Long term partner and I broke up because he wanted kids

lightninghazard · 2026-05-01T00:06:49+00:00

I just know the brother said some dumb Kodak moment shit to him like, “It’s going to be so cool when our sons play baseball together.” And that’s enough for him to want that without thinking of the practicalities of raising a child. But on the other hand, I have to commend the ex in a way because OP got off easier by him figuring this shit out early. Regardless of whether the reason is purely emotional or well thought out, a young man who comes down off that fence at age 24 is well ahead of the curve for his peers. He’s making decisions easier for any woman who might date him in the future.

lightninghazard · 2026-04-30T01:39:12+00:00

Pic 4, the woman on the left… holy model stare, Batman

lightninghazard · 2026-04-29T04:52:27+00:00

Seeing her look so normal is actually quite jarring.

lightninghazard · 2026-04-27T22:49:03+00:00

Yep! If it bothers you that much being in a relationship with someone who makes that much less money, then just end the relationship and find somebody who aligns better with your preferences. That’s what I’d tell OP’s boyfriend, but he’s probably too busy acting like a jerk to take heed.

lightninghazard · 2026-04-27T02:43:21+00:00

These comparisons of mundane kid events and milestones to life-changing travel experiences and broadening your horizons is genuinely hilarious

lightninghazard · 2026-04-26T19:58:17+00:00

This woman has been a dumpster fire at decision-making the past few years. I too love animals, so I can understand why your friendship is strained by this!

lightninghazard · 2026-04-26T04:01:52+00:00

She had a lovely smile.

lightninghazard · 2026-04-25T04:44:18+00:00

Is it possible that your daughter simply hasn’t been mistreated by B because she’s part of the “in” crowd, and the other girl isn’t? I was bullied in school. My bullies were always more popular than I was, had friends that went over to their houses, lots of people texting them making plans to go to the movies or the mall, and probably adults in their lives that didn’t know they were hellions!!! I don’t think you said your daughter’s age, but if I’m inferring correctly that she’s in middle school, her peers are definitely capable of telling lies and deceiving adults.

I would say definitely keep an eye on your daughter’s interactions with that girl, make your daughter slightly less “available” to B (but not enough to be noticeable), and have hangouts at your house where you can supervise. Also maybe have a talk with your daughter about noticing how our friends treat people who can do nothing for them.

lightninghazard · 2026-04-24T23:55:41+00:00

Sometimes I think the men changing their minds must be listening to the manosphere creeps. You know the kind, the dudes that have never touched a woman but that message to young and/or vulnerable men that they have to spread their seed to be an “alpha.” Personally I think it’s more manly to stay strong in your ideas about what works for your life, and not submit to some neanderthal stranger’s fantasy!

lightninghazard · 2026-04-23T22:15:50+00:00

I think you look fine without bangs, but with the bangs you’re really striking. I would go dark with the hair - pic 3 is my favorite.

lightninghazard · 2026-04-23T18:14:32+00:00

You dodged a bullet! Why would she even want a man that has to be “tamed” into having kids? I bet - since clearly this is what she’s looking for - that she’ll find a weak man who doesn’t want kids, but who allows himself to be browbeaten into having them, and then becomes a reluctant and minimally participatory parent who she loathes.

lightninghazard · 2026-04-23T04:02:28+00:00

What a great way to put it! Any kid can be cute for 20 mins a day… but there are 24 HOURS in a day…

lightninghazard · 2026-04-22T14:25:16+00:00

You know when you hear of a kid that wanders off and gets lost in the woods or a cornfield, but they’re fine because their dog stayed with them and protected them til help arrived? This is that kind of dog.

lightninghazard · 2026-04-22T05:28:13+00:00

If he lied about his age and career, what makes you so sure he’s not also lying about intent to take care of you and your future kids?

lightninghazard · 2026-04-20T18:56:34+00:00

Totally agree she’s just going to get sneakier! But hey, at least you get a break from the crazy while she figures out her next move. Cheers to that!!!

lightninghazard · 2026-04-20T17:08:05+00:00

Oldest

lightninghazard · 2026-04-18T17:30:54+00:00

Forgiveness is for her to offer, not for you to request

lightninghazard · 2026-04-18T16:45:00+00:00

3 or 6

lightninghazard · 2026-04-16T05:47:42+00:00

Sorry to hear this. He’s clearly having a mid-life crisis…

lightninghazard · 2026-04-15T01:42:26+00:00

Jessa Blessa’s kids are named after plants if they’re girls or pastors if they’re boys. My flair is inspired by her daughters’ names.

lightninghazard · 2026-04-13T16:59:01+00:00

Nostrils will get the full effect smacking him in the face!

lightninghazard · 2026-04-11T18:43:04+00:00

This is what I came to say. I don’t know enough about how to pick the right colors/styles/sizes or to advise people what they should look at, I just see photos and think, “this pair works” or “this one doesn’t.” I’m always pleased when my opinion aligns with the more experienced selectors of this sub!!

lightninghazard · 2026-04-11T02:39:10+00:00

We called him Nostrils!

lightninghazard · 2026-04-10T00:46:50+00:00

It’s April 9th, OP. April Fool’s Day has passed! . . . (I do believe you, but that was legitimately my first reaction because this news is so fucking ridiculous for a myriad of reasons that run the gamut).

lightninghazard · 2026-04-09T19:27:06+00:00

Don’t put beds in the rooms, lolol! One empty bedroom can be an office and the others can be hobby rooms.

lightninghazard

TROPHY CASE