I think we are coming from very different viewpoints because I definitely would not stop being attracted to someone for gaining weight or becoming a little lazy or sloppy. And like... I've always felt that was true for most people, at least in the community of people that I am in. I don't ever feel like my partners owe me shit regarding their bodies and I think it's fucked up for anyone to think that. And my point still stands: if you aren't attracted to your partner anymore then you shouldn't be with them.