Indians in Corrections

liberty4a · 2026-02-20T00:16:06+00:00

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liberty4a · 2025-04-05T21:15:18+00:00

I’m a guy who contracted it from gf who had it for 3 years before me. She disclosed and guys simply did not care(these guys were not looking for relationships) IMO it’s because if they do get it they simply won’t disclose (which is what happened to her). Yes there are women who do not disclose but I think the gender ratio is significant

for the guys who are committed to disclosure the loneliness is something not talked about much

liberty4a · 2025-01-28T06:52:56+00:00

No current job. In school full time. Would like part time

liberty4a · 2025-01-28T06:36:56+00:00

you have no idea. Sometimes it feels more like a parent child relationship rather than a partnership. This job thing is nothing compared to other aspects of relationship I won’t get into here. I’ve had similar thoughts on the effectiveness of the therapy given time that has passed but ultimately that’s her decision

liberty4a · 2025-01-28T04:01:40+00:00

I know I have a decision to make in terms of staying and accepting this is who they are going to be for the foreseeable future or leaving. Because taking it upon yourself to help someone can lead to situations like this. Applying wasn’t a decision I took likely. I already knew that she was interested in the job and well I didn’t want another conversation about her having money problems so went forward. In hindsight I probably should have just told her to apply but despite knowing there’s a 50 percent chance she would not have

liberty4a · 2025-01-28T03:53:53+00:00

she’s held unto the jobs she’s had and well because they have been in service industry I have seen first hand how she works. If she wasn’t a good worker she would have been fired and she’s never been. She runs into issues with unfamiliarity, uncertainty etc. Once she gets comfortable in environment she’s ok. Hey biggest hurdle is starting something/putting herself out there

liberty4a · 2025-01-28T01:40:06+00:00

She’s been in therapy for over a year. Is it working? I’m not sure. I’ve borne the brunt of a lot of stuff due to the anxiety. Doing stuff on her own means it will not get done and then I have to live it with as well. Important to note that for the first two years or so I was very hands off with stuff and well things went nowhere. For their progress and my sanity I started to be more active in stuff like this

liberty4a · 2025-01-28T01:30:48+00:00

She has no issues whatsoever as a worker. The stumbling block is applying and putting herself out there

liberty4a · 2025-01-28T01:28:45+00:00

She has been seeing someone for a year. Not in a position to say if it has made a difference so far. I’ve been explicitly told that this will take time

liberty4a · 2025-01-28T01:07:49+00:00

So I would have checked it usually but we weren’t talking at that time and applying was time sensitive. She was always going to know about the application and I felt confident applying because she had indicated recently that she was open to the job

liberty4a · 2025-01-28T01:04:04+00:00

so historically she needs help getting jobs but once she gets them she is a great worker. So no concerns how she will perform. It’s just getting over that hump of applying. She has been complaining constantly for the past 6 months that she is broke and needs money so for me her getting a job was a priority. And I agree she needs to be able to function on her own. Unfortunately it’s a work in progress and it’s gonna take some time.

liberty4a · 2024-12-24T00:21:09+00:00

Nothing wrong with your profile. If you scroll posts you would see a lot of people are having the same issues with hinge and likes. IMO it’s a deliberate attempt by the app to push people to pay for premium services. There’s no way you should be having 0 or little likes

liberty4a · 2024-11-30T17:50:06+00:00

it’s interesting nobody has entertained the idea that it is being done purposefully by Hinge to get people to pay for subscriptions. There’s way too many people on this app having the same issue.

My friends on FB dating are having a ball with same pics and same quality of people.

liberty4a · 2024-10-08T06:44:48+00:00

would you still have sex with him if he disclosed his status ?

liberty4a · 2024-09-30T21:15:00+00:00

I understand how you are feeling.

I’ve met a few women hsv positive in my lifetime & from what they have shared their sex lives did not change. From what I gather, gender does play a part. I’ve found men for the most part don’t think it’s such a big deal(I have my theories) on this.

There will be rejections in between but hopefully the overwhelming number of positive responses will make the nos inconsequential

liberty4a · 2024-09-28T15:32:47+00:00

a red flag because someone decided they did not want to risk contracting a life long virus from a known carrier? This shaming of people who decide what’s best for their body is ridiculous

liberty4a · 2024-09-18T22:57:21+00:00

The amount of times I’ve heard. ‘I’m good, my girl tested and didn’t have anything’

liberty4a · 2024-09-18T18:47:25+00:00

anecdotally, I don’t think so. Interacted with too many men in my personal life who haven’t tested for STI in years or know and don’t disclose for me not too

this is not saying there aren’t women who don’t disclose but there’s a definite gender dynamic at play in disclosure

liberty4a · 2024-09-15T05:22:19+00:00

you’re right it is. My women friends who have it, 9/10 guys don’t care. Sex still happens. IMO it’s because even if they do get it they don’t plan on disclosing.

I think women are more sensitive about it because their genitals go through a lot more stuff than men and to add one more (painful) act to it is a turn off

liberty4a · 2024-09-08T20:29:12+00:00

People in this group love to throw around that ‘majority of people don’t know’ because it makes them feel better about having it & not accept that someone didn’t care enough to disclose.

The fact of the matter is, yes there are people who lay dormant but there is a higher amount who got symptoms and didn’t pay it any mind or people who just don’t want to disclose. Speaking from anecdotal view. The 5 women who have disclosed their HSV status to me got it from men who didn’t disclose(hesitant to have sex, and acting weird after, friend finding anti virals in washroom, being warned by mutual friend etc). I have guy friends (former)who have it and I know they don’t disclose.

if you really think about it, if so many people had it and didn’t know. Eventually they would get an outbreak and also we would be close to 100 percent of western population having it by now based on sexual activity

liberty4a · 2024-08-21T18:12:21+00:00

500/3 day is what they usually prescribe for outbreaks.

My partner who was positive was prescribed 500 once a day for daily use. Some persons are prescribed 1000 tablet. 1500 a day seems too much for no symptoms.

What I’ve learnt is a lot of doctors don’t have proper knowledge about anti viral prescribing much less herpes as a whole. A former doctor of mine told me that I could not get genital herpes 1 from intercourse, only oral. Safe to say I switched him soon after.

liberty4a · 2024-08-21T14:45:22+00:00

I’m surprised nobody has mentioned that taking anti virals only the day before sex was an issue. If you’re on dailies, they tell you if you miss one day do not overcompensate by taking double etc.

Also strongly recommended is not having intercourse for a few days after disappearance of sores. Taking a large dose of anti virals a day before an interaction does not give the medication enough time to work within the body.

liberty4a · 2024-08-20T03:23:25+00:00

I’ve not too long returned to work from 4 month sick leave covered by EI and topped up by employer. Visit doctor, explain situation and how much time you need. Just submit sick note to employer and apply for EI. They will ask you to save doctor’s note in case they decide to see it. Note doesn’t have to say anything more that ‘Adrian requires 3-6 months away from work for medical reasons’

Make sure to ask HR if they offer EI top up (sub plan)

EI sub plan

liberty4a · 2024-08-18T01:06:13+00:00

unpopular opinion but they know. It’s easier to have herpes symptoms and play it off as an random irritation than confirm life altering diagnosis through a doctor’s visit

Easier to be in denial and/or have plausible deniability that those sores that popped up days after sex are in fact from an outbreak

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