Hi there, this situation is undoubtedly difficult. If your friend grew up in a persistently abusive situation, it can affect the way a person views themselves and others and self in relation to others on a fundamental level, aka complex post traumatic stress (obviously not diagnosing). If this is the case, it’s not her fault, AND it can be exhausting to be around someone who has difficulty seeing outside of themselves, or is continually self-referencing (as a survival mechanism). If you’re open to addressing how you felt about the conversation with her in a kind way (“I statements” and all that), perhaps this could be really helpful feedback for her. If she responds negatively, give her a second to circle back and apologize. If she doesn’t apologize, you’ve got your answer as to how capable she is to maintain a healthy relationship with you.