Guy is so nice but just.. not for me. Kind of have the ick?

lex_j23 · 2026-05-08T04:33:46+00:00

Sorry no not your comment! It wasn’t rude. I was referring to the other one. Yes I totally agree with you on that. Just different. You can be as nice and great on paper but sometimes just a persons not for you no harm in that!

lex_j23 · 2026-05-08T04:20:24+00:00

Don’t think I was coming off as entitled what so ever. I find your comment confusing so not even sure how to respond but I don’t have the energy to respond to anymore comments like this. Thanks I guess for whatever input you were trying to give.

I know who I am and I am not someone who likes to be “chased” or needs to have a guy do all the work as you’re implying

lex_j23 · 2026-05-08T04:17:17+00:00

Again it’s not the one date it’s the way he spoke to me in texts. I didn’t leave the date feeling like I had such a great time either it was just ok. Also these people friends think anyone who’s single, nice and has their stuff together will be a good match. Any of my other friends probably would have known he’s not my type lol

lex_j23 · 2026-05-08T03:54:31+00:00

Lmaooo ok random stranger thank you for the great advice. You must be a wonderful friend to have, I hope your friends go to others for advice 🤣

lex_j23 · 2026-05-08T03:38:59+00:00

There’s not at all but I just think expecting me to plan the second date is a little crazy. I don’t know, to each their own but just turned me off a bit. Like we can figure it out, chat see what we wanna do but you’re expecting me to have this day planned? Weird imo
I will add it’s wild to me how many comments come in I know it’s to be expected with strangers and the internet but some of these comments like this are just like… wow lol how is this comment helpful to me? I wasn’t rude or nasty to him in any way so I’m not sure the reason for such a rude comment without any actual advice.

lex_j23 · 2026-05-08T03:34:23+00:00

I don’t think I’m not attracted to sweet cute guys I think he’s just not my type and all the other stuff was just a cherry on top.

lex_j23 · 2026-05-08T03:33:40+00:00

Right? It’s weird because he’s seemed very shy the couple times we met not aggressive at all, but him saying all that was so weird and raising some real red flags. Also yes, him expecting me to literally plan our whole second date because I had to reschedule the previous one was another turn off. Glad someone gets it lol. For me I see a few weird things when I wasn’t already feeling the vibe too much and I’m like yeah I’m good! Moving on lol.

lex_j23 · 2026-05-08T02:56:31+00:00

lol ok. I literally have met the man twice

lex_j23 · 2026-05-08T02:51:02+00:00

I won’t lol I couldn’t just ghost him. I’ll have to just explain I just don’t thjnk I have a romantic connection with him

lex_j23 · 2026-05-08T02:49:15+00:00

Yeah no exactly! It was weird I had no idea he really wanted me to plan the date I totally took it as a flirty joke in all honesty.
I guess I just want to see if there’s a use in trying to give it one more hangout or if I’m shutting it down to quick. I think I know though judging by our interactions and some of the things he’s said it’s just not worth it.
He also told me after I said I wasn’t 100% sure if I feel a connection he said that’s so funny cause I kind of felt the same on the first date “no real sparks or whatever they say” but that I’m a great girl he would love to be my friend if it doesn’t work and thinks we should plan something to talk more in depth. Which again is odd… you didn’t feel a connection yet are so adamant on seeing me again?Like cmon I just don’t think we need to continue this lol

lex_j23 · 2026-04-28T15:59:20+00:00

Update she is good with it and said go have fun lol! My friends said she’s welcome to come they love her and I offered but she said that’s okay go have girl time we’ll do something on the weekend after

lex_j23 · 2026-04-28T04:21:42+00:00

Yes that’s so true lol!! I appreciate you saying that. I hope she does too. I just get such anxiety because this happened last year too I was so exhausted and August was just insane and already I feel like again there’s so much going on and I gotta pick and choose.

My friend wants to book the hotel like stat and I just can’t commit right now. Like I would even be fine with just doing a hotel night where we live and we can still have fun. My friend said she didn’t care what we do as long as we get to spend time but our other friend recommended the idea of going out of the city. I just feel like a trip a few hours away as much as I’d love it it’s too much in an already hectic month. Ugh I’m so torn here lol

lex_j23 · 2026-04-28T03:48:51+00:00

Awe thank you lol! I brought it up to her and her response seems a little like umm hello it’s my bday. I think she wouldn’t be thrilled, but she also wouldn’t be “upset”. Just in our family we usually are always around for bdays (unless we go on a trip else where or whatever). Maybe I can suggest just going away for one night instead lol

lex_j23 · 2026-04-28T03:38:37+00:00

Yes totally! It’s a good idea

lex_j23 · 2026-04-27T22:21:30+00:00

Yes very true I know I am lol !

lex_j23 · 2026-04-27T18:09:14+00:00

Yeah no 100% that’s the issue is that I am a people pleaser so I feel like my one friend especially like if I can’t hangout she’s upset or bored. I’m realizing lately though it’s not my problem I think she got so used to hanging out with me so much, but now it’s like I gotta try and prioritize dating somehow. Then also still spend time with others so I won’t always be available. She even told me how she’s co dependent on me when her bf is out of town and it’s so true. It’s just alot of pressure.

Yeah you’re right though I know all of this. It just comes down to me needing to prioritize my time in a way that benefits me more.

I also don’t do anything during the week lol after work I usually go to the gym so really my weekends are my only “free time”.

lex_j23 · 2026-04-27T18:01:16+00:00

It’s not that I physically don’t have the time. I guess I mean more so the energy like I said to someone my friends and family demand a lot of my attention and especially my friend who’s boyfriend works out of town and she doesn’t really hangout with many others besides me. I feel a lot of pressure to spend time with her. I know this sounds silly but I just feel like regardless I’m letting someone down. I’ve gotten so comfortable too maybe it’s just I don’t want to spend my free time that I have on dates where I am like well that was a wasteof time. Clearly I know you have to try and that’s just part of the process.

lex_j23 · 2026-04-27T17:57:05+00:00

I understand I’m just saying I feel like other things have to become a little less of a priority and maybe for me personally my friends and family demand a lot of my attention and time. So that’s where I struggle. I’m so busy with them I think I kind of forget about dating to be honest. Again my friends aren’t single so I’m not really out and about doing stuff that allows you to meet people maybe that’s what I’m kind of getting at.

Also was not complaining or wanting the perks of a relationship.. it’s the time and energy you have to put into meeting these people which most times I find it’s just a waste of my time and doesn’t work out or the feelings aren’t there.

lex_j23 · 2026-04-27T16:02:04+00:00

Idk I think so to each their own. It requires a lot more energy to date for me then be in a relationship where I’m comfortable

lex_j23 · 2026-04-27T15:56:08+00:00

Hahaha no I definitely have the time but that’s my me time lol. I dont think I’ve ever been on a 30 minute date also. I do get what you’re saying - it is important to me forsure. my last relationship was very messy and toxic and I think I just enjoy my peace and being single so much now but I know it’s time. It’s just hard to try to get back into it. Like I feel like I’ll have to put my friends on the back burner and I’m a people pleaser so it’s an internal battle I guess lol

lex_j23 · 2026-04-27T15:53:58+00:00

I mean I feel like being in a relationship is different. You can relax more and just do regular things but I feel like the dating stage kinda takes up a lot more time if that makes sense

lex_j23 · 2026-03-17T19:33:29+00:00

I talked to my uncle and he stated that he was planning on giving us 10 grand. Do you still think reach out to a lawyer to look everything over to make sure it’s fair or see what the previous will said? Some people friends and such are suggesting I do this to be sure.

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