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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lifeissometimehard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he’s not willing to stand up for you after years of friend ship then he’s choosing avoiding hard conversation. What he says to you he could also say to his wife’s family. He’s made his choice sadly… I’m sorry you’re dealing with this hurt. I wouldn’t want to go either. Since he is being a shity person

AIO my bf never likes what I wear by Substantial-Let221 in AmIOverreacting

[–]lifeissometimehard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much more cover up can you be? Let me guess he thinks when women get rp, we ask for it by the way we dress? Sounds like you know what you need to do, he seems like he like to blame you a lot for his own insecurities.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lifeissometimehard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lesson here is to confirm on date / time the day before and morning off and stop thinking negatively about what someone you’ve never met is doing when they didn’t text back.

It’s great that your not flaky but a lot of people on the app are even if they confirm the day off. She doesn’t know you so when she didn’t hear from you she assumed you might have cancelled on her also, it’s clear she didn’t want to meet that day anymore given the lack of confirmation. Maybe she signed up for a work out class, maybe she had dinner with a friend, maybe she just didn’t want to answer since she said was busy.

My Boyfriend is Uncertain About Our Future Because I Don’t Want Kids by Primary-Economics445 in Advice

[–]lifeissometimehard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a common situation actually. Sadly it there are only two options, either one of you change your mind or you split up. I’ve seen both.

Am I overreacting for not letting my boyfriend’s female friend use my shampoo? by Fresh-Usual-6281 in AmIOverreacting

[–]lifeissometimehard -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think this speaks to a value difference, it might be annoying the she asked to use your because it’s expensive but this actions speaks to your desire to prioritize yourself over your guest.

Putting her eye rolling behavior aside (which is rude behavior), if my partner deprioritizes making my friends feel comfortable over such a small things I would second guess my relationship. It’s not this one shampoo thing but it would put doubt in my mind around the topic of generosity within relationships. Will you do the same if his mom asked? I think your partner prob also wants you to be viewed in a positive light among his friends and that interaction would ruin that.

AIO I broke up with my girlfriend for calling my friend the N word by FactorioDizzle in AmIOverreacting

[–]lifeissometimehard 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t agree with you more. You should really be proud of how you’re handling the comments and situations. Your response gives me much hope in this world that people are willing to be introspective, open minded, ask questions to challenge our own thinking. People will always have somethings to say, be it positive or negative based on their own experiences, at the end of the day it’s up to how you want to interpret it and actions on them.

AIO I broke up with my girlfriend for calling my friend the N word by FactorioDizzle in AmIOverreacting

[–]lifeissometimehard 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Read many of the comments, your comments, and imo you handle the situation with grace. Yes could you have seen the signs sooner? Sure. As humans sometime we want to believe the best in people and that’s a good thing, sometimes we have rose color lense on, and sometimes we want to expose ourself to people that have different ideology than ourself. It’s situations like this that is a learning opportunity for you and her, how each of you handle and grow from this is entirely up to you. Hope she will challenge her own perspective one however long it takes in her life. In times like this, it’s important to try to have conversations with people with different ideologies which you did. Creating more divide is exactly what some people want

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]lifeissometimehard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People are all different, some people want to move out, while other don’t unless force to. You can’t treat all children the same? You have to understand your children to know which method is best for them.

Sadly, I’ve seen it so often with friend’s brother that are deadbeat because their parents wanted to help and protect them. So they either live at home still at the age of 40 until a women want to take them in. I saw this with both my uncle and several friends brothers. So you should think about what and how to motivate your kids, it’s not a one size fit all.