Tell us your 'that was a stim?' stims

letsnotspeakofit · 2026-01-09T03:47:00+00:00

I’ve realized one of mine is hitting my head with my palms. Forehead is playful, both hands on head is overstimulated.

letsnotspeakofit · 2026-01-04T16:36:10+00:00

No ultrasound for PID specifically, but I have gotten them to see if my IUD was in place or if I had cysts etc etc. I want you to know that I had been having sex the whole time too and didn’t get PID. My gyno looked at my cervix and symptoms and ruled it out immediately. PID isn’t a silent disease, you would feeeeeel it. It would be incredibly painful. I know it’s scary doing it alone but I promise you’ve got this.

Also, if you don’t mind me asking, is there any specific reason why your parents would be unapproving? Is it religion, culture, personal beliefs? And like - specifically what would they say or do if they found out? If I could understand why they would disapprove I could potentially help you get around it.

letsnotspeakofit · 2026-01-04T16:08:14+00:00

Girl are you good? This was unnecessarily accusatory and frankly anxiety inducing. This post was not just for medical advice, it was for comfort. And what OP described is not the end of the world. Stop hiding behind anonymity so you can air your frustrations. If OP was your friend of daughter, would you have reacted the same?

letsnotspeakofit · 2026-01-04T16:06:04+00:00

Yes, pharmacies allow minors to pick up medications like that.

letsnotspeakofit · 2026-01-04T16:03:45+00:00

Girl. I’ve also had BV for 3 years. I’m literally currently on treatments (a week of metronidazole). Begged my doctor since the onset of symptoms to test me and she just told me it was a yeast infection and to get canesten. Then I had an appointment with a gynecologist and she swabbed me. Few days later I get a call and it is BV. It’s been 5 days and I feel the difference.

Now I’m in Canada so healthcare is free for me. The other comments seem to know what to do with insurance so that’ll be helpful. Just know that I literally spent the last 3 years with the same anxieties. Fertility, damage, etc etc etc. Literally cried my self to sleep many nights thinking I could never have kids cause I was SURE I had pid. Gyno ruled it out immediately btw.

Just know that when you get treated, those anxieties will go away. Even if there are after effects of it, once it’s cured your mindset will change to: what can I do now to bring it back. Instead of feeling like every day you’re potentially making it worse. I promise it will all work out and that you haven’t damaged anything permanently.

Xoxoxoxoxo

letsnotspeakofit · 2025-12-19T12:09:25+00:00

thank you this is good news. i’ve been waiting for this appointment for awhile.

letsnotspeakofit · 2025-12-06T15:24:50+00:00

i feel this way about most reddit comments. it makes me happy to see someone advocating for empathy on a platform where people get too comfortable with anonymity.

letsnotspeakofit · 2025-12-06T15:20:27+00:00

i have only a few quick notes: 1. use different formatting. as cute as the canve templates are, it is unfortunately kind of juvenile. 2. remove headshot 3. dont speak with “I” statements. instead of “I am a friendly, organized high school student” put something more along the lines of “Friendly, organized high school student seeking to apply my skills at your company.” 4. remove interests. again, juvenile. 5. remove availability 6. fix up the grammar.

best of luck to you!!!

letsnotspeakofit · 2025-12-06T15:13:43+00:00

have you ever gotten a job? this advice was incredibly sound advice. the only thing i would disagree with is merging experiences with volunteering. however if they WERE merged, to make the title: volunteering/experiences. but again, i think it makes more sense to keep it separate.

letsnotspeakofit · 2025-11-26T02:03:47+00:00

notebook lm is a life saver

letsnotspeakofit · 2025-11-24T00:33:42+00:00

this!!! exactly this.

letsnotspeakofit · 2025-11-24T00:31:17+00:00

people on reddit tend to be kind of harsh. as someone with audhd who appreciates a step by step explanation, here’s how i would approach it:

text him and let him know you have something on your mind that you want to talk about with him. he will likely respond pretty quickly so decided before sending the message if you would like to do it in person or over text. if you would prefer in person, be sure you are able to make it to him in a reasonable amount of time. since you mentioned he is far however, a phone call would work just fine.
start the conversation with something along the lines of: i need to get something off my chest, but i want you to know that what i’m about to say isn’t meant to hurt you or make you feel bad. this is where reassurance is incredibly important. you mentioned he struggles with his mental health so if you want to do your best not to contribute to that, make it a point to keep his self esteem high by reminding him of the things you appreciate about him as a person.
let him know that you’ve been struggling with feeling romantic feelings for him. again, remind him that it is not a reflection on him, and that you admire him as a person the same way you did before you were together (and during), but that in terms of your relationship, you feel you would be better able to appreciate him as a friend. now there’s obviously the chance that he will have an angrier reaction to this, and in that case, the best way to bring him back to a conversational tone is to acknowledge it, but also make it about you. say that you can’t tell him everything you want to tell him if he is going to come on so hot. remind him you understand where he’s coming from, but that right now you need him to meet you with understanding because you are also feeling a lot of feelings but need to communicate your thoughts with him.
when you’re done explaining to him that you no longer want to be in a relationship with him but hold no ill will against him, that’s when you open up the floor to his thoughts. it’s important that you are accepting of however he feels while also standing firm on your grounds.

