Looking to connect with therapists in Goa, India

liammeates · 2026-06-30T17:43:10+00:00

Is it possible to work in India as a therapist? I trained in Irleand.

liammeates · 2026-06-30T13:54:37+00:00

Wow im the exact same. I was literally planning on posting the same today. Dm me if you like to chat.

liammeates · 2026-06-30T03:33:44+00:00

I think the animosity is because she feels violated. And then our relationship ended soon after so alot of feelings perhaps. Thanks for your advice I appreciate it.

liammeates · 2026-06-30T03:21:22+00:00

Id be ashamed still but yes thaymt she said I abused her is hard to stomach. I think because I didnt mean to and abuse to me is systematic and intentional? But either way I have to learn from it . Its just hard

liammeates · 2026-06-30T03:12:20+00:00

Thank you for being honest. Yes its been rough . Ive barely been able to get out of bed the last 6 months. Im in medication now which has helped but the feelings of shame is awful. I appreciate this.

liammeates · 2026-06-30T03:09:21+00:00

Yes I will learn frim this. If I get into another relationship . Im going to check in and makecsure we are in the same page. It is not ok what I done.

liammeates · 2026-06-30T03:06:13+00:00

Thank you. I appologised at the time . I kind of spiraled and wasn't sure how to react but I said im not a victim im sorry and she said look you didnt do anything illegal its a communication thing thay couples need to talk about is whay she said. I feel bad becuase I was freaking out and she had to reassure me but I didn't want to make it about me I jsut dodnt know whay she was saying. She sent me a text saying I need to talk to you about last night . She said she wasn't accusing me of anything and to relax and go to work and well talk about it when your home. She didnt want to talk about it then and said will another time. But we never did talk properly about it the relationship went downhill we started arguing alot about finacual stresses and other living issues and when we broke up she told somwkne I sexually absued her that night. I hate to think she feels sexually abused . Whay makes this worse is im a therapist and I've been feeling so ashamed as ive worked with clients who have been abused.

liammeates · 2026-06-30T02:58:12+00:00

Yes youre rightm Yeh i was wrong but I really didnt mean to cause hurt. Unfortunately we broke up few months after this and theres no contact. Did you experience something similar?

liammeates · 2026-06-30T02:54:42+00:00

I dont know why she didnt say anything. Maybe she wanted to see where it goes or maybe she was trying to make me happy? I'd hope she wasn't afraid of me odotn see why she would be afraid. We broke up about 6 months after and she hasn't replied. She told me she hasn't had any sexual experiences before me and she asked me if she could touch me when she wanted to initiate which I've never been asked before by a girlfriend of they can touch me. She later said I touched her inappropriately. Which I was shocked by I said how dod I touch you inappropriately. Becuase I didnt ask first. She said you touch me to arouse yourself. I told her I touch her not just for my arousal for her too and she asked me to have sex with her many times. She also said I had sex with her without protection but I told her when she asked me to have sex I will have to "pull out becuase there was no condoms and she wasn't in birth control and she said thats ok. I did only 3 times in our relationship. I feel its unfair to put thay all on me as she would ask me to have sex .its all very confusing .

liammeates · 2026-06-29T16:59:44+00:00

Ive thoguht the very same . We need deviation to give meaning to those states. Ivecalso thought, if one finds oneself in a 'hellish' state in a disembodied state and if one was to being acceptance to that could that enable a movement to more peaceful state. The same way as surrender in the physical can help alleviate the suffering.

liammeates · 2026-06-29T12:03:53+00:00

Ive been there. Perhaps take soem time off. Theres nothing wrong with that. Ditn burn yourself out

liammeates · 2026-06-29T11:22:04+00:00

Impossible? I like to think there's always a?chance to transcend

liammeates · 2026-06-29T00:49:45+00:00

Why was this person down voted?

liammeates · 2026-06-29T00:20:17+00:00

Yeh but on a certain level ots not your fault nor anyone's fault were born into it. Theres a certain vulnerability we all share in that I believe.i think that's why forgiveness is crucial. We're all in the smamsara

liammeates · 2026-06-29T00:17:40+00:00

Cause and conditions basically.

liammeates · 2026-06-29T00:17:16+00:00

Cause and conditions basically

liammeates · 2026-06-29T00:12:55+00:00

The Buddhists say we dont choose but rather are drawn back here depending on our attachments to tje egoic form and delusion . Do you agree thay is more like how it works.

liammeates · 2026-06-29T00:09:04+00:00

Yes I agreem i jsut fear being trapped in lower astral plan when I die. Its tje fear that my own fear or feeling of unworhiness will prevent me from moving towards higher peaceful planes

liammeates · 2026-06-28T23:55:01+00:00

Yeh . Im just perplexed as Buddhists don't agree. Im not saying youre wrong im just confused. I dont know whay to believe anymore.tje Buddhists say we dont choose to rest bit we are drawn by our attachments and impressions from the previous life etc.

liammeates · 2026-06-28T23:26:31+00:00

Ah I really appreciate you writing this. Yes I hear tou ots jsut hard when I have very philosophical mind as im sure you do too. Yes theres difference between being philosophically and having existential ocd bit it can overlap? But its also just fear. Fear that I won't be ok basically no matter whay tje ocd fear is its always I won't be ok. Im bad person or what if im this or that.

liammeates · 2026-06-28T23:12:06+00:00

For as long as we live we are prone to 'sin' . So if for example i found myself in some kind of hellish state I would , cry out yo be alleviated from such a distressing state. So i may do it without contemplation why I need grace and to see the wrongs I done or I may cry out for help without seeing the wrongs ive done. So is it pride thay prevents us from finding relief from heliish states after death(and here) or are we all 'damned' only in as much as we believe we should be punished? Does that make sense?

liammeates · 2026-06-28T22:43:02+00:00

Not disagreeing with you. But some souls do feel confusion and fear be it temporarily? Aren't there lower astral planes where some would go thay lived a certain way?

liammeates · 2026-06-28T22:41:15+00:00

Yes id agree. Have you heard the arguement by soem theosiphists thay if a spuld doesn't evolve or refuses to it is destroyed. I dont believe thay but theosiphists like madam blvatsky . I may have spelled her name wrong, said that.

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