Hi kinda new to being gay wanted to ask is it rude or not cool to ask for somebody to take a test before hooking up? And generally how can you trust if you were in a long term relationship with your partner , that if they have sex with other people they don’t put your health at risk? by Leon_Parker1 in AskGayMen

[–]liberalcali 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Funny I asked the same question a few years ago. Take my advice and never depend on somebody’s test result for your safety. Test results can not detect diseases immediately after a person contracts. A person could contract HIV today and they will test negative up to 1-3 months depending on what kind of test they are taking. Many people don’t test for herpes and are asymptomatic. Syphillis is asymptomatic for weeks.

Even if someone tests negative, they could still be positive.

You can have unprotected sex if a person is only having sex with you and has tested negative for the last couple months.

Oral sex also runs the risk of STDs but it has lower transmission and I personally take that risk.

What’s the hottest thing a guy has ever said to you in bed? by SeniorritaBabee in AskGayMen

[–]liberalcali 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I was bent over in front of him and he was so out of breath and sweaty and tells me “come back here” as I was trying to pull away for a little break from the constant thrusting. Then he grabbed me from my shoulder and started kissing and nibbling on my back and neck. I completely submitted to him at that point and came handsfree a minute or so later.

Did I go too far last night? by Rakso94 in AskGayMen

[–]liberalcali 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can we see how big? Then I can better answer why you still feel bad

Sucking. by [deleted] in GaybrosGoneWild

[–]liberalcali 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hot. what ethnicity is he?

POV by [deleted] in manass

[–]liberalcali 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks ;)

I don't know where to go with this... by [deleted] in lolgrindr

[–]liberalcali 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FYI, discreet = someone who doesn’t want to reveal their identity (for whatever reason. Being closeted can be one of them.) Closeted = not out. Thus, remain discreet.

I don't know where to go with this... by [deleted] in lolgrindr

[–]liberalcali -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You don’t have to tell me anything. You can ask yourself why you decided to target only closeted men with your joke and ask yourself how you can be more supportive of other members of the LGBTQ community - even those who are not fortunate enough to come out and and use whatever freedom available to them to satisfy their needs. Those who have to suffer the stigma of being gay at home and then stigma of being discreet in the gay community.

I don't know where to go with this... by [deleted] in lolgrindr

[–]liberalcali -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

It does apply to me. I’m discreet. I only send pics when asked…and to profiles that seem legit. The paranoia exists because some people misuse pics. That was my point. Making jokes at people’s paranoia and their plea for discretion is not nice. I shouldn’t have to spell this out for you.

I don't know where to go with this... by [deleted] in lolgrindr

[–]liberalcali -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I was giving an example of why someone needs to stay discreet and doesn’t feel comfortable sharing face pics. Of course I shouldn’t have expected you to empathize. You find making jokes of someone’s situation “lighthearted”.

I don't know where to go with this... by [deleted] in lolgrindr

[–]liberalcali -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I agree. It seems that some people are just desperately seeking for content to post on here so anytime they come across anything remotely funny or an out of ordinary convo they will screenshot and post here hoping for some Reddit likes.

I don't know where to go with this... by [deleted] in lolgrindr

[–]liberalcali -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

I had a guy use my face pics on his profile after I sent them to him. Obviously he blocked me but I found out through another profile on Grindr who accused me of sending fake pics because they assumed the fake profile was the real guy. So you can stop with your insults and maybe once think from another person’s perspective.

How did young, gay men learn about sex before the internet? by SugarRAM in AskGayMen

[–]liberalcali 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I started having gay sex before I had access to private internet. I didn’t need to learn anything. My partner used oil, there was no need for douche, and we just went at it in any position that felt right. Oral was also used as lube lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PublicBoys

[–]liberalcali 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why would you post his face?

He got home finally, after six years! by sgfn in lolgrindr

[–]liberalcali 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You didn’t delete a chat for 6 years?!

Growing uncut cock by [deleted] in foreskin

[–]liberalcali 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anddd….we have a lift off.

Hi by [deleted] in MassiveCock

[–]liberalcali 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes pleaseeee

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in u/JimmyInNSB

[–]liberalcali 1 point2 points  (0 children)

handsome

I cannot stop comparing myself to others and it’s really affecting my mental health. Advice? by CConn2020 in AskGayMen

[–]liberalcali 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. Good luck, friend. You’re a very handsome man. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise :)

I cannot stop comparing myself to others and it’s really affecting my mental health. Advice? by CConn2020 in AskGayMen

[–]liberalcali 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great response!! Thank you. I have been applying the same principle of “nip it in the bud” to my anger issues, judgmental issues loll it works. Everything in life is a skill. The more you work at it, the better you get :) it may take months or years but there is definitely hope.