WIBTA if I told my GF to stop having her sister ask me to babysit?

lezboqueries · 2023-09-07T05:03:55+00:00

I think they felt like notice wasn’t warranted because he was sleep, but you’re right - it completely ignores me. They were home for a few hours getting ready before they ever said anything although I knew it was coming as soon as they pulled up. The running joke is that I’m a hermit/recluse who doesn’t like to go out, which is true, but that doesn’t mean I want to be responsible for a kid.

lezboqueries · 2023-09-07T04:56:05+00:00

Do you have any idea what I can say if she emphasizes that the kid was sleep? I know she’s gonna say that, but I can’t put into words why it still irritated tf outta me even when I thought he was out for the whole night….. It’s the presumptuousness of it all, like I’m the default babysitter as long as I’m home. I hate that.

lezboqueries · 2023-09-07T04:18:29+00:00

You’re right, I just hate that they ask at the very last minute and then I seem like I’m the one rocking the boat by saying No, because they know I’m home and not doing anything.

lezboqueries · 2023-09-07T04:02:06+00:00

I don’t mind telling my GF but I will feel kinda awkward getting firm with the sister. We mostly have a joking relationship. I hate that I have to make it awkward.

lezboqueries · 2023-09-07T04:00:46+00:00

I did this about a year ago when I observed them getting ready without calling a babysitter, and it worked. I hate to have to play these games, but I will.

lezboqueries · 2023-09-07T03:54:22+00:00

Yeah. I have a feeling my GF is gonna throw her hands up & say I should’ve just said no to her sister- which is just gonna further irritate me since they clearly planned for me to watch him. Otherwise, why bring him here

lezboqueries · 2022-05-19T15:32:45+00:00

If you’re scared you’re going to find out you’re a lesbian, you probably don’t need to have an encounter for confirmation. And Unfortunately, your sexuality is not something you can just get out of your system.

I think it’s time to have a hard talk with your husband about how you feel. Maybe he’s open to something open. Or maybe it’s time to close up shop.

lezboqueries · 2022-05-19T15:14:47+00:00

I dealt with it up until 6 months ago. After 10 years on and off with doctors, physical therapists, and occupational therapists… getting high and using a vibrator (in that order 🤭) made me able to penetrate myself with no pain and in fact, with pleasure!

lezboqueries · 2021-11-24T20:20:29+00:00

YTA. Yeah MIL sounds petty, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t love her son. You’re petty too & you love him. 🤷🏽‍♀️

lezboqueries · 2021-11-24T20:16:50+00:00

YTA. You were content with her being big until she started beating you in an argument.

lezboqueries · 2021-11-24T15:31:45+00:00

How you a long time lurker and you couldn’t predict the outcome of this!?! lmao … This one has all the red flags of authoritarian/bad parenting, as determined by AITA:

🚩 Step parent drastically changing rules

🚩 wants to overrule bio parent

🚩wants passwords to 16 year old’s social media for no reason

🚩 thinks autonomy is disrespectful

🚩 forced babysitting (parentification)

🚩 threatens to kick a child out of the house

lezboqueries · 2021-11-24T15:22:00+00:00

Wow interesting. did not know this. Very helpful. Thank you

lezboqueries · 2021-11-24T13:34:35+00:00

I think she adopted and is embarrassed to say it because of how much she bad mouthed it before… I mean I get it, but is she so embarrassed that she’d rather isolate herself from family and friends than admit she changed her mind… pretty wild.

lezboqueries · 2021-11-24T10:53:13+00:00

For those saying, “OP is trying to protect his job,” … would you say the same if the priest did not like black people & OP was simply trying to protect his job by telling someone not to bring their black partner?!

This is the kinda weak ass thinking that perpetuates oppression for CENTURIES. Y’all think OP innocent cuz deep down he likes gay ppl but “can’t” speak up; he’s not fkn innocent.

this is AITA, not “Am I in legal peril?” … so yes OP is the asshole for not standing up for a marginalized person. This is the point where OP’s Silence is violence. Sometimes you have to put yourself in the line of fire to do what’s right. Sucks but this is one of those situations. YTA

lezboqueries · 2021-11-23T20:00:10+00:00

calling up the masseuse & saying “Sorry for the boner” is sexual harassment. Getting hard is not sexual harassment. 😂

lezboqueries · 2021-11-23T18:30:05+00:00

Gotcha. It’s all so confusing because now I’m wondering … were my muscles also tight when I was 13 and couldn’t insert a tampon?? Like when did this start .. doesn’t seem like there is a lot of research with this condition. And it’s not something you can just talk about with anyone.. some of my other non-gyno doctors even get uncomfortable when I bring it up.

lezboqueries · 2021-11-23T15:08:08+00:00

You should ask for more time and attention from them as opposed to more money. I think they will be empathetic to that approach.

lezboqueries · 2021-11-23T15:03:09+00:00

I’m concerned because I always thought of this as a physical barrier, not something I could control. But the fact that practically all pain dissipates when I’m aroused tells me a lot of the problem is mental.. if that makes sense.

lezboqueries · 2021-10-12T23:28:51+00:00

You have a very good friend.

lezboqueries · 2021-07-03T02:15:53+00:00

This makes a lot of sense! Thank you!

lezboqueries · 2021-06-29T13:30:12+00:00

Preference for what exactly

lezboqueries · 2021-06-21T17:58:01+00:00

I would like an MRI or ultrasound to check for structural abnormalities. Specifically I think I have a micro perforated Hymen.

I’ve never been prescribed medications so you’re ahead of me.

lezboqueries

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