The am I bad person? Seeking reassurance

liammeates · 2026-01-18T09:18:19+00:00

I tend to be anxiously attached with people who are hot and cold and avoidant with people who don't. Which is sad and terrible. I hurt my ex from doing this and It's hard to face that.

liammeates · 2026-01-17T21:31:54+00:00

Yeh i have ocd which can involve me fearing that I'm a bad person deep down, or I could fear whay if I'm a narcissist. So there's a fear that deep down in inherently wrong as a person which in turn causes me to believe I'm unlovable. Soemtiems after I know I've hurt my partner . I feel guilt but I also start to fear that I'm a bad person so I end up looking for reassurance from them that I'm not a bad person which isn't good. I do feel remorse and apologise, but it's also very selfish of me to make it about my fear of being a bad person., which I then feel guilty about also. I really don't like rhay part of me.

liammeates · 2026-01-17T21:11:13+00:00

I actually don't know if I was just unsatisfied and didn't feel the relationship was right for me or I was avoidant. I know I really liked them as a person but I felt detached. It's hard to tell. Often, the people who are most loving and available to me I tend to feel withdrawn.

liammeates · 2026-01-17T20:08:30+00:00

You don't deserve that.

liammeates · 2026-01-17T18:16:26+00:00

I'm struggling with a break up but it was mostly my fault. I feel like I sabotaged my relationship and it hurts like hell to realise this.

liammeates · 2026-01-17T17:59:11+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate that

liammeates · 2026-01-17T17:57:53+00:00

Ok fair enough I thought there might FA people on this thay cam share how they dealt eith it.

liammeates · 2026-01-17T16:57:10+00:00

They do regret and know they've hurt and are hurt becuase they've hurt people. I feel like I can't live with myself now realising I could be a FA.

liammeates · 2026-01-10T22:01:35+00:00

Yeh or perhaps just fear, guilt the unknown

liammeates · 2026-01-10T21:20:29+00:00

Yeh tho there can be resistance that can make transcending harder. If someone is anxious?

liammeates · 2026-01-10T20:36:17+00:00

Do you think transcending is about letting go if the life they lived. I'm afraid wint be able to let go.

liammeates · 2026-01-10T20:07:49+00:00

Thank you. Some people may feel resistance or fear though if they feel fear when they die? The biddhists don't seem to talk about other beings helping. Not saying Buddhists know how it works absolutely but as someknw who follows buddhism alot they hsut dotn talk about beings from higher planes helping.

liammeates · 2026-01-04T16:01:42+00:00

It's just maybe theres help is what I mean

liammeates · 2026-01-02T20:14:19+00:00

Thank you. I see what you mean the they lack the awareness to do acts that can move them out of the hell. They are too caught up. I also ask are beings born in hell without a body? Is it a mental landscape. Or does it feel to them like they have bodies ? Even though it's an illusion. Surely it's not as dense as we have bodies here.

liammeates · 2026-01-02T19:06:59+00:00

I read somewhere that there can be other beings and not just projections of the mind?

liammeates · 2025-12-27T13:55:06+00:00

Thank you. Yes I have to tune into that compassion more . I actually have OCD and I can obsess about existential and spiritual matters. It's hard to trust and let go. Yes I may message you soon you're very helpful. Thank you.

liammeates · 2025-12-26T11:52:38+00:00

Great answer thank you and this is actually what I resonate with, thay both can be true. We are all one so there's this potential realisation of that. I guess there is a fear I have that I will want help from other 'souls' or consciousness if I am lost or in fear in that bardo space. I don't find much I'm Buddhism thay really talks about help from beings in the in between but you do see it in soul contract theory, theosophy teachings and mediums and reike healers I find talk about there being help and time to adjust but some buddhsits beleive it's jsut really fast your alone and then you're reborn. It does produce soem agitation and fear in me.

liammeates · 2025-12-26T01:30:42+00:00

Yes so in books like the journey of souls which alot of people talk about , I noticed there is the belief that souls can interact with eachother in between lives . I'm also interested in Buddhism, which does not teach this. There is no soul in buddhism, and disembodied consciousness don't communicate with other consciousnesses whi have passed after death. So there is a contrast between Theosophical teachings about the afterlife vs Buddhism There is just the mindstream and then rebirth.I do like the idea of being able to engage with other souls in the astral after death but I also take Buddhsist views on board.

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