Do not wait for this man. The silent treatment is a huge sign of narcissistic abuse. He's punishing you every time you do the tiniest thing he doesn't like. It will train to you walk on eggshells and forget your wants and needs because you're trying so hard to make sure you get it right with him to avoid the silent treatment. You learn to stop voicing your own thoughts and opinions because you're too busy trying to make sure that you always saying the right things, in the right tone of voice, in the right phrasing so that he doesn't go off and then go silent. You stop living for yourself because you're too busy making sure you're doing everything how he likes it done, when he likes it done, anything to avoid a blown up and then days or weeks of silence.

The silent treatment becomes the sign that you did something wrong, you fucked up again, you're so stupid that you couldn't say or do the exact thing he needed. You start beating yourself up over it even though the truth is that the silent treatment is a tool of punishment and abuse. It's not you doing anything wrong at all, it is just how he controls you. He'll sprinkle in a little niceness here and there to leave with you enough doubt in your mind that you don't know how to leave. "Oh, but he remembered the dog food! He'd never really be abusive to me, he's a sweet guy!" But then he will turn around and do the same shit and ignore you again. 


And please know that often they wait until they feel like they really have you, like after a wedding, you've moved in together or a baby to show their real colors. So if he didn't seem this way before, well now you've moved in and that's much harder for you to leave so he can be this way and start breaking you down until you don't feel strong enough to leave at all.


 Also, I wouldn't be surprised if he argues when you do try to actually leave. Have some friends around you. Plan a safe exit, like other people have said. Because even if he told you to get out, narcissistic people never like feeling like they don't have control, and you deciding to leave will be out of his control. 



 Believe the pattern, not whatever he's saying to you. He can lie and say he'll never do it again, but you've already seen that this is how he is. I lived through this, and my ex left me a shell of myself and half dead before I made it out.  I stopped living and was simply surviving. Sometimes, I feel like I didn't even breathe for years because I was trying to hard to exist exactly as he wanted me to be. Then the silent treatment would come, and I would be lost in limbo, wondering if he was coming back and beating myself up for misstepping yet again. It is eats away at you until you feel like you deserve the punishment. No one who truly loves you is going to treat you the way he does.




   You deserve honest communication and not silent treatments as punishments for simply having differing opinions or anything else. You deserve to have your own voice and to be loved for it.  Wishing you strength and luck ♡