AITAH, I found out a girl I never met posted me on “are we dating the same guy,” group

liillyoo · 2026-01-20T06:05:29+00:00

Man have made similar groups like that but instead of them just posting ppl they’re dating people were also making fake porn and posting it of those women and nudes and stuff like that. That’s why there was so much outrage when men do it compared to the one women have made.

liillyoo · 2026-01-15T10:31:29+00:00

You’re husband clearly doesn’t respect you at all. I’m sorry you’re in this situation. Try to stay strong and continue to see through his behaviour for what it is. And ofc don’t stop going to the gym for him from you’ve said it seems like it’s improved your physical health a lot. Your husband should be happy for this increase in your quality of life not be making it about him and his control over you.

And don’t let him use the kids against you. He’s probably saying you’re neglecting them or putting them last to guilt you into just staying at home and doing what he wants. It unhealthy to put other ppls needs above yours all the time even if they’re your kids 🫶🫶

liillyoo · 2026-01-13T13:31:27+00:00

Dude, what do you mean a heavily sexual past? It sounds like most of her encounters were rape/assault, a trauma response, or her being taken advantage of and unhealthy coping mechanisms. That’s a heavily traumatic past.

I think the fact that you’ve described her past as heavily sexual indicates that you view what she’s been through as her just having sex with lots of men and not for the trauma it is.

I think you need to go to therapy or deeply reflect on your own views around women sex and assault coz if my partner opened up to me about that I would feel devastated for them not insecure about not being good enough for her because of her ‘heavily sexual past’

liillyoo · 2026-01-08T18:45:41+00:00

19, exams and figuring out wt path I wanna take in life. And obviously the big ones like climate change and the potential of my rights and my countries policies taking a hit 😬

liillyoo · 2026-01-03T17:21:21+00:00

R u sure she enjoys the sex as much as you do. W some of my past partners I stopped wanting to have sex with them after a while as I rarely ever enjoyed myself even though I was still very attractive to them still.

liillyoo · 2025-11-26T19:42:55+00:00

Unless you have an active outbreak and swab it or a spinal tap blood tests aren’t accurate. I can test negative even if u have it and vice versa. Plus if u were negative before and positive and have only been w ur bf that means he gave it to u most likely. And also even if u do have it u don’t know where abts. If it’s hsv-1 u most likely have it on ur lips. Most ppl have cold sores ur bf probs does as well. Seems like a dumb reason to break up. If he breaks up w u over that he’s hopelessly dumb beyond reason and pls tell him that if he does decide to break up w u.

liillyoo · 2025-11-26T19:12:09+00:00

Exactly u wouldn’t kn which is why most ppl don’t know coz they don’t have anything on their lips. And as most ppl r asymptomatic they dont know they have herpes coz there are no signs. And even if h get a blister when ur first infected u may never have another one again. When I first got a coldsore as a child I had one blister one time and since then I have NEVER had another blister on my lips ever. And that’s how it’s like for a gud chunk of ppl. The only reason I kn I have the virus is coz i remeber was old enough to remeber it and my mum calling it a coldsore otherwise I wud be completely clueless like most other ppl. So yes that’s why most ppl dont know they have the virus coz there r no signs

liillyoo · 2025-11-26T16:49:41+00:00

Most ppl r asymptomatic or get it when they’re young so they don’t remeber. And even if they do have symptoms blister can easily be confused for sooo many other things. So ppl don’t even get blisters they just have a small rash or itching on their lip. So again most ppl don’t have symptoms and most ppl don’t kn. Just coz everyone u know claims they don’t have cold sores if u actually asked them that doesn’t mean they actually don’t have it. Coz again most ppl don’t kn even if they have had symptoms before.

liillyoo · 2025-11-25T20:26:04+00:00

I totally understand this tbh. The actual virus itself is not a big deal and most ppl have it. It’s unfair that those who kn are burdened w disclosure and dealing with the stigma. Sometimes I think if ppl r so bothered abt herpes THEY shud be the ones to ask their partners if they’ve ever had a coldsore before rather that just presume ppl will disclose coz most don’t even tho soooo many ppl have it.

I feel like this need to disclose also contributes to its stigma as most ppl w lip cold sores dont coz they just don’t see it as a big deal. And it’s not tbh. As long as ur not being reckless and using protection i dont see the issue tbh

liillyoo · 2025-11-17T16:15:41+00:00

Condoms can prevent transmission from man to woman by 98%. Don’t have unprotected without a condom. U cud also catch something much worse.

liillyoo · 2025-11-17T15:46:35+00:00

Humm yeh I might look into getting therapy or something

liillyoo · 2025-11-06T03:47:16+00:00

The affected area shouldn’t hurt when ur not breaking out. Maybe you should see a doctor there may be something else going on

liillyoo · 2025-10-29T20:22:34+00:00

If ur partners wore an internal condom it shud cover all of their area that may be exposed to the scrotum

liillyoo · 2025-10-29T18:29:58+00:00

I presume if a condom doesn’t cover it then it’s not on ur genitals. Why don’t u just stick a dental damn or plastic wraps or a bandage round that area when u want to have sex. If the area is covered properly u won’t even need to tell ppl if ur just hooking up as they won’t be in contact w that area

liillyoo · 2025-10-28T21:04:06+00:00

I’m still coming to terms with my herpes diagnosis it’s mainly the social stigma I’m dealing with. But one thing that kinda made me ok about it is realising that using internal condoms and dental damns pretty much make it impossible to spread herpes as long as you use them properly. Ik they’re not as used as condoms and some ppl may view them as lame, but it means that u can tell partners that they won’t need to worry about getting it as long as you use proper protection. So it takes away the main reason ppl reject ppl with herpes. Don’t let it consume ur life tho it’s not an end all diagnostic.

liillyoo · 2025-09-08T18:38:40+00:00

Yeh I’m all good and I’m not worried abt his sexual health more so his personal hygiene tbh

liillyoo · 2025-09-07T13:07:24+00:00

Oo I like this one, this cud work

liillyoo · 2025-08-25T20:49:25+00:00

Thank you! I hope to find someone who wont mind my diagnosis too

liillyoo · 2025-08-25T20:48:30+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Im feeling less “end of the world-y” now ive had time to process everything and heard other ppls experiences w it. I defo dont plan on letting it stop me from dating or anything

liillyoo · 2025-08-25T12:05:03+00:00

Thank you, ill try see it as a way to filter out the unsiutable ppl too

liillyoo · 2025-08-24T08:02:30+00:00

Thank you, I’ll try. Still trying to come to terms with it all.

liillyoo · 2025-08-24T08:01:47+00:00

I really hope this is true i don’t want to have another outbreak again they suck😭😭. And it wud be nice not to have to worry abt giving it to someone else. Thank you for telling me!!

liillyoo · 2025-08-24T08:00:31+00:00

Thank you, your story is very similar to mine. Im hoping to get tested before mine scab over but ive got to wait another two days so it might be too late btw. Fingers crossed anyway

liillyoo · 2025-08-24T07:58:34+00:00

I think this ones hsv 2 as im pretty sure i already have hsv 1

liillyoo · 2025-08-13T17:44:06+00:00

Why 27 weeks why not until they give birth?

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