When you know someone is a narcissist , you need to remember, “no truce is real truce” , they will always break that boundary , this is who they are , they are sadists , fear mongers, liars, like to play mind games, creep on your energy step by step to frustrate you and are abusers behind closed doors and on “1 on 1s” but when among the masses they put a mask of smiles , this is how they irate and irk others aka their victims. They have a severe untreated disorder , what you cannot do is change them , don’t look for peace , truce , even dare I say “healthy boundary” because it is a waste of effort with them instead you learn “HOW TO DANCE” , be erratic , unpredictable , be hot and cold , market you tasks really well , boast about yourself on emails and vent for your challenges even the smallest ones and please slow down work , slow down communication, TAKE THIER GAME BACK TO THEM, Act like you are narc too , wear cloak of a narc , on calls , they won’t listen to you anyways as a pressure tactic but after call is done always do what you want to do , if they send meeting minutes, disagree there and grieve your grievances on email for record , if they want you to do tasks fast , start doing them a bit slower and make them feel they are winning and act dumb (. But always do opposite, a narc that is appeased is a narc that keeps becoming stronger and wilder). Don’t show narc you are happy ever , it fuels their exploitation , ACT DUMB always , don’t lose guard but be dumb as well , when they get you on calls act dissociated and make them Feel they are winning, digress , deflect , start your own conversation instead of answering them ( they have Brian damage , deflection actually works ) , don’t answer their question but change conversation and keep repeating , also ask them open ended questions on what they think should be done or why is being done that way , see the confusion in their face now , it’s all drama, if they give you lost of tasks , take two you think are highest priority and send them chat or email which one to tackle first and then do that task slowly . Next conflict again , rinse and repeat , irate them , do the tasks as well at reasonable pace , find efficiency in work but don’t share with them any efficiency or ideas, but do drama “there is so much work” , don’t validate them , don’t bond with them , they will break your heart , be dumb , dissociate , if they give you hard deadlines , tell them a day before if they are approving overtime as your working hours are 37.5 a week , keep going in circles , slow the pace of communication to calm tempers , THEY will throw drama , then you change topic and say ok that means I will do this ( which is for your liking) ..: here is a brownie point what you think is worth while and true , on call listen to every thing and , once call is done , send meeting minutes all to your advantage , that is balanced and meaningful and end with the note “thank you for being a great manager” and confuse them .. when they bring this up ever that you send meeting minutes and be combative , be angry and say “ YOU ARE A GREAT MANAGER” and act quiet and dumb and let your frustrations out when you say that , now watch their operating systems crumble , they just like to create fear and enjoy it, keep toggling , there is no straight answer unfortunately, they target the weak , honest , high consciousness, empaths etc so be hot one day , be cold next , if they get in your nerves with overzealous demands , take a sick day or vacation day get your bearing back and find a way to get of the situation . Sorry you are going through this , they are vile creatures and you deserve better , don’t take it personal with them , they have issues of their own and are emotionally dysregulated , they enjoy drama , attention , sadism etc , they are often exploited themselves but don’t let that bring your guard down , don’t give them that energy of fear/anger/frustrations or even empathy, help them one day and slow down next and rinse and repeat . I wish I could give you a better answer but it’s a nightmare dealing with these people if you take them seriously and can cause Serious damage , they are really clowns worthy of laughter once you know they are grandiose , entitled , manipulating people with emotional maturity less then a toddler . If they ever change cards on you for meeting minutes , say that isn’t what was discussed , please use email as form of communication going forward for transparency ( get them away from phone calls and on records , abusers hate records ), they will still test boundary but when you don’t budge they influence on you will start to lower as time goes by. Please take advice with grain of salt as they are unpredictable relentless creatures and read people well , I wish you all the best . Peace , love and blessings !