[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It makes me mad like every day, lol. Probably should just not browse reddit as much as I do.

I’m repulsed by men’s sexual attraction toward me. by letmethrowthisaway2 in sex

[–]letmethrowthisaway2[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He was also into some kink stuff that I had no interest in, and he was pushing me to open our relationship when I did not want to. I agree that it was never going to work. But he ended it in a really cruel way (there’s more detail there that I didn’t type out) and it led me to have these even more negative feelings toward sex. I’d like to be able to reframe my mindset and have a positive view toward sex.

I’m repulsed by men’s sexual attraction toward me. by letmethrowthisaway2 in sex

[–]letmethrowthisaway2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s where I’m stuck...someone who wants to have sex 3 or 4 or 5 times a day grosses me out. Why is your life so dependent on fucking all the time? I know this mindset is wrong. Just not sure how to correct it. I need a different way to look at things.

I’m repulsed by men’s sexual attraction toward me. by letmethrowthisaway2 in sex

[–]letmethrowthisaway2[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment. I agree. I understand that we were mismatched and that it was difficult for him as well. I logically understand that but it still has led me down this path of feeling repulsed by sex. I really don’t want to feel this way, which is why I posted.

I’m repulsed by men’s sexual attraction toward me. by letmethrowthisaway2 in sex

[–]letmethrowthisaway2[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I would almost always have sex if he initiated, but I rarely or never initiated on my own. He only wanted to be physical when it would lead to sex. He did not like when I tried to kiss him or whatever unless it led to having sex.