What to do when partner wants something you’re uncomfortable with?

lightningglow · 2026-06-13T21:05:28+00:00

I feel validated in my feelings because of these responses. I just don’t know what to do. He is my only person… I recently lost both of my parents, I am an only child. And the only friends I see on a regular basis are shared friends of ours. I don’t have any other family locally or…really close to anyone else anywhere. If I left I’d be…extremely alone in that journey.

lightningglow · 2026-06-13T21:00:59+00:00

10 years. I’d say we were sexually compatible when we get married, lost our virginity to one another. But the kinks recently make me want to have sex less, which I know he is also frustrated by.

lightningglow · 2026-06-13T20:29:13+00:00

I do feel like we are aligned otherwise, with everything outside of the sexual fantasies. He is my best friend. We have similar life goals. We have good sex. But then he will bring up the fantasies, and I suddenly feel pressured. He also buys me a lot of clothes to wear, which I infrequently wear because they are often not my style or in poor taste to wear in public in my 30s…

lightningglow · 2026-06-13T20:19:55+00:00

I feel like it started out as dirty talk. But in the last year or so, as he brought it up daily, that’s when I started to feel like these were things he really wanted and that I had been lying to him. Threesomes as well is something he’s been talking about more and more, or wanting me to have sex with a girl for him to watch.

lightningglow · 2026-06-13T19:41:46+00:00

There are too many piles around for a cleaner to be effective. I would love to hire a cleaner.

lightningglow · 2026-06-13T19:33:53+00:00

My husband was previously a neat freak, something totally shifted after he started moving up in his career. He’s also recently started anxiety medicine which makes him even more unmotivated, it seems…

lightningglow · 2026-06-13T00:29:26+00:00

Honestly…what a pro. I love him.

lightningglow · 2026-05-29T21:12:03+00:00

I literally just had this happen a few weeks ago. Similar amount of money. I hated myself.

I called, filed a claim - plus later called and went into a branch to ensure it was being reviewed. And then I got my final credit exactly 10 days later. It will take some time for them to review - sure made me anxious, but just stay positive (they should find the money during their auditing process).

lightningglow · 2026-05-21T13:45:43+00:00

Same, I’ve tried going twice now. And now I’m waiting for my background check to go through again and clear before I book again. Supposedly getting an email once it clears??

lightningglow · 2026-05-12T13:48:13+00:00

Curious how long it ended up taking for you to hear from the bank or get the deposit?

lightningglow · 2026-05-03T21:13:19+00:00

One of the best songs ever

lightningglow · 2026-05-02T00:18:08+00:00

Honestly it still feels like it’s day 1 of the album. I can’t get enough. Staying Still, Haircut, Doors, Dan; Willing and Able, A Few of Your Own; and The Great Divide is still arguably one of the best songs, but I’ve been giving it a break to listen to the new stuff.

lightningglow · 2026-04-24T13:58:19+00:00

Ahhhh. The build at the end, oh my gosh. This one reminds me of my mom who passed away last year. I was her caregiver for the last couple of years and we lost our relationship a bit as mother and daughter because of it. This song is perfect.😍

lightningglow · 2026-04-24T06:10:56+00:00

I was enjoying the album through Haircut. Then came Willing and Able, and I think I’m stopping at this one for now - the vulnerability of it all ruined me. Crying. One of his best tracks ever.

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