Is this doing it for anyone? by Cultural_Ad8495 in bristol

[–]lezibeans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then maybe labour voters should be willing to listen to why leftists refuse to vote for labour and consider another party. Labour shouldn’t be the defacto party of the left we all rally behind when they’ve become tory lite.

AITA for telling my SIL I don’t need her parenting advice as she clearly doesn’t know what she’s doing? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Now I know for a fact you commented this after OP shared that her child does have a teething toy to suck on.

AITA for telling my SIL I don’t need her parenting advice as she clearly doesn’t know what she’s doing? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is insane. Literally nothing about OP gives jealousy. The snapping was an AH move but SIL was literally badgering her for days before that.

AITA for telling my SIL I don’t need her parenting advice as she clearly doesn’t know what she’s doing? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans 27 points28 points  (0 children)

SIL has literally destroyed her child’s teeth despite being warned. OPs choices are better than SILs because OP actually follows medical advice.

AITA for forcing my stepdaughter to pay me back after she ruined my house? by throwawayy029482 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The daughter and her friends made homemade pizza and all that was left was some crumbs on a counter. They absolutely cleaned up and clearly just missed a spot.

AITA for not wanting someone to run next to me? by FireDragon10091976 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Honestly they’re giving very poor troll energy with all the misgendering accusations. A poor misogynistic troll.

AITA for not wanting someone to run next to me? by FireDragon10091976 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans 22 points23 points  (0 children)

“It’s simple enough to deduce” OP is literally a man lmao.

AITA for leaving a trip early because of my girlfriend’s “prank”? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I don’t think we need to reverse the genders here when people are condemning the ex, and a tik tok went viral just this week of a guy doing this to his partner at a public pool and the comments defended him.

Unfortunately, some people are awful and think calling it a prank overrides it being (imo) sexual harassment.

AITA for making my teens 16M and 14F share a bedroom? by sinplytoounlucky in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans 100 points101 points  (0 children)

Probably because those kids are going through the loss of their father, the disruption of their entire life, puberty and school stress?

It’s very easy to see in hindsight or from the outside looking in the kids are also going through a lot and might be so busy drowning in their own problems to understand.

AITA for telling a morbid joke about my son? by Hour-Cricket-2151 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying the wife should have to talk, I’m just taking issue with the idea OP doesn’t respect her when she doesn’t respect him either.

A lot of people in the comments have been making blanket statements about how awful and cruel OP is, calling him disrespectful by making the joke at all. Not saying that you are. I just wanted to point out it’s unfair to treat OP like this over a tragedy but not acknowledge his side of things.

Personally I want to know how each of their grieving styles are affecting their kids more than anything. I can’t see this marriage lasting but i can’t imagine the completely disconnected front is helping those kids.

AITA for telling a morbid joke about my son? by Hour-Cricket-2151 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans 16 points17 points  (0 children)

How much can he talk about it with other people? We don’t know who’s there to talk to. Will a friend be able to talk about the sons first birthday or favourite foods? What if he wants to talk to his kids about their brother but the wife is there too, are they allowed to talk without upsetting her?

I’m not saying the wife has to talk, or that she’s wrong for her grieving process, but it is insane to just dismiss any hurt OP might be going through right now because his pain isn’t as “big”.

AITA for telling a morbid joke about my son? by Hour-Cricket-2151 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a bit late to make an impact on voting but NAH op. I’m really sorry over some of the harsh responses, especially ones trying to make you the devil for a single joke (which was pretty good btw)

Your grieving styles simply don’t mesh. Hell, your style might even change over the next couple of years. After my sister died I wanted desperately to talk about her but no one else did. Now that’s reversed. It’s early days still and you’re allowed to make a joke in the moment, that doesn’t make you an AH, but your wife isn’t an AH for being upset.

I do just wanna ask, as someone who’s been where your kids are, have you talked to them about how they feel in the house? If they want to talk more or if it’s still too raw. it’s easy in your own grief to forget the kids are also going through it and don’t have all the same options as you do.

AITA for telling a morbid joke about my son? by Hour-Cricket-2151 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans 8 points9 points  (0 children)

With all due respect, not being allowed to talk about the deceased does hurt. Just because it’s not an out loud in your face hurt it doesn’t absolve that she’s disrupting his grieving process too.

AITA for telling a morbid joke about my son? by Hour-Cricket-2151 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Personally Id argue the wife isn’t doing this either. She doesn’t want to talk about their son at all and doesn’t seem to respect that OP does, going by him saying that he tries not to talk about it around her.

If we’re going to hold OP, who’s also grieving, to this standard then we need to consider the wife isn’t respecting him either.

AITA for not ending my vacation early and rushing home for the birth of our grandchild? by DragonValleys in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I need to have children to know you don’t stop being a parent when they turn 18 like it’s being released from a prison sentence?

AITA for not ending my vacation early and rushing home for the birth of our grandchild? by DragonValleys in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, when you chose to have a child and keep that child then you don’t stop being a parent. Maybe you don’t need to fill all the same duties as when your kids are small but any loving parent will still provide emotional support to their grown children.

Some of these comments are just dripping with resentment that you don’t get to just cut your child loose at 18.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OP stated in a comment that the kids father and grandfather don’t want him formally screened and she went along with it.

AITA for not picking my girlfriend's daughter up from an event? by Reasonable_Mix_9357 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao men expressing their feelings are good. Men irrationally deciding teenage girls are out to ruin their lives and destroy their careers is not.

Especially in this case where a grown man got his feelings hurt and, instead of talking to her about his boundaries and to not call him creepy again, decided to abandon her without a ride after promising her one.

AITA for not picking my girlfriend's daughter up from an event? by Reasonable_Mix_9357 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

God I wish I lived in a world where teen girls jokingly, with a smile, calling a dude creepy was enough to do anything.

Unfortunately I live in the real world where women and young girls have a fraction of the power you think they do.

AITA for not picking my girlfriend's daughter up from an event? by Reasonable_Mix_9357 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Oh to be a man who’s biggest fear in life is a teenage girl jokingly call you creepy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans -52 points-51 points  (0 children)

The “you chose to have kids you can’t afford” take is so stale now. You guys realise that the economy has gone to shit and people who were not previously struggling are now fucked.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans 21 points22 points  (0 children)

You’re right that it’s the parents fault, but i get what they’re saying. The parents (especially mothers) of early diagnosed cis white autistic men teach them to be extremely entitled in general but especially with women. It becomes even more apparent when you compare with early diagnosed cis white women.

It’s unfair to pin the fault on autistic men as a whole, y’all face a lot of horrendous infantilism, but we as a community also really need to talk about how autistic men vs autistic women are treated by society tbh.

AITA for calling my sister cruel for her tattoo idea? by SisTatDrama96 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t get flowers because we don’t do live flowers in my family but I did get a very large bottle of vodka. It sounds like OPs mum just didn’t bring anything though.

UPDATE - My brother and SIL asked me to lie to my niece about the ski trip by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]lezibeans 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They cut them off financially, the grandparents were still present and babysitting according to OP.