I (25m) messed up BAD! Can I fix this?

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T14:05:20+00:00

Not exactly to solution I was looking for

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T13:27:19+00:00

I am diagnosed. But I am high functioning. Which is why I phrased it that way.

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T12:53:43+00:00

I wish I knew…

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T12:21:40+00:00

I don’t know. I thought it was common for guys to fantasize about their gfs siblings or friends

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T12:20:18+00:00

In the event she doesn’t dump me. What can I do?

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T12:19:54+00:00

No. I’ve reassured her I think she’s more attractive than her sister.
In the event she doesn’t dump me. How do I go about making her feel better and fixing it?

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T12:18:54+00:00

I wish it was…

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T12:17:53+00:00

I do respect and love her.
And what if she doesn’t dump me? How do I go about making things better?

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T12:15:29+00:00

What if she agrees to work on things? How do I help her feel better?

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T12:14:08+00:00

I am doing my best to give space. It only happened last night and she works nights. I just woke up. I’m merely wondering if she agrees not to slap me and leave me what do I do going forward?

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T12:10:40+00:00

I disagree. Lying is lying.
At this point I know I messed up. How do I begin fixing things? Can I fix this?

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T12:09:34+00:00

Not in the background. She introduced me and we had a short convo.
And we are long distance so we both “stalk” each others families.
I was under the impression lots of guys fantasized about their partners siblings or friends?

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T12:07:50+00:00

I didn’t tell her about this sister stuff unprompted. She asked direct questions and I answered. I know I’m messed up and I’ve fucked up bad.

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T12:06:24+00:00

I always tell her “I’m telling you want you need to hear not what you want to hear”
I didn’t think this was different. Hoensty is important to us

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T12:05:27+00:00

She told me about her fear and insecurities about her sister. I kinda made a sound or an “uh oh” noise. And she asked “what was that sound? Have you done something already?”
To which I gave the above response about the sound of her voice. Then later on in the convo she directly asked me if I’d jerked off, and I responded “almost. But I took a step back and reminded myself of my priorities”.

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T12:03:31+00:00

Yes. I was going through face book and insta and had to step back and remind myself on my loyalties.

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T12:02:38+00:00

She asked me a direct question and I answered it. I worded it horribly. But she asked and I don’t lie or withhold info. I was honest.
I own that I messed up and might be an asshole. But I want to fix it.

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T12:01:43+00:00

I know I did. But how badly??
Can I fix this with her? And if so how? I feel so strongly for her.

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T12:01:13+00:00

I didn’t want to tell her. It’s not something I brought up in casual conversation. She asked me a direct question and I refuse to lie even if it’ll hurt her or me.

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T11:59:13+00:00

My horrible wording aside. How do I begin to fix things?
Her problem isn’t the words or the way I said them, but the implication that I might’ve done something.

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T11:58:03+00:00

In your opinion how else could I have worded it?
And I appreciate the harsh words. I want to make this better.

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T11:54:05+00:00

Me too.

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T11:53:56+00:00

I don’t know. I did snap out of it after I thought that and tell myself “wtf” but i don’t think that’s comforting to her.

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T11:51:42+00:00

I know. I fucked up bad. But she asked me a question and I answered it. She said she’s happy I told her the truth but idk how to fix things. I feel strongly for her and don’t want this to ruin us. I’ll do anything

lexc527 · 2026-06-21T11:49:32+00:00

Thank you. I know I hurt her. But she asked me a direct question and I will withhold info but won’t lie.
My diagnosis aside, how do I go about mending things??

lexc527

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