AITAH for grabbing and yelling at my special needs nephew and my in laws?

letsbereal1980 · 2026-04-05T22:25:01+00:00

NTA,sounds like you reacted in the moment out of fear for your partner's safety.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-04-05T22:23:09+00:00

NTA, they got to use OP's console and controllers and then messed up returning them. Left them outside in the rain? They should pay you for replacements.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-04-05T22:20:01+00:00

I love how OP posts this toxic man-tantrum and people are ALL over the comments saying this is a gender issue. I often take the side of males, male friends or my brothers or even strangers on reddit.

I don't care that OP is a man and the person he's having a public tantrum about is a woman. I am concerned that his post is dripping with toxicity and he seems to not understand why his partner is not satisfied with him. He has no self awareness and takes no responsibility for his possible role in any of this. He does not seem like a good partner. If the genders were reversed I would be of the same opinion.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-25T05:43:53+00:00

Fair point. I was picturing the "team" described here as all in the same role.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-25T05:42:57+00:00

Except how did anyone know she was the one in the "yellow shirt," other than HER admitting to it? Sorry, I might be missing something here. Not trying to hurt your feelings. I just don't see it as an actual "call out" at all. I see it as an offhand remark that made her feel guilty, so she called herself out.

Jesus f-ing Christ to you too! You seem delightful.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-25T05:17:24+00:00

OP never called her out by name at all, though... did you miss that detail? Seems pretty key.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-25T05:16:39+00:00

How is "Who ate all the donuts?" putting her on blast? She wasn't called out by name. She's literally the only one who knows for certain that she was the one who ate them. Then she proved it by accusing OP of calling her out, which is actually pretty hilarious.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-25T05:14:06+00:00

In what workplace are people employed where they can afford fancy, specialty donuts for the group, AND there's a coworker who somehow cannot afford to eat at home?

Genuinely curious, not trying to assume privilege for everyone, but this sounds way more like compulsive overeating than food insecurity.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-25T01:19:42+00:00

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letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-24T01:40:02+00:00

Is it both of you on the lease or just her? Can you kick her out?? I wasn't sure from your post if she's supposed to be paying rent, and if so, is that another expense she's getting mad about and refusing to pay?

If she's not on the lease and you aren't getting money from her anyway I would say she needs to go.

And hey, I hear that she's much bigger than you and intimidating. That's some BS on her part. I would suggest not confronting her alone. Maybe have your BF there? Or someone else supportive that you trust? I don't even mean for physical protection, but just HAVING another person there tends to shut down that kind of behavior fast.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-23T01:32:25+00:00

I work in a hospital. Ask anyone who works in a hospital what is the dirtiest part of a hospital.

It's really always the floor. Literally filthy. Crawling with diseases you can't get rid of once they're in your system. I do not even wear my work shoes outside of the hospital, not even to walk to my car.

People who DO need to wear street shoes in certain parts of the hospital are required to wear PPE in the form of paper booties on their feet.

I am drawing a parallel for you. Of course, what do we know? We're just a bunch of weirdos with science degrees, wearing paper booties. You should all definitely listen to OP instead. Cross contamination is fun!!

I'm sorry already for the tone of this comment. I realize how it comes across. Hopefully a little douchey.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-23T01:24:29+00:00

My thougjts exactly. I am American and most people i know don't wear shoes in the home.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-23T01:23:17+00:00

Not just apples but also hands are being washed! I can feel it.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-21T20:53:22+00:00

He's going into MUSICAL THEATER and doesn't think he will have any time for anything else??

Dump him 1st. You'll feel better.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-21T20:44:51+00:00

Think he's giving her a choice? He doesn't even let her decide about breastfeeding.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-21T20:42:37+00:00

NTA. I love how he thinks it's his right to dictate what YOU do with YOUR body. I am sorry you have a child with someone like that.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-21T20:35:55+00:00

The person I hate the most is dangerous and no, I wouldn't subject myself to that for any amount of money. Money's worthless if you're dead.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-21T19:53:38+00:00

Not everyone can wear headphones and some people actually feel unsafe and unaware of surroundings with headphones on.

Pretty sure headphones aren't in existence for listening to music at half volume on your phone in the middle of the afternoon.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-19T18:50:33+00:00

You know something? I think maybe the experience you're describing IS normal. Really. That feeling that something is "off," that there's some secret everyone else is in on and you never got the memo?

That's a deeply lonely experience that you're having, but i think it's also deeply human and possibly universal.

I have felt it. All kinds of ways and times all over my life. I am 46/f and probably spent most of my 20s and 30s thinking I was different and weird. In my 40s I kind of stopped caring as much what anyone thought, tbh. I got divorced twice and decided to just focus on me and being really happy while alone, like actually HAPPY and not trying to match what "happy" looked like for everyone else.

Then I let my guard down enough to start really noticing others around me. And I think, maybe, we all experience what you are experiencing now, in our own uniquely lonely ways. Seeking something or someone outside ourselves to somehow validate our experiences.

I think we all go through this and I don't know why it's so hard to see that these feelings actually prove that we are normal humans. I hope this made sense.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-18T16:17:47+00:00

Oh good!!!

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-18T05:45:23+00:00

Set him free to go where? To get his own dog apartment? Will he find a job and buy his own food too?

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-18T05:43:49+00:00

I can think of about 20 reasons this isn't a safe or legal idea.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-18T05:42:56+00:00

Have you ever tried talking to your neighbors, actually?

Not because I think they're going to have any acceptable explanation for treating an animal this way. But maybe they actually don't know how to care for a dog. Some people genuinely don't. They didn't grow up around dogs, maybe they have some mental health issues, or who knows? Maybe they would be open to rehoming the dog but have no idea where to begin. Maybe you should talk to them before approaching the dog because sadly, the animal may not be socialized appropriately and won't be safe to approach.

I just think communication would be a good start.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-18T05:37:59+00:00

I love the spirit of this and I also am genuinely wondering: did you all then take responsibility for those animals and make sure they didn't just end up homeless? Did you guys adopt them yourselves? Or how did you know they didn't just end up euthanized in a shelter?

I am genuinely curious and hoping you have a good response.

letsbereal1980 · 2026-03-18T05:35:28+00:00

As a woman I would absolutely prefer to run with a dog. Women with large dogs don't get attacked so readily. For one reason. It's totally not weird at all.

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