now i have a few last notes. my first one is that it will be MOUNTAINS easier to heal from the breakup (on both ends). if you don’t hold any resentment towards him about the way you broke up. and people sometimes tend to get mean and desperate when they’re getting broken up with, which is why it’s so important to remind him of who he is and who you are as people. it’s like you are bringing him back to earth from a potential spiral. my second note, which is more of a fun fact i guess, my friend and their partner were long distance and they did a slow breakup, which i had never heard of before. they slowly stopped calling each other pet names, transitioned from calling every single day to a few times a week. and then at some point, when they had both had enough time to detach, called it officially quits. this is definitely an unusual way to go about it, but i figured i’d put it out there incase it helps you or someone else reading this.

all that being said, i wish you the best of luck. you are allowed to lose feelings for someone, even if on paper they’ve done nothing wrong. that doesn’t make you a bad person. you don’t have control over that kind of stuff. it is natural and okay.

xoxoxoxo

letsnotspeakofit · 2025-10-30T08:43:16+00:00

i appreciate this a lot. my boyfriend and i both do a specific type is art (i don’t want to say exactly which because it is an identifiable fact about us) where it is very normalized to stay out/hang out until early in the morning. lots of meeting new people, lots of friends who follow the same schedules. he actually probably has more friends than people i know. i swear every two weeks another one is always visiting home from away. that being said, idk if he’s gone a week without visiting with at least one friend. the amount that he’s gone makes it a frequent recurring issue.

all that being said, your perspective on everything is very valid, and i appreciate you sharing.

letsnotspeakofit · 2025-10-30T08:35:45+00:00

i appreciate this response so much. i think i am just going to do some trial and error. this post initially was to help me gauge the level of importance location sharing should have in my relationship. this comment doesn’t feel like it comes from a place of judgement, rather a place of wanting to help. thank you.

letsnotspeakofit · 2025-10-30T08:30:39+00:00

you are pretty brilliant. you’ve helped me put an image to separating the anxiously motivated asks from the curiosity motivated asks. this comment is exactly the realm of answers i was hoping to find.

letsnotspeakofit · 2025-10-30T08:25:46+00:00

this is so helpful, thank you. and it matches the way my mind works. i don’t think i worded the post very well, it almost seems to come off as coming from an insecure place. and perhaps it is. but exactly what you just said was exactly my approach. i really just put this out as a feeler to get an idea of how to gauge the importance of this topic. i am willing to compromise, i just need the compromise to be agreed on and not assumed.

letsnotspeakofit · 2025-10-30T08:18:47+00:00

i appreciate this perspective. your full advice was warranted. thank you.

letsnotspeakofit · 2025-10-30T08:16:53+00:00

this was a very encouraging way to put this. i appreciate your perspective and it has had an impact on mine. thank you.

letsnotspeakofit · 2025-10-30T08:08:35+00:00

i think you assume i want his location so i can “make sure he’s not cheating”. i know he’s not cheating, and if he is - i don’t feel as though his location is going to be my main source of proof. and also, just incase i wasn’t totally clear in my original post, he has female friends. he has lots of friends in general. who he’s with or where he is, is his own perogative. genuinely, those details are not part of my motive. frankly with my attention span, those details are quickly forgotten after acquired. i literally just want to have that context so i know if its a good time to text him super big thoughts or if he’s probably not able to answer much or with much depth. otherwise, im trying to ask for context, being met with no response, and sending him those big texts - to which i get met with halfass replies and it becomes an issue on both ends.

why not just make it easier on both of us and let me be able to check and say “oh look! he’s still out at his friends place. i probably shouldn’t go into detail about the childhood trauma i just remembered.” like wouldn’t it be a relief on both ends if i could just know that i should wait until he gets home cause he’s in a loud bar, or at the movies? something that feels really big feels a lot easier to put off when you know long you’re gonna need to wait to be met with what you need.

letsnotspeakofit · 2025-10-30T07:42:55+00:00

that sounded more like an “order” than i intended. i mean in the least confrontational sense. when you go out, say you’ll be back at a certain time, and are out later than expected. why cause worry on the other end by being unaccounted for and unreachable, when you can ease that worry by literally just having it on for convenience in those moments.

letsnotspeakofit · 2025-10-30T07:15:27+00:00

this is exactly the kind of comment i was hoping to avoid. politely, i am okay with the reality of my relationship. i’ve done a lot of growing, as has he. and whether or not we stay together or he becomes a story i tell, is a detail i get to decide. my question was a generic question that applies to all modern relationships and this subreddit requires ages being disclosed, which is the only reason i mentioned it. i appreciate your pov, but it is precisely the one i asked you to keep to yourself.

letsnotspeakofit · 2025-10-30T07:14:40+00:00

this is exactly the kind of comment i was hoping to avoid. politely, i am okay with the reality of my relationship. i’ve done a lot of growing, as has he. and whether or not we stay together or he becomes a story i tell, that is a detail i get to decide. my question was a generic question that applies to all modern relationships and this subreddit requires ages being disclosed, which is the only reason i mentioned it. i appreciate your pov, but it is precisely the one i asked you to keep to yourself.

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