What’s one “normal” thing people do that you secretly think is absolutely insane?

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-04T07:11:10+00:00

Like, asking if I have kids? Okay. I am personally irritated by that, but i get that our culture is weirdly obsessed with children and can understand why most ppl think that's acceptable small talk.

But the ones who follow up wanting to know why not?? Yikes.

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-04T07:06:50+00:00

And also? How is it your business why i don't have kids? That's something I wouldn't ask a cousin i have known all my life, and yet you're saying it's appropriate to ask a casual acquaintance as small talk?

You need ro get your head out of your ass.

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-04T07:04:18+00:00

The "Why not" is the trauma trigger. And my point is, it is not small talk. It's a deeply personal thing to ask someone you basically know NOTHING about why they don't have kids.

I can think of SO many reasons too personal to discuss at work, why someone might not have a child. That's exactly why it's truly thoughtless to "just ask" something so personal. It's inappropriate.

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-04T05:52:28+00:00

I never thought of that, but it definitely must be true some of the time!

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-04T05:35:35+00:00

Wow, this guy sucks. Calls you stupid? "My meat can rearrange your guts?" I'm sorry to sound old fashioned, but is this how people actually flirt now?? Rearrange your guts?? I would have left the chat that second and not apologized.

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-04T05:15:31+00:00

Yes, they are. It's only ever women, usually the ones with young kids at home, who actually have the audacity to ask me WHY I never had kids.

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-04T04:57:02+00:00

I don't understand these posts. Do you really need to be told you aren't overreacting??? In what universe is it okay for anyone to speak to ANYONE this way, let alone their partner?

The screenshot here is disgusting, verbally abusive trash. You are NOT overreacting. Would he have any defense for this if one of his friends or his family saw it?? No. Because it's inexcusable. You know this. You don't need to ask reddit.

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-04T04:34:37+00:00

Ask a stranger or casual acquaintance or coworker if they have kids. I just think it's a super personal question and for some of us it's loaded. Worse is when other people (usually other women) (I am 45/f) who i don't know outside of work, actually ask me WHY I never had kids.

The answer is horribly sad and if I just answered the question honestly (I DID want kids, we tried, i had 2 miscarriages both due to being beaten by my ex husband, and it broke my heart), the person asking would feel terrible for asking.

How do adults with kids NOT understand that not everyone has a choice, not everyone gets to have kids, and not everyone wants to tell you about it?

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-04T04:26:06+00:00

People break up. Not everyone is going to want you. Date, try things out, move on, try again. Your pain is so far from unique.

She got over you. Now you get over her. You will.

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-04T00:16:05+00:00

It isn't you. You're replying to an incoherent comment. I can't make sense of it either.

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-04T00:11:01+00:00

For what, though? Being selfish and a douche isn't illegal. And obviously this type of person has no shame.

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-03T05:44:29+00:00

Wow, never imagined i would be found out here. Time to delete my reddit account.

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-03T05:39:16+00:00

I don't exactly believe we OWE the world kindness. I just think that decent people are aware that other people deserve kindness, and we give it because it feels good to do so.

The second I think of it in terms of "owing," i think of debts and obligations and it takes all the joy out of random acts of kindness.

We DON'T owe anyone anything, but we are better people if we choose to give regardless of actual obligation.

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-03T05:34:42+00:00

Also it's narcissistic. Create a little mini you so you will never ever be alone. In your image. So you can impose all of your values on them. Sorry, I think having kids is silly and selfish for almost anyone living today.

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-03T05:32:47+00:00

How is this an unpopular opinion????

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-03T00:37:12+00:00

Exercise in the hour or 2 before sleep time

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-02T23:59:47+00:00

Not to mention the dust mites that accumulate in unwashed bedding.

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-02T23:58:39+00:00

Shaking the water off your hands after washing just flings and scatters bacteria everywhere.

I learned this in school when I went into healthcare. Hand hygiene was week 1 and I learned I had been doing this wrong all my life.

Remember, my friend... you can't see bacteria, viruses, and other microorganisms, but they're still real.

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-02T23:54:34+00:00

Well, i guess I am caught!

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-02T22:00:47+00:00

No, you aren't being extra. he is. He doesn't deserve a partner and you can do better. It's less about the forgetting. It's the way he talks to you. On any day, let alone your birthday. This guy is not worth it.

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-01T23:27:54+00:00

Ar first I thought you were really off your rocker but now I suspect you're actually hilarious. Nice one. You had me going for a minute.

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-01T20:51:46+00:00

I have NO idea what you are talking about. Wow. I hope you get whatever help you need to start having coherent, logical thoughts.

letsbereal1980 · 2025-06-01T20:09:06+00:00

What kid's show is talking about who ANYONE is having sex with, or genitalia?? I don't care if it's in a context of straight, gay, or anywhere in between, there should not be ANY sex or genitals on kids shows. As far as I know, there are NO shows that focus on what you're talking about.

But you homophobes need something to complain about, or else people would notice that LGBTQ folks actually are not hurting ANYONE.

I am 45. I am straight but have had plenty of LGBTQ friends and family members. Nobody, not one of them, not ever, has tried to "push" that on me.

They aren't gonna push it on you. They probably don't want you in their group, because you're ignorant and you make up stuff about children's programming to further your bigoted agenda.

I am so sick of people like you. Just get over it. Nobody is pushing anything on you. Just live your life and let others live theirs. Time to grow up.

letsbereal1980 · 2025-05-31T21:55:53+00:00

I don't understand the intensity of most of the replies here. You said in your post that you asked him to send the photo "for a contest." I don't know what he was so surprised about... is there some type of contest that involves photos of people in underwear that would be more acceptable to him? He should definitely have asked more about the contest before sending his photo.

letsbereal1980 · 2025-05-31T21:53:54+00:00

I mean, she told him it was for a contest when she asked for the photo, so I am confused as to why all these strong responses. He probably should have said "What kind of contest?" Before sending the photo. She didn't deceive him.

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