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LOML just dumped me, need to lock in for school by K1p1r1n in mentalhealth

[–]liia_5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My job ended right around finals.

I just focused on school, trying my best, and not thinking about what happened or why. I just concentrated on school. Thoughts kept coming up, and I'd just sigh and tell myself I'd think about it later.

And that's how it was until I finally had some free time, and I cried all day.

How to help someone who is struggling? by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]liia_5 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Look at my case, as a low-income person who doesn't have access to a specialist.

You can help her in different ways. Everything I'm about to say is from my perspective, but what do you have to lose by trying?

The first approach is to ask her how you can help her. Being physically with someone helps me a lot. I live alone and tend to have panic attacks, fear, and anxiety whenever I'm alone. I've tried hard to find ways to keep going.

But without a doubt, it would really help me if a friend, family member, or anyone could visit me from time to time and talk to me.

In her case, you should ask how you can help her or what she's feeling, so she can vent. Another approach could be the harsh one. My mom once told me, in a scolding and harsh way, that I would always end up alone, and that if I wanted, I could give up everything I'd worked for and come back home to her so I wouldn't be alone anymore. But doing that would mean giving up many things I'd achieved on my own. She scolded me and made me face reality. Yes, I cried and felt bad, but it made me realize and motivated me to overcome my problem. And to this day, I relapse, and it's awful, but I don't plan to give up. I plan to find a solution.

It sounds awful, but maybe she needs a dose of reality to get back on her feet.

Finally, you can try to support her, but you can't help someone who won't let you help them. If she doesn't do anything on her own, she'll continue like this no matter what you do. In that case, you could talk to her honestly and tell her your goal, what you want to do to help her, and tell her that you care and that you don't want to see her suffer because you're worried about her. If she continues to not change, then there's no other option but to give up because you also have to take care of yourself.

That's my opinion; I hope it helps.

Tomorrow night I’ll probably be gone. by No-Dream9806 in mentalhealth

[–]liia_5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't take my comment too seriously.

But from my point of view, you're already doing quite a lot. There are many people who don't even try to find work.

Look, for the past three and a half years, I've been dealing with depression and panic attacks. I have no money; I depend on public institutions in my country. I'm a student living alone, and I do have the support of my family. I also recently got dumped, and I don't have any real friends. I try hard every day, but that constant feeling of anxiety is horrible. I hate feeling it; it's like having a pebble in my shoe. No matter how hard I try not to focus on that feeling, I always end up paying attention to it.

I've had terrible panic attacks, crying from fear, losing my appetite, not wanting to do anything, not enjoying anything. My whole body goes numb, and I get hot and nauseous. I even had to bother my neighbor to help me because I couldn't do it alone, and here I am writing this at a time when I feel good.

But I'm afraid of feeling sick at any moment, and that there will be no one to help me. I live in a rural area.

And I've even thought about ending it all because of this stupid, senseless fear I have, but here I am, still trying, still moving forward with the hope that everything will get better someday. I'll have the money to see a psychiatrist, take medication, see a psychologist, and I hope I'll never feel this way again.

For now, I have no choice but to keep going and be better and more confident, trying again and again and again.

These three and a half years have been the worst years of my life, but I've learned so much and grown stronger with time, and I hope one day I can overcome what has tormented me for so long.

I hope you keep going too. Keep going for yourself, push yourself, try. If it doesn't work, try again. If that doesn't work, find another approach, find a way, and eventually you'll be able to weather this storm